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MineralMan

(147,569 posts)
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 12:53 PM Tuesday

Sex Parties? Anyone here ever been to one?

I haven't. I've never even known of one. So, are they common? I mean do people go to places where women are hired to have sex with the attendees?

What kind of deal is that? I guess Matt Gaetz is familiar with them. Maybe they're popular in his circles. How strange!

Anyhow, it seems to me as though people who attend such parties are not part of regular society. If they were, I'm sure I would have heard of at least one such party in my 79 years.

Is this normal? Is Matt Gaetz normal? Is that behavior acceptable by society?

Maybe I'm just naive or something. Out of touch.

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Sex Parties? Anyone here ever been to one? (Original Post) MineralMan Tuesday OP
I was in an orgy once, when I was in college. Elessar Zappa Tuesday #1
Yes. Demsrule86 Tuesday #63
Google "key party" ;-) AkFemDem Tuesday #2
There's actually a reference to that in Ron Howard's "Grinch" movie underpants Tuesday #6
Matt Gaetz was in that movie. Omnipresent Tuesday #15
Happens every week underpants Tuesday #3
If they're all consenting adults, then I don't think it's anyone else's business what they want to do. meadowlander Tuesday #4
I'm at one right now! FSogol Tuesday #5
My Honey And I Have Our Own Private Sex Parties... MayReasonRule Tuesday #12
One of the best songs ever bpj62 Tuesday #33
Damn Skippy!!! MayReasonRule Tuesday #35
Glad to see you've got some fingers free for texting EYESORE 9001 Tuesday #22
If , you are at one, right now, kozar Tuesday #31
Pictures - or it never happened Maru Kitteh Tuesday #52
Now I'm confused as to the purpose of this site. PeaceWave Tuesday #7
Politics. We discuss politics. MineralMan Tuesday #18
Sex Parties Are Being Discussed So As To Investigate The Prevalence Participation And Acceptance Within Our Society MayReasonRule Tuesday #29
Your reply sounds like something from an AI text generator. MineralMan Tuesday #34
Lol.. The Topic Is Gaetz Having Sex With Minors At A Sex Party And Paying Hookers To Attend And Supplying Cocaine MayReasonRule Tuesday #37
This is a far cry from the message I got from my parents: your body is a temple... CTyankee Tuesday #46
Lol... Happy To Report We Escaped The Abrahanic Blood Cult In Which We Were Reared... MayReasonRule Tuesday #58
Your body IS a temple PCIntern 18 hrs ago #67
I agree with you Mineral Man. Maybe it's the folks I hung out with but in my 69 years I have never heard of one or had debm55 Tuesday #59
There's a lot of porn featuring such parties ChicagoRonin Tuesday #8
I've been to a Sex Farm Dennis Donovan Tuesday #9
Not I. mzmolly Tuesday #10
Wealthy/powerful men have been doing it from beginning of time. LizBeth Tuesday #11
Lol, As Have Wealthy Powerful Women - Nothing Wrong With Sex Parties As Long As Each Is Of Age And A Willing Participant MayReasonRule Tuesday #14
Seriously? Bothism... fug LizBeth Tuesday #17
I'm At A Loss To Decipher Your Intended Meaning... I Did Due Diligence... I Still Don't Know... MayReasonRule Tuesday #20
Sounds like quite the sense of entitlement. mzmolly Tuesday #26
You mean like the couple who attended a swing party in BDSM gear only to find... PeaceWave Tuesday #13
omg Babajida Tuesday #43
NYT story last week dweller Tuesday #16
The seventies were quite inventive EYESORE 9001 Tuesday #19
Lol, Every Generation Is 'Inventive" In That Way... We're All Human Afterall... MayReasonRule Tuesday #21
We all thought we were like Magellan EYESORE 9001 Tuesday #27
Damn Skippy... You're Dead On Point! MayReasonRule Tuesday #30
It's like a gender reveal, right? Pacifist Patriot Tuesday #23
But without the glitter EYESORE 9001 Tuesday #28
When I was young and playing in my band, sure. BlueTsunami2018 Tuesday #24
Madison Cawthorn said he was invited to them by fellow lawmakers. blm Tuesday #25
I remember that Marigold Tuesday #32
Mitch McConnell was involved. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 madinmaryland Tuesday #50
Yeah, That Requires Brain Bleach Deep State Witch 18 hrs ago #65
I know of swingers parties in my area. intheflow Tuesday #36
Willing volunteer or willing guinea pig? PeaceWave Tuesday #40
I have no idea what this even means. intheflow Tuesday #44
No Emile Tuesday #38
Glad you asked. It's remarkable how different people live... LAS14 Tuesday #39
Every gay man studying the ceiling hard right now Sympthsical Tuesday #41
Right there with you FreeState Tuesday #47
I've been doing this sneaky thing lately Sympthsical Tuesday #48
Haha FreeState Tuesday #49
The gay boyfriend reaction videos to the sound are pretty great, too Sympthsical Tuesday #51
Yes Babajida Tuesday #42
Replying a second time because I need to add: intheflow Tuesday #45
I suspect MTG has. JohnSJ Tuesday #53
Would MTG tattle on herself? She of tantric sex and proud adultery. keithbvadu2 Tuesday #56
I guess I 'fergit!" elleng Tuesday #54
I dropped by the home of The Pope of Pot in the 80's the day after his orgy. no_hypocrisy Tuesday #55
The republicans do. At least here in Ohio they do. Blue Full Moon Tuesday #57
Does this count? Cirsium Tuesday #60
I have, as has my hubby. usedtobedemgurl Tuesday #61
In the mid eighties...I was freshly divorced. And on my first date in four years, The Demsrule86 Tuesday #62
Damn Polybius 18 hrs ago #66
I never heard of Epstein either LiberaBlueDem Tuesday #64

