No words can change things, but I hope they can comfort you. Much love.❤️

Know that your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.

We are here...🙏❤️

Last year my wife of 49 years passed away. Telling others what happened was hard. I don’t know what to say except try to keep yourself going. It may seem like everything is expected of you. Things may seem like they have to be taken care of now. Like me you may have things that may seem to be addressed immediately. But try to give yourself time to help yourself.

in comfort and support!

I expect I speak for many who read your letter when I say how honored I am that you shared this with me.

My heart is with you. May peace find you and comfort you in the coming days.

As others here have said, we are all here for you.

🙏🙏

May you find comfort in knowing that others care!

with my husband of also 33 years.

No matter how much you expected this, you are going through shock now and you will be for a while. Please don’t worry about others right now. Everyone will be fine, and in my experience will be your best source of support. And if not, that’s ok . For right now take care of yourself because you will need strength to get through the coming year. So be a little selfish and give yourself time and rest and a good diet and some exercise. Like you took care of him, now you need to do for yourself.

I’m so sorry it will hurt a lot so buy ten boxes of Kleenex and keep water close by to rehydrate. And try to laugh as often as possible. It clears out the black clouds in your head.

Hugs to you…
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Thank you for sharing that.

and helped me get through the hardest year. We pass it on.

You're probably in shock at this point. Grief is handled by everyone in their own way and time period. Be kind to yourself. Write stuff down since there will be a lot of issues all at once and likely can't handle too much at this point. That's what I do when I'm overwhelmed.

I'll be thinking of you all.

Hugs

My sincerest condolences.

for all of it, his illness and now his passing …

My virtual arms are around you ((((((hugs))))))

My brother in law has Parkinson's. I see what is happening to him. So many stages of grief. 💙💙💙💙💙 Hugs and love to you

I pray for strength and the support of the loved ones around you to walk you through the days ahead. Love lasts forever, and may your lifetime of memories of him bring you peace.
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ty for your post

friends & family to hold you up while you deal with your grief & sadness & for your honey, safe journey home. Peace to you, family and your husband. Blessings of healing to all of you.

--as only love can.

So so sorry.

from a recent widower.

And it has been almost 6 months since my mom died suddenly -

And I still don't know how to feel. She had just been diagnosed with LEWY dementia.

I thought I had time.

I wish you comfort and peace at this time. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

May his memory always be for a blessing

The love you had for each other bring you peace and comfort.

May the good memories always comfort you .

For you and your family.

He died in his own home with you there and that is good thing. It doesn’t make it
hurt less but you did the right things. You helped him live over 10 years with Parkinson’s.

for your loss.

on the loss of your beloved husband. Sending you and your family hugs and love.

We are here for you.

And accept. ✨✨✨

Deepest sympathy

I hope you have a good support group and that your grieving process is bearable.

I hope you are able to get through the next few days and weeks with the best outcomes for your life. I'm glad your stepson is around to help.

Let him fly with the Angels even as you will feel the pain and miss his touch. But, you must go on for those around you. It's been 15 years since our Son was taken from us and the pain remains the same but we go on for those around us.

May God surround with his love and hold you safe in the palm of his hand.

And sympathy

I can't imagine the grief of having a life partner of so many years die.
All my best.

May he rest in peace.

to you and your son.

to have experienced the loss of your husband in such a sudden and brutal way. You may be flooded with feelings all of a sudden, or may be too numbed by the experience to not know what you feel for some time.
How to tell your friends and family is the next step. Don't be afraid to delegate. When my estranged husband of 33 years died suddenly --by his own hand--I had just sent Christmas/holiday cards/notes to people scattered all over the country. I made a two sided card--using Shutterfly --to create an In Memory Of announcement. I had my sons call family members. People will not know what to say and they can sometimes say things you won't want to hear. Don't be afraid to give yourself some space and let people help you with all the steps of formally saying goodbye to your husband if you decide to have a funeral or celebration of life gathering.
Breathe. Just breathe and know there is always someone here at DU to listen or engage in conversation.
I am so sorry for your loss.

He's at peace. May you find it.

Sending you much love and light.

and your son with him. Hold on to each other and remember the good times you had together. May the angels hold you aloft during this time of sorrow.

Please be gentle with yourself as grieving is hard work, mentally, emotionally, & physically.

the loss of your beloved husband.

So sorry to hear of your loss. Even if it's not a surprise, it still hurts. Sending you hugs and prayers o5f comfort and strength.

Deepest condolences

There are no words for this. All the best to you all.

...I am so very sorry. Please let us know any way we can help.

(((hugs)))

somehow some way. It sounds like this part of your life has been very hard to get through and will take some time to heal from. Maybe you never heal, but it does get better day by day. I hope you don't think of this as words of wisdom, which you said you don't want. Consider it one older woman talking to another. Take care.

I can't imagine how you're feeling right now. Follow your heart and intuition with regard to requesting an autopsy.

My heartfelt sympathies.

I am grateful you could share this with us; holding you and your family in my heart. My sincere condolences.

Lost your husband to such an awful disease.

My DIL’ Father suffered the same. It was awful to see a really good,, caring man suffer.

I hope you have the strength to get through. Keep in mind he is not suffering now and think of the good times he brought to you and the family.
God Bless.

Especially for how it all ended. Life is just not fair.
Hoping you find strength to deal with it all.
Deepest sympathy.

You and your sons profound loss. My heart goes out to you and him.

May you find the strength to handle it all. There are many people here offering you comfort. Hope it helps you. Bless you. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

The shock, and the heartbreak can be so overwhelming, but thankfully time will help you heal.

We at DU are here for you, truly we are.

Condolences and blessings to you, your son, stepson, family and friends.

losing your partner in life is going to be hard. I hope you can find peace in the coming days.

and a big virtual hug.

... was for you and your son to react as well as you both did last night. I am so sorry your loss, while I am in awe of your efforts.

All three of you were magnificent. Bless you all.

Hugs to you and your sons.

My Dad collapsed and died a few years ago and it was such a shock. I didn't grieve for awhile because I was in shock, then the intense grief hit. You will make it through.

My deepest condolences. Be kind to yourself and realize that grief is hard.

My deepest condolences. May his memory be a blessing to you both and all who loved him.

Hail the Traveler! May he go forth shining!

It sounded sudden and quick but that being said a terrible shock. Prayers sent for you and your family from a Michigan Dem.

I'm grateful for you that he didn't suffer much and that you got to enjoy him right up until the last. Best wishes on surviving this and eventually thriving again. Kinda sounds like you are in a bit of shock right now - so understandable.

This really hit home as yesterday hubs had lots of tests and there were some heart and lung issues. The heart showed blockage of 48% in one of the vessles that supplies blood to the heart. He went to Mayo, which is amazing, and had the results on his phone right away along with a message from his dr. Think an angioplasty is next step - just so glad he decided to get these tests done!!