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kozar

(2,924 posts)
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:03 AM Nov 25

I made some posts, i shouldn't have

I apologize, to the DU community.
Last Thursday, I was contacted by my Doc.
It's confirmed, I have prostate cancer.
I've been going through some emotions.
Im sorry, if I offended anyone.

Koz

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I made some posts, i shouldn't have (Original Post) kozar Nov 25 OP
Hugs Duncanpup Nov 25 #1
Hey, whatever you need to do to deal with it is OK with us for sure Walleye Nov 25 #2
Here's To You Eating Well, Sleeping Well, And Getting Well!! MayReasonRule Nov 25 #3
I need to cook for Thursday, kozar Nov 25 #4
sounds like you will be having brachytherapy. All the best to you for a quick recovery. JohnSJ Nov 25 #8
One of the better recovery rates. magicarpet Nov 25 #5
I have prostate cancer as well. I was diagnosed in July 2016. I had a robotic prostatectomy to remove my prostate. usaf-vet Nov 25 #34
Kozar, please take care of yourself! MacKasey Nov 25 #6
So sorry to hear.... PCIntern Nov 25 #7
We will have compassion for you biophile Nov 25 #9
sending healing vibes to you. mwmisses4289 Nov 25 #10
No worries! I sincerely wish you a full and complete recovery! Passages Nov 25 #11
Sorry to see this.. hoping for the best. mountain grammy Nov 25 #12
If you can't come to DU to vent, Mr. Evil Nov 25 #13
Take care. Peace on your healing journey. 33taw Nov 25 #14
No worries, Kozar. Beaming healing thoughts your way. Nanuke Nov 25 #15
Your cancer is not a result of your posts surfered Nov 25 #16
I've had that too..... Mustellus Nov 25 #17
Take care of yourself and get well! arkielib Nov 25 #18
Sending you healing wishes bdamomma Nov 25 #19
You're good Katcat Nov 25 #20
I am sorry to hear that. Get the treatments, follow orders, and recover. Strength for the journey. LoisB Nov 25 #21
Oh hun, no offens at ALL...I've agreed with most of your rants! FirstLight Nov 25 #22
You do what you have to do Submariner Nov 25 #23
Best to get those feelings out. TNNurse Nov 25 #24
Good luck to you. Do your research & pick what's best. Callie1979 Nov 25 #25
((hugs)) Happy Thanksgiving and let us know how you're doing..you're gonna be just fine Deuxcents Nov 25 #26
I am so sorry to hear this. pandr32 Nov 25 #27
Here's to a quick and Mr.Bill Nov 25 #28
Wishing you a speedy recovery...nt SidDithers Nov 25 #29
Stay strong. murielm99 Nov 25 #30
Ty, i posted, kozar Nov 25 #47
No need to apologize, the fear is frightening. coprolite Nov 25 #31
Hugs, koz. You just get well. We're all good. ancianita Nov 25 #32
Bro, The "Big C" diagnosis is a real hit Nac Mac Feegle Nov 25 #33
Sorry about your diagnosis SallyHemmings Nov 25 #35
Good luck and I missed the posts you're referring to. GoneOffShore Nov 25 #36
No need to apologize to me, just take care of yourself. CaptainTruth Nov 25 #37
I've got it also.. bagimin Nov 25 #38
Best of luck. Old Crank Nov 25 #39
"" AllaN01Bear Nov 25 #40
Hugs and healing wishes. Hope your treatment is painless. Ziggysmom Nov 25 #41
Hey kozar, this is a VERY loving AND supportive community. calimary Nov 25 #42
Thank you and take care IbogaProject Nov 25 #43
Don't forget there are groups here that are designed to address your personal needs... Hekate Nov 25 #44
I'm so sorry for your diagnosis kimbutgar Nov 25 #45
Take care of yourself AverageOldGuy Nov 25 #46
We've all made posts we later regretted. Being part of a community requires that we have patience with each other. TomSlick Nov 25 #48
You would never offend, my friend. I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You are entitled to the emotions. SWBTATTReg Nov 25 #49
Damn. So sorry to hear! My dad did beat it ? late '80s, early '90s, and treatements have improved! Good luck electric_blue68 Nov 25 #50
VERY SORRY, Koz! elleng Nov 25 #51
Take care. Prayers. Joinfortmill Nov 25 #52
Many posters have made posts they latter regretted including myself MustLoveBeagles Nov 25 #53
Lots of Hope DET Nov 25 #54
I'm so sorry to hear this, my heart is with you and we all arthritisR_US Nov 25 #55
I survived it. Fish700 Nov 25 #56
Hard news malaise Nov 26 #57
Sending good wishes for your road to recogery pioche4 Nov 26 #58
So sorry to hear this, Kozar. summer_in_TX Nov 26 #59
Hey, you've been here for years, we know you.. Permanut Nov 26 #60
So sorry to hear that 🤗 Meowmee Nov 26 #61
Hugs and healing vibes for you, Koz. highplainsdem Nov 26 #62
Best wishes kozar... Mr. Mustard 2023 Nov 26 #63
When do you start your radiation? My husband had beam radiation. Keep us up to date on your recovery. It's a hard go. 5 debm55 Dec 2 #64

Walleye

(36,426 posts)
2. Hey, whatever you need to do to deal with it is OK with us for sure
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:07 AM
Nov 25

It’s quite a shock. I know I had my breast cancer diagnosis. Just keep us updated, please.