Omnipresent

(6,342 posts)
15. Matt Gaetz was in that movie.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:10 PM
Tuesday

All’s they did was apply a little makeup to his face and he blended right in!

meadowlander

(4,717 posts)
4. If they're all consenting adults, then I don't think it's anyone else's business what they want to do.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 12:58 PM
Tuesday

I'm not here to judge and kink-shame and decide what's "normal for society".

I'll leave that to the conservatives.

If he slept with a minor or any of the contact was non-consensual, that's the only element that I think deserves public scrutiny.

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
12. My Honey And I Have Our Own Private Sex Parties...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:07 PM
Tuesday

Our record was 3 hours after she consumed an edible...

Sex is natural sex is good.

kozar

(2,850 posts)
31. If , you are at one, right now,
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:37 PM
Tuesday

And can post.
You're doing the party, wrong.

Sarcasm intended,



Koz

MineralMan

(147,569 posts)
18. Politics. We discuss politics.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:16 PM
Tuesday

The nomination of someone to be Attorney General of the United States is a political appointment. Politics.

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
29. Sex Parties Are Being Discussed So As To Investigate The Prevalence Participation And Acceptance Within Our Society
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:30 PM
Tuesday

Sex is natural sex is good.

Supplying minors with drugs and having sex with minors is not good.

There is a substantive difference.

That is what I perceive is under discussion.

Happy Tuesday by the way!
Seize your day and laissez bon temps rouler!

Don't let the bastards get ya' down!

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
37. Lol.. The Topic Is Gaetz Having Sex With Minors At A Sex Party And Paying Hookers To Attend And Supplying Cocaine
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:51 PM
Tuesday
So, are they common? I mean do people go to places where women are hired to have sex with the attendees?



So yeah...

The topic is Gaetz my friend...

The surrounding topic that the post is inquiring about is sex party participation from members of this forum.

So as to get the 'lay of the land'... so to speak.

Innocuous discussions of human sexuality are just a part of the discussion 'at hand'.

Happy Tuesday...

Back to gardening for me...

About to put the skins on our multi-layered back yard hot-house.
We'll put a compost pile in to assist with heating through the winter.

They're a blast...

CTyankee

(65,012 posts)
46. This is a far cry from the message I got from my parents: your body is a temple...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:52 PM
Tuesday

Yeah, that one. Did you get that sex ed lecture, too?

full disclosure: I got a copy of "Our Bodies, Ourselves" for my kids for those questions they didn't wanna ask. It was pretty well worn after a while. I loved that book.

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
58. Lol... Happy To Report We Escaped The Abrahanic Blood Cult In Which We Were Reared...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 06:27 PM
Tuesday

Sad to report that we and our daughter are the only ones that have...

Sigh...

debm55

(35,903 posts)
59. I agree with you Mineral Man. Maybe it's the folks I hung out with but in my 69 years I have never heard of one or had
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 06:27 PM
Tuesday

the desire to attend one. I guess I am an odd ball.

ChicagoRonin

(700 posts)
8. There's a lot of porn featuring such parties
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:02 PM
Tuesday

I don't know if that stuff is actually staged with actors, but there is a lot that looks like it was made on a home video camera or cell phone.

