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Fiendish Thingy
(21,871 posts)The devil is in the details- the details being Harris share of womens votes broken down by age and race, and the turnout of women by age and race.
A few dozen more young women and black women per precinct in each blue wall state, and Harris would likely be president elect right now.
TheBlackAdder
(29,981 posts)This is a number that only sways a percent plus or minus since 1974. This is one of the reasons why the ERA never passed. No matter what, 45% of women vote conservatively due to upbringing, family or religion.
This 45% is not for just this year but for a solid 40 years.
This is a good resource. https://cawp.rutgers.edu/
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TheBlackAdder
(29,981 posts)Note: I updated my previous post with a link.
Legislation to address some of the gender biases helped to take the pressure off of the need to pass The ERA, so there isn't that force to get its passage. Feminism went through several stages, but the lens addresses parity of the genders. The lens of feminism for conservatives and the orthodox sees its objective as being a wife and mother. Those social forces are difficult to overcome.
Here's a post from 2022 where I wrote a similar post. There are a bunch of others too.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100217445416#post52
Here's a 2015 one discussing Phyllis Schlafly.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/1251443961#post30
Fiendish Thingy
(21,871 posts)And the Pew exit poll analysis will almost certainly confirm that.
whathehell
(30,331 posts)and in other news, what would you expect in a patriarchal society?..Like all oppressed people, women internalize the low esteem in which they're held by the Dominant group and that's projected, not only onto themselves, but onto others of their kind. It's called "internalized misogyny".
Apart from that, there are always people who vote against their own interests -- Consider all the Hispanic men who voted for Trump.
TheBlackAdder
(29,981 posts)I have no doubt V.P. Harris lost because of:
1) being a woman; 2) being half African-American; 3) being half Indian-American.
taxi
(2,672 posts)I also read that Kamala received 53% of the female vote.
It might take a little while for me to figure this out, but it at first seems like Kamala had the female vote and the shortcoming was by the male voters.
Like I said, I'm having a hard time figuring this out.
mr715
(2,598 posts)that Trump is masculine when in fact he is the daintiest motherfucker
Ilikepurple
(425 posts)Asking for a friend.
Men instant beer buds. Women shop and cat fight. Thanks, Ive been believing my deceiving eyes.
travelingthrulife
(4,305 posts)Female here. I hate to shop and catfight, but I also don't like beer. What to do?
spooky3
(38,223 posts)The link goes to exit poll statistics only.
Wiz Imp
(8,743 posts)Just because men voted for Trump in huge numbers, it's not their fault Trump won. We should blame women, the majority of whom voted for Harris, for Harris loss.
What a load of misogynistic crap this is.
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Wiz Imp
(8,743 posts)This is explicitly blaming women for Harris loss even though far more women voted for Harris than men. What else would you call that? It's really rather sickening how this person twists himself in knots to blame women rather than men. Disgusting.
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spooky3
(38,223 posts)(from CNN exit polls - and we know these are imperfect)
55% of men voted for Trump
45% of women voted for Trump
Why shouldn't Democrats focus on MEN and getting their support (as well as getting support from everyone else)? There are more potential votes to pick up from them than from women.
UniqueUserName
(395 posts)Because Harris ran specifically on gender inequality and women's rights as a major issue, it is significant that women did not see that as a driving force determining their vote.
If Harris had not made that an issue on which she was running, then it would, as you say, be misogynistic to consider the voter's gender or sex in evaluating the decision between Trump or Harris.
We can't assume anything about the women who voted for Harris regarding misogyny. We can assume for white women voting for Trump that they either did not believe Trump to be a misogynist or that they valued White privilege over women's issues. I would argue that women who voted for Trump are both racists and misogynists.
White men voting for Trump are probably both racists and misogynists. But not necessarily. White men could have been voting for Trump merely because it was in their best interests and not have considered the repercussions for anyone else.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,112 posts)It's this.
yardwork
(68,884 posts)You are really twisting yourself into a pretzel here.
If only women had voted in this election, Harris would have won in a landslide.
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Wounded Bear
(63,767 posts)Seeking Serenity
(3,257 posts)Escape even the merest hint of scrutiny.
It's the Principal Skinner meme in large print.