JohnSJ

(96,812 posts)
8. sounds like you will be having brachytherapy. All the best to you for a quick recovery.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:29 AM
Nov 25

magicarpet

(16,974 posts)
5. One of the better recovery rates.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:16 AM
Nov 25

Seriously medical advancements have been made to help get this issue behind you.

You need to maintain a positive attitude - it is the powerhouse that governs + guides the healing process.

Allowing yourself to get distraught or down in the dumps is very counter productive to fighting off cancer cell growth.

usaf-vet

(7,018 posts)
34. I have prostate cancer as well. I was diagnosed in July 2016. I had a robotic prostatectomy to remove my prostate.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 12:25 PM
Nov 25

I then had 36 True Beam radiation treatments.

I get regular PSA blood tests every 3-6 months.

The highest it has been post-treatment is 0.79

There is now a prostate cancer-specific PET scan.
THAT pinpoints to any active cancer cell. Scan the top of the skull to mid-thigh.

This is what my doctor told me..... read it carefully.
You will die with prostate cancer. You will NOT die of prostate cancer.

Find a good prostate cancer team. That specializes in treating prostate cancer.

I am 77. I was 69 when I was diagnosed.

I am not a doctor, but I have been where you are, and everything I have read leads me to believe this.
You will die with prostate cancer. You will NOT die of prostate cancer.

Message me if you want clarification of any of the above.

PCIntern

(27,015 posts)
7. So sorry to hear....
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:20 AM
Nov 25

Been through a lot with all that stuff myself. Take good care of yourself.

biophile

(445 posts)
9. We will have compassion for you
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:36 AM
Nov 25

For anything you may have said or written- I never saw anything you did that offended.
Have compassion for yourself too.
Sending healing power!

Mr. Evil

(2,998 posts)
13. If you can't come to DU to vent,
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:43 AM
Nov 25

where can you go?

We're here for you. Keep your chin up and here's hoping like hell that all goes well!

surfered

(3,745 posts)
16. Your cancer is not a result of your posts
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:02 AM
Nov 25

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer over 10 years ago. My Doctor and I decided to use "active surveillance", with an exam and PSA blood test every six months. When the PSA finally got to 10, he told me it was time to do something. I elected direct beam radiation, a course of 5 days per week for 9 weeks. I had no side effects, other than showing up 5 days a week and not getting paid for it.

It's been 3 years since the radiation treatment. I still get checked every 6 months and my most recent PSA was 0.56. So far, so good, and I'm still surfing at 77, but every one is different and the age you're first diagnosed is a factor on electing between surgery or radiation. Listen to your doctor.

If you have any questions, you know how to get in touch.

Good luck and best wishes.

Surfered


Mustellus

(341 posts)
17. I've had that too.....
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:09 AM
Nov 25

Notice the past tense. Stay positive, prostate cancer is the disease they treat so you can die of something different.

arkielib

(375 posts)
18. Take care of yourself and get well!
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:13 AM
Nov 25

None of your posts should have offended anyone. We are a family here on DU. We wish you a full and speedy recovery.

Katcat

(379 posts)
20. You're good
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:20 AM
Nov 25

Sometimes we all need an outlet and I’m glad you have such a supportive one!

LoisB

(9,025 posts)
21. I am sorry to hear that. Get the treatments, follow orders, and recover. Strength for the journey.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:21 AM
Nov 25

FirstLight

(14,311 posts)
22. Oh hun, no offens at ALL...I've agreed with most of your rants!
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:21 AM
Nov 25

So sorry to hear abt the diagnosis. Keep fighting, we're here for you like only DU Family can be!

Submariner

(12,718 posts)
23. You do what you have to do
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:21 AM
Nov 25

to stay as comfortable as you can to get well again.

You offend no one.

Relax as best you can knowing you get no incoming flack with your DU friends.

TNNurse

(7,160 posts)
24. Best to get those feelings out.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:34 AM
Nov 25

It is tough news. My husband was diagnosed a couple of years ago.