And though I hate to pigeonhole any particular group, there is a lot that looks like obnoxious frat boys at a state school in Florida or somewhere similar.

(Yes, I was a young man once and watched such stuff)

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
14. Lol, As Have Wealthy Powerful Women - Nothing Wrong With Sex Parties As Long As Each Is Of Age And A Willing Participant
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:09 PM
Tuesday

Laissez les bon temps rouler!!!

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
20. I'm At A Loss To Decipher Your Intended Meaning... I Did Due Diligence... I Still Don't Know...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:22 PM
Tuesday


Bothism is a marketing philosophy that encourages a more flexible approach to media channels and the idea that different marketing approaches can work together more effectively. The term was coined by Mark Ritson.


fug
/fəɡ/
noun informal•British
noun: fug; plural noun: fugs

a warm, stuffy or smoky atmosphere in a room.
"the cozy fug of the music halls"

mzmolly

(51,593 posts)
26. Sounds like quite the sense of entitlement.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:26 PM
Tuesday

Imagine if Kamala Harris had sex with a teenaged boy at a party on a table and paid others for sex. WTF kind of bizarre bullshit are we excusing, because it's a 'wealthy powerful man' we're discussing?

PeaceWave

(941 posts)
13. You mean like the couple who attended a swing party in BDSM gear only to find...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:07 PM
Tuesday

that they'd actually been invited to a swing dance festival?

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
21. Lol, Every Generation Is 'Inventive" In That Way... We're All Human Afterall...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:24 PM
Tuesday

Here's to human ingenuity...

MayReasonRule

(1,800 posts)
30. Damn Skippy... You're Dead On Point!
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:31 PM
Tuesday

The more things change the more they tend towards staying the same...

And, there's nothing as constant as change.

BlueTsunami2018

(4,000 posts)
24. When I was young and playing in my band, sure.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:25 PM
Tuesday

Every weekend was sex, drugs and debauchery. We didn’t pay any of the girls though, they were all willing participants. It was a lot of fun.

If you have to pay, you’re a loser.

blm

(113,817 posts)
25. Madison Cawthorn said he was invited to them by fellow lawmakers.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:25 PM
Tuesday

GOP leadership made him walk it back.

Marigold

(193 posts)
32. I remember that
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:37 PM
Tuesday

And everyone said he was crazy. Then he was gone after they posted a picture of him in lingerie and pearls. Wonder what they have on Lindsay Graham?

Deep State Witch

(11,248 posts)
65. Yeah, That Requires Brain Bleach
Wed Nov 20, 2024, 12:33 PM
18 hrs ago

Putting "Mitch McConnell" and "sex" into the same sentence requires brain bleach. I'll bet that he and Elaine retreat to different parts of the mansion at night.

intheflow

(28,925 posts)
36. I know of swingers parties in my area.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 01:51 PM
Tuesday

I don't participate, but a friend of mine does. To hear her talk about it, it's like a potluck with other married/fat people, with sex for dessert. It's sounds wildly unsexy to me, but to each their own. No one pays for sex at these things. Everyone is a willing volunteer.

LAS14

(14,678 posts)
39. Glad you asked. It's remarkable how different people live...
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 03:02 PM
Tuesday

... in totally different social worlds. I'm like you, never a hint or a whiff of any such goings on. Although I can see the building where a prostitution ring was headquartered that, for some reason, made the national news.

Sympthsical

(10,217 posts)
41. Every gay man studying the ceiling hard right now
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:35 PM
Tuesday

Isn't that just a Friday in one's 20s?

I'm (mostly) kidding. But it's not exactly a scandalous or unheard of thing in my world. I've been. They're interesting enough for what they are, if you're into that sort of thing. And there's always bathhouses. Not really into that sort of thing myself these days. Settled down into more of a partner, cats, and movie type sort. But I'm also middle aged now.

(Not that that matters. I have middle aged friends who are still doing that stuff)

Depends who one asks. And yes, I've known straight friends, men and women, talk about various gatherings they've attended.

The Internet's a busy place for arranging things.

FreeState

(10,692 posts)
47. Right there with you
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:53 PM
Tuesday

Hell most the bars I use to go to had black out rooms etc. Sniffies and some gay dating apps can be like a sex party map.

Sympthsical

(10,217 posts)
48. I've been doing this sneaky thing lately
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:55 PM
Tuesday

Whenever SNFs come up (skilled nursing facilities), I call them sniffies.