SunImp
(2,607 posts)Wounded Bear
(63,767 posts)otherwise it's just meaningless finger pointing.
Sure, we're all disappointed and angry right now, but what we're doing now is just further alienating those folks you want to "win back."
SunImp
(2,607 posts)Look at Dems all over pointing fingers at Latinos, Muslims, white woman, men and viciously degrading them. Most of the hate is directed at Trump voters, but people outside of political circles will see that. RW media will also see that and use it against us in a pac probably. Were supposed to be the party of level heads n inclusion. We need some self introspection & understanding right now
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)on the exact same platform as Kamala's. He'll win in a landslide.
We need to acknowledge the racism and misogyny lurking among our own, and among our allies.
I hate that we have to do it, but we have to do it, and it's all we have to do to win. (Unless of course things are rigged like Russia next time. Which is a distinct pissibility.)
But maybe when we do face that creepy fact, we can stop cannibalizing ourselves the way this and other articles are insisting we do.
Wounded Bear
(63,767 posts)that will make excellent presidents.
Of course, Hillary or Kamala would have been as well.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,112 posts)Or even straight or middle aged.
Just has to be a man.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)Since the election, even here on DU, I have seen a resurgence of white men discounting the concerns of everyone else. One poster, for example, opined to much agreement, that no one cares about abortion because only a small percentage of the population gets abortions. That's just one example of the jaw dropping shit that is infecting even this place.
This very thread is all about how " dudes bond, bro, and women just tear each other down. That's why trump won!1!!" That's stunningly idiotic, and provably false but its getting lots of agreement and not a lot of pushback.
I suspect there are those on our side who know they will benefit over the years to come and are secretly not very bothered.
It will be worse when the next election gets here. If it ever gets here.
I agree that gender is possibly their strongest objection, but the others are there as well. We can't take any chances.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,112 posts)That the electorate prefers a man in the White House. It's painfully obvious.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)whathehell
(30,331 posts)but simplisticly blaming it all on white women won't do that.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)"Trump won because men bond and women tear each other down!1!!"
And someone took the time to copy and paste that shit to spread it around.
I despair.
Walleye
(43,691 posts)ProudMNDemocrat
(20,551 posts)then I do feel sorry for them.
NO critically minded and thinking Woman is going to want them.
Really?
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ProudMNDemocrat
(20,551 posts)I don't understand either.
Takket
(23,433 posts)whathehell
(30,331 posts)the low esteem in which the dominant group holds them..If you and those like you are treated like shit long enough, you start believing it..It's one of the most tragic aspects of oppression.
spooky3
(38,223 posts)--societal misogyny and racism
--low education (huge difference between college-educated voters and others--for whites and Latinos/Latinas)
--misinformation/disinformation (polls show Trump voters got many facts wrong)
--etc.
Hope22
(4,419 posts)the Catholic Church told them to the minister told them to .they are idiots
recovering_democrat
(301 posts)women can advance, women can politic effectively, women can some day be President (as in other command positions in other countries, elected or selected in other means). We are our own best enemies arguing among ourselves mostly and men take advantage of it.
In Georgia I was able to vote at age 18 male or female. Every time I had a chance, I voted for a woman because the importance of female politics is critical to moving forward in this nation toward other command positions.
Again this year, I voted for every single woman on the ballot for any level of elected positions. None were just because "woman". ALL were because they were the BEST CHOICE of the candidates. This year's choices of women were not the best out there, but the men were worse. This is the truth, friends, (male and female,and "teach your children well".
I am 79 years old and I keep trying to vote for female candidates whenever I can. We need to start explaining to all citizens what we want in a candidate we would enthusiastically vote for: and then do it!
finally: this year, I was harshly criticized by many friends and others who were horrified that I did not support Trump and they did. I would not have supported Trump if he had been campaigning against any other candidate because of his "platform" and "criminal behavior".
Keep offering these messages if you are male or female to friends, family and even people who keep supporting Trump. We have to get this through the heads of our peers.
and also: "teach your children well". Maybe they will figure it out.
Zambero
(9,914 posts)Trump will visit bad shit onto all those other people. but he would never ever do anything to harm me!
