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People need to post about nothing, people need to rec for their side hustle .
LilBit is still gone, she doesn't matter in DU
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obamanut2012
(27,291 posts)Or anyone.
kozar
(2,486 posts)Back in the day, we didn't offer,off the cuff advice, we worked together.
Now that there are kids posted, and no solid conversations, might be time for me to leave DU, if you can answer one question.
What is a Democrat?
Koz
bigtree
(88,631 posts)...each of us brings our own collection of these to the party to advantage ourselves of the political elevation it provides to hopefully advance our initiatives into action or law.
The party is also a defense against the republican fascists.
...and, man, LilBit.
A Democrat is a person who cares about people, communities and the environment. A republican is a person who cares about acquiring wealth, and rejecting democratic values.
obamanut2012
(27,291 posts)Polly Hennessey
(7,166 posts)to us. DU is always here for you. You are going through a tremendous loss; take your time. LilGlad is also by your side.
kozar
(2,486 posts)She is gone, I am truly alone now, Glad won't help me I gave my life to,MrsK and LilBit,
Now I have nothing
debm55
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Duncanpup
(13,436 posts)Some days it feels like everything and everyone has moved on when youre deeply grieving. When my beautiful Becky died I couldnt fathom that the world went on turning and people around me went on living, because my very soul was shattered into a million pieces. Losing the biggest piece of your heart is not an easy thing to navigate. Im not sure where youre located but Id like to ask you to check and see if there is a chapter of The Compassionate Friends anywhere near you. Those wonderful people helped more than I have words to tell you. Its a group of people that have suffered the same loss of a child. Doesnt matter how or why or how old- they know exactly what youre going through and everyone is there to listen and help each other through the grief and devastation. Please try to find a group near you. I think it would be most helpful to you.
Marthe48
(18,289 posts)It is grief support for all. One of my friends posts from it and some of the posts are lifting.
Nittersing
(6,661 posts)question everything
(48,423 posts)was still alive, your struggle to care for her on your own and your final decision to set her in a home.
But when you first posted her passing yesterday
https://democraticunderground.com/100219238698
many commented and recommended.
And, perhaps, as others suggested you should try to find a professional to help you with the sorrow and the loss. You cannot, should not, look for DU for this.
debm55
(30,028 posts)ProfessorGAC
(68,108 posts)If you're grieving & feeling alone, cutting yourself off from others seems counterproductive.
Take a breath & reconsider.
Marthe48
(18,289 posts)I come to DU because there are people who see the world as I do. The bereavement group on DU helped me through the loss of my husband in 2017 and since. If I can post something comforting about loss, I do. Each of us is going to experience our grief in different ways. It took me almost 30 years to get past the grief I felt losing my younger brother. The one thing I read after all those years was a Mom saying, "Some things are unacceptable." About the loss of her child.
You have lost your family in a short time. You have a heavy load. I hope you find support and compassion that will help you find your way.
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Hekate
(93,384 posts)I know you already know where DUs Bereavement Group is, because you posted there this morning. But this is GD, and we cant be all things to all people all the time in this space.
We are your friends I see people giving you compassionate advice, and I see people being gentle with you. Please consider what they are telling you.
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debm55
(30,028 posts)kerry-is-my-prez
(8,652 posts)However, you must realize that most people here are not professionals and cannot be expected to know how to help you handle your grief. I actually am a psychiatric social worker and my advice to you is to reach out more to that type of community.
Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a volunteer Crisis Counselor. Its free and confidential 24/7 support. If you are feeling suicidal check yourself in to a mental health facility. You can also call or text the suicide hotline or chat there. Heres a link to the chat:
https://988lifeline.org/chat/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
A lot of people here are your friends, so keep in touch with them but dont expect them to know how to handle your grief.
Good luck, know that you have a lot of people here who care about you, but please reach out to people equipped to help you.