Then I see who laughs.

FreeState

(10,692 posts)
49. Haha
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 05:00 PM
Tuesday

That’s hilarious. It’s like hearing the grinder message noise - there is a whole TikTok based on asking random men what app makes that noise.

Babajida

(52 posts)
42. Yes
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:38 PM
Tuesday

I don't see them as a big deal unless minors or money is involved. OTOH I want the thought of sex and Matt Gaetz days and days apart

intheflow

(28,925 posts)
45. Replying a second time because I need to add:
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 04:51 PM
Tuesday

You leftist elitists and your disgusting habit of not attending sex parties and/or sleeping with minors. Obviously the Republicans have the high moral ground over us.
















Also: , for the sarcasm-impaired among us.

keithbvadu2

(40,083 posts)
56. Would MTG tattle on herself? She of tantric sex and proud adultery.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 05:48 PM
Tuesday

MTG Threatens To Expose "Secret Sexual Payoffs" By Republicans If They Release Matt Gaetz's Ethics Report

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100219741114

no_hypocrisy

(48,778 posts)
55. I dropped by the home of The Pope of Pot in the 80's the day after his orgy.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 05:17 PM
Tuesday

There had to be at least 24 mattresses on the floor of his parlor.

usedtobedemgurl

(1,422 posts)
61. I have, as has my hubby.
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 06:54 PM
Tuesday

There are many different types of sex parties.

You can go to SLS (swingers lifestyles) and find local orgies and such. We have only gone to social public gatherings from there. Meeting up in public.

The things we really have done are going on Bliss Cruises. They are swingers cruises. There are private sex parties in rooms. We have done those. One had a sex swing someone brought on board. Those were fun. From attending those, we were invited to a private house party up in Washington. I will get to that later.

On the cruise, they have one level full of cabanas. You can do whatever you want. You can have sexual relations by yourself or with a partner.... Or two or three....or more. You can close the curtains so things are private and off limits, but people can hear. You can leave curtains open and just have folks watch, or you can invite them or they can ask to join. They also have a dungeon on board. I have seen sex happen there. My partner and I are also kinky. We are probably not into what the average person is. We have cleared out whole parts of a room with some things we have done. But that is kink and not sex or swinging.

The cruise has one whole deck where you can females put in public. A lot of private room invitations happen in those areas.

There are nudists resorts where people also participate in the swinging lifestyle. There is a particular one we visited on Florida's west coast, on our way to a swinger's cruise. It was cool to be in a resort where you can be naked 24/7, as long as you were on resort grounds. The resort has hotel rooms for visitors, and they also have homes where people live year round. We picked up a guy in one of the pools. We also ran into a woman called dragonfly (I believe she has a website) who was on a Salinger's cruise. She is a relationship specialist. She gave presentations on the cruise and at the resort.

Then there are house parties. The one we attended in Washington was interesting. I know the guy holding it was in government, but not a senator or congressman. It was a swinger party but a fetish swinger party. It was for bigger women. Before the party ever started, I had a foursome with the host, his friend and my husband. Three guys can be a lot of fun!! I had a small bit of trouble at the party. The host set out rules that there was to be no touching without consent. A guy came up and slapped me on the butt. I went off on him. A woman in the middle of sex with someone else said he could slap her butt when she was done! Wow!!! Anyway, everyone else was fun and respectful.

The one thing I have not spoken of is drugs. The only drugs I saw used on the cruise were ed drugs. Guys walked around with 24/7 hard-ons. This does not mean folks did not use drugs, I just did not see it happen. Most of the folks on the cruises drank 24/7. That was a turn off for us. If you are drunk, you cannot consent.


I did not see anyone underage in any place we were.

Demsrule86

(71,021 posts)
62. In the mid eighties...I was freshly divorced. And on my first date in four years, The
Tue Nov 19, 2024, 07:33 PM
Tuesday

guy who was an insurance agent took me to a house where an orgy was in progress...I was a naive girl from Connecticut...college student. I immediately ran upstairs and locked myself in the bedroom (no one was there as the coke was in a big bowl downstairs; I could never do it because of ADHD)...called my brother who came and got me. They want me to 'relax' and go with it...no f'ing way and that was during aids too.

Polybius

(17,798 posts)
66. Damn
Wed Nov 20, 2024, 01:03 PM
18 hrs ago

Ya know, since your name is Demsrule86, all this time I just assumed that you were born in 1986.

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