Until he does, and when the wakeup call comes it will be too late.
Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)Not all men. Some good men voted for Kamala. Voted for what is right. But other men, and the majority at that, were perfectly fine with voting for Trump because .....
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Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)They didn't even try to hide that. And a lot of men voted accordingly.
So yeah, a lot of guys were a holes as you said. And here we are.
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Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)But what percentage of that 45% did it out of fear, or submission to their man? Men had no such fear. Some women probably did.
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Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)This is the environment that they have created. This is the environment that many women are now living in and with.
For most men the election did not have consequences. The same cannot be said for women.
whathehell
(30,331 posts)group who didn't vote for Kamala would have accomplished the same thing, so why do you keep harping on women?
EX500rider
(12,132 posts)at140
(6,201 posts)That is why Kamala could not get 55% of the women's vote.
She campaigned smart. She was a great candidate. But she could not overcome food inflation.
Inflation was the main reason for her loss. More women shop at grocery stores.
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at140
(6,201 posts)May be your family can afford higher food prices.
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at140
(6,201 posts)There are rich people in every country. Even Guatemala, Venezuela, Zimbabwe have some very rich people.
TheKentuckian
(26,314 posts)so good luck with that piece of rocket surgery.
In fact, what is it that dumb motherfuckers think Cantaloupe Caligula did or will do to keep prices low?
Weapons grade stupid.
at140
(6,201 posts)I have never been a fan of tariffs. My main point again is, for whatever reason the inflation spiked, it was the main reason for losing the presidential election. That is my honest opinion. You are free to disagree without getting angry.
TheKentuckian
(26,314 posts)Maybe one day I won't exist angry again, it is no longer a matter of getting that way and not directed at you in particular.
Wilfully making prices higher as the response to high prices is insanely stupid regardless of my emotional state though so I feel it a distraction.
jalan48
(14,914 posts)Meowmee
(9,212 posts)None of this is my fault... I was trained from an early age to recognize fascism etc. and would never vote for it. I was polled by an R poll on the phone in 2016. She asked me tons of questions, one was- some voters change their mind would you ever vote for the psycho... I said emphatically, I will never vote for that lunatic under any circumstances.
Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)But I really don't get all the posts defending men for their role in it.
DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)to tear each other down"
That's not my experience.
This is your understanding?
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Quiet Em
(2,520 posts)Wow.
I'm thinking Friday night must be misogyny night here. This shit is weird. I'm out.
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yardwork
(68,884 posts)As a lesbian, I find your characterizations laughable. I hang out with a lot of women who never tear one another down. We help each other, in ways large and small.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)This is like wading into the 50s.
yardwork
(68,884 posts)DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)Did you not read the OP I replied to?
GenThePerservering
(3,146 posts)DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)Why be rude to me?
Would you have felt better if I did +1?
whathehell
(30,331 posts)No, neither have I, and that's because it's nonexistent in patriarchal society.
Internalized misogyny, on the other hand, is common for reasons that should be obvious...Women, like all oppressed people, tend to internalize the low esteem in which they're held by the dominant group. ..When people are continually treated as "less", they come to believe it, and project it onto themselves, and the others of their kind..It's one of the most tragic consequences of oppression.
DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)Please reply to OP to air your grievances.
whathehell
(30,331 posts)with an answer...For some reason now, it's you who seems to want to "air grievances".
DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)with an answer...For some reason now, it's you who seems to want to "air grievances".
whathehell
(30,331 posts)Goodbye.
DiamondShark
(1,162 posts)Last edited Mon Nov 18, 2024, 01:11 AM - Edit history (1)
BannonsLiver
(20,200 posts)They scared a lot of white women with the trans ad and the border stuff. White men voted for him in droves though.
JI7
(93,115 posts)they vote Republican in huge numbers. If you count only white xtian men it's even larger.
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Dem4life1970
(1,039 posts)Lyndon Johnson in 1964. It hasn't happened since. That's right. 4 Democratic Presidents, 2 of them 2 term Presidents. Trump ran an overtly racist campaign and it worked. He was rewarded. Yes race was only 1 factor,
but let's just be real here.
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marmar
(79,127 posts)..... 92% of black women and 61% of Latina women voted for Harris. Perhaps your OP is too broad brush.
Dem4life1970
(1,039 posts)It's a fact that White women went for Trump (not just
tenderfoot
(8,982 posts)There, I fixed your headine.
The questions that feel most burning right nowlike what is up with those who voted against abortion bans but also for Trump, and which part of his gains can be attributed mostly to racism and/or sexismare complex and will take more data and analysis to really understand. But its safe to say Trumps margin of victory was powered by men, who, those same polls found, voted for him by 55 percenta few points more than went for him in 2020. Trump looks to have made gains with almost every type of man, especially younger men and Latino men. (Despite a lot of pre-election angst, Black men overwhelmingly backed Harris, though Trump increased his margins there, too.) White men of all education levels went for Trump, but white men who didnt go to college overwhelmingly so.
https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2024/11/musk-trump-men-election-results-misogyny-sexism/
whathehell
(30,331 posts)college education who went for Trump.
There, I fixed your headline.
tenderfoot
(8,982 posts)now didn't he?
whathehell
(30,331 posts)by a smaller margin, get the educated white male vote as well. That contrasts to the majority of educated white females who voted for Kamala.
MrWowWow
(1,461 posts)Last edited Mon Nov 18, 2024, 02:53 PM - Edit history (4)
It's those teeny tiny dollhands he's got. Likes to put them everywhere he does....
.
.Hitler had his harem of adoring female fans as well.
.
Many German women supported Adolf Hitler during his rise and rule due to a mix of propaganda, cultural norms, and policies that catered to traditional gender roles. The Nazi regime emphasized women's roles as mothers and homemakers, awarding honors like the Mother's Cross for having large families. This, along with extensive propaganda portraying Hitler as a paternalistic, charismatic figure who could restore Germany's pride, contributed to a significant following among some women. However, this sentiment was not universal, and women's attitudes toward Hitler varied widely, with some opposing or resisting the regime.
-ChatGPT
whathehell
(30,331 posts)Maybe they enjoy his 'teeny, tiny dollhands' even more.
ismnotwasm
(42,663 posts)It not necessarily a gender thing
bigtree
(93,314 posts)...fwiw.
Its beyond fucked up. The actual problem goes way deeper then gender
RandiFan1290
(6,660 posts)Ndp5
(100 posts)And defections by men of color made up for Harris gains among women, more of whom voted for her than voted for Biden.
There is some serious blanket generalization and stereotyping going on here. Im not saying all women are nice. Far from it. But personally, when I went from female-dominated environments in my youth to hanging out with a boyfriends all-male crew, I was struck by how often the boys made in-your-face mean jokes putting each other down. Maybe they wouldnt have done it if there wasnt a woman present, I dont know. Not saying women never put each other down, but we are at least subtle about it. And lets not even get into how easily some men will betray a buddy to pursue a romantic prospect.
I think both genders are competitive and mean to same-sex rivals, just in different ways. This notion that cat fighting lost Dems the presidency is deeply misguided.
If your point is that we need to address why some women voted against their own interests, I agree. But many Latino men similarly voted against their own interests. Its a lack of engagement with trustworthy news sources and exposure to social media misinformation in both cases, among other things. It is not about those groups inherent gender or racial identities.
Bettie
(19,219 posts)to focus exclusively on the grievances of straight white men.
But, basic math: 45% is fewer than 55%. But sure, it's all the women's fault. You seem really invested in denigrating women.
And the non-white people, and the non-male people, and "the gays" and everyone except straight white men, they must be held blameless for everything in all circumstances.
CousinIT
(12,155 posts)Most women and men of color voted for Harris.
There was a slight shift of Hispanic men and black men to Shitler but the white men are the biggest problem (and the patriarchy-supporting women).
LizBeth
(11,222 posts)spend a vast amount of time scrolling social media and people are directed to like mind. All they are seeing is lies from Trump, and tons of people validating those lies. They lay in bed until late at night, night after night reading this shit and never do the research or look for facts or sees the reality.
We have a whole generation of younger men being fed by podcast on toxic masculinity that is essentially changing how they thinking into really weird shit, then they can't get a woman because it is dumb shit but they swear this is their reality.
So many of the Trump voters have no clue what the real election was about.
Farmer-Rick
(12,407 posts)At least that's what I heard yesterday.
Not sure I trust corporate media to do an honest analysis of the exit polls.
And when everything is counted. I want to know how many of them are bullet ballots and how many were counts sent through Musk's Skylink systems.
And why are we assuming Trump didn't cheat, when he cheats on everything even in a stupid game of golf.
AkFemDem
(2,508 posts)and don't compete with them. They're the smartest, most interesting people I know. If the women you know decsribe other women the way you did, I'd seriously question just what kind of women you're choosing to spend your time with.
I say all the time, if anything ever happened to my husband- I'm marrying my girlfriends and living platonically happily ever after with them.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)Like they did in the 1890s.
milestogo
(22,449 posts)Similarly, the reasons women vote for Harris and the reasons men do may not be the same.
So nobody is blaming one or the other. It helps to take things apart to analyze them sometimes.
Wiz Imp
(8,743 posts)And he's complaining that people are blaming men. A misogynistic creep.
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GenThePerservering
(3,146 posts)Ping Tung
(4,121 posts)Gender, ethnicity, religion, class, educational level, sexual orientation, etc is irrelevant.
Scrivener7
(58,138 posts)blatant efforts to divide us?
This one says, "Democrats lost because men bond and women tear each other down!!!11!"
It is written to look like something from the BBC. But when you click the link, it brings you to a different article. This is just the OPs opinion, apparently. And it seems newly minted from 1950.
Things that make you go, "Hmmmm...."
Ilikepurple
(425 posts)The poster has been around or a while. I dont think hes trying to divide us, but rather convince us that womens issues arent important to women? I agree about the 1950s thing. It seems for some here (not necessarily OP) the Democratic Party tent got large enough and civil rights got expanded enough at some point in the last century. This election results are being used in way too many topics to place blame on marginalized groups while we give a pass to white America as if we assume its invariably majority sexist or racist.
Meowmee
(9,212 posts)So many go unchecked here, I have started trashing many of them.
LoisB
(12,235 posts)niyad
(129,333 posts)Has that changed in this new millenium?
My thoughts too, plus I think someone pointed out it was 45% of non college educated women.
BlueWaveNeverEnd
(12,654 posts)careful with the stereotypes. men have a much much higher rate of violence against each other.
Ms. Toad
(38,092 posts)Also, Trump outperformed his previous numbers with younger voters and low-income voters."
https://www.readtangle.com/final-2024-election-post-mortem/?ref=tangle-newsletter
You have to look, not at absolutes, but at who is being moved by the candidates from their traditional positions. Trump successfully won over men, minorities, younger voters, and low income voters. Women held steady. White men went increasingly for trump.
I won't even bother to address the misogyny implicit in that piece.
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Ms. Toad
(38,092 posts)My point is that we aren't starting fresh every election. The vast majority of voters are tied to a particular party and, even if not to a specific party, to voting a particular way. That's why the polls ask party and, if you claim no party affiliation, they ask how you lean. Absolutes mean nothing, except among new voters. What is telling is how voters move, and women voters did not move toward Trump.
I would love for women to have moved away from Trump, but at least they didn't follow the men, minorities, low income, and youth, and shift toward Trump.
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Ms. Toad
(38,092 posts)I countered that with facts which demonstrate that women held steady, while multiple other demographic groups shifted toward Trump. So if you want to shift blame away from your demographic, Trump, stop pushing it toward women, which is one of the few demographic groups which did not shift toward Trump.
Also, you will not find a single post of mine, ever, in a which I blamed a single demographic group of voters for this loss, it any other. So walk that tired dog elsewhere.
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Ms. Toad
(38,092 posts)Now that I've pointed out the flaws in that reasoning as to women, as a whole, you've shifted to a subset of women.
confoosed
(62 posts)There are a lot more women's rights issues that need attention. When you spend so much time on one, people who have others at the top of their list feel left out. We needed a broader message, but went too deep on topics that didn't resonate as much as we thought they did.
DemonGoddess
(5,127 posts)just as misogynistic as men. In fact, they can be more so, when powered by jealousy. Which leads to spiteful actions.