Callie1979

(284 posts)
25. Good luck to you. Do your research & pick what's best.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:35 AM
Nov 25

I've had several friends have good success dealing with it.
Hope you do too

pandr32

(12,277 posts)
27. I am so sorry to hear this.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:42 AM
Nov 25

You are forgiven, of course, and we are here whenever you need to vent.
Now slay or slow that cancer!

murielm99

(31,523 posts)
30. Stay strong.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:46 AM
Nov 25

Cancer is not what it used to be. I have been in remission for three years.

Keep coming here for support and vibes and prayers. That is why some of us come here.

kozar

(2,924 posts)
47. Ty, i posted,
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 06:30 PM
Nov 25

In anger, at least a few members reported,
As I got an auto message saying, I was about to lose my account.


Koz

coprolite

(312 posts)
31. No need to apologize, the fear is frightening.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:47 AM
Nov 25

Last summer I too was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had my prostate removed in the Fall of 2023. My last PSA test a month ago indicates I am non detectable for cancer cells.

You will have many choices, surgery, radiation and it will be very confusing. Read the literature and ask questions, none are stupid questions. There are many groups that you can talk to about your concerns and questions.

Your prognosis is very good with today's surgery and radiation treatments. We are all thinking of you and wish you the best of all outcomes.

Nac Mac Feegle

(979 posts)
33. Bro, The "Big C" diagnosis is a real hit
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:53 AM
Nov 25

I've Been There. The same thing.

The urologist was going to take a 'wait and see' approach until I mentioned that I'd lost an uncle to it. He said "We'll schedule a biopsy". It came back with a Gleeson 2.5.

IMRT (Image Modulated Radiation Therapy) for 9 weeks, 5 days a week. It took about 3 years for the PSA to hit 0.1.

We caught it early enough. Talking with a cousin, the daughter of the aforementioned uncle, and he had a VERY bad time of it.

The medical technology has progressed very rapidly over the last decades, and a LOT of stuff that would kill you is now quite survivable.

But the Diagnosis is still a psychological gut punch. There's a support group here on DU for cancer. It can help.

You aren't alone.

Fuck Cancer

bagimin

(1,483 posts)
38. I've got it also..
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 12:59 PM
Nov 25

Gleason 8...radiation..androgen therapy...on top of the world news, life is no picnic right now. Best of luck to you.

calimary

(84,612 posts)
42. Hey kozar, this is a VERY loving AND supportive community.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 04:53 PM
Nov 25

And you are part of it. And you deserve all the good moral support we can muster.

This is a pretty crummy time, certainly. But we have each other here on DU, AND there’ll undoubtedly be more joining us as the next round of the trump nightmare gets rolling. Just make sure you’re getting enough rest, eat wisely, get some exercise (preferably in the fresh air), and DON’T GIVE UP!

DON’T GIVE UP! That’s what the bad guys want, hope, and pray for. And remember what Skittles once said, about this little DU refuge, whenever you find yourself feeling down: “someone’s always here”!

IbogaProject

(3,784 posts)
43. Thank you and take care
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 05:47 PM
Nov 25

You've been through a lot even without the election. So focus of taking care of yourself. It will be a hectic 2025 & 26 at least.

Hekate

(95,291 posts)
44. Don't forget there are groups here that are designed to address your personal needs...
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 06:14 PM
Nov 25

Not just compassionate, but friends that you know who can direct their compassion in ways the broad audience of GD cannot. So next time you feel a crisis coming on, where you want to blame all of DU for not being the answer to all things, please think of:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1151
Mental Health Support

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1146
Cancer Support

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1271
Diabetes Support

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
Bereavement

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1147
Chronic Health Conditions

That’s a lot of people who not only care but know what you are going through. So next time you want to lash out at the whole forum — you have other options.

I wish you well, but will leave it to you to work things out without bothering you.

🦋


kimbutgar

(23,613 posts)
45. I'm so sorry for your diagnosis
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 06:18 PM
Nov 25

Hang in there Kozar!

Sending healing thoughts and prayers.

AverageOldGuy

(2,176 posts)
46. Take care of yourself
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 06:18 PM
Nov 25

I know a dozen guys who survived prostrate cancer, you can too.

Besides no one can offend us after Trump.

TomSlick

(11,973 posts)
48. We've all made posts we later regretted. Being part of a community requires that we have patience with each other.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 07:16 PM
Nov 25

It's all good.

Take care of yourself. Be a good and compliant patient.

SWBTATTReg

(24,337 posts)
49. You would never offend, my friend. I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You are entitled to the emotions.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 07:55 PM
Nov 25

Having such a prognosis isn't one that anyone wants to hear. In my case, my great uncle had it, and came through w/ flying colors. He's been gone for some time, my favorite uncle, and I worshipped the ground he walked on (we both did). He passed on, not from the cancer, but from old age, in his upper 80s...his wife is still going strong.

My best to you and your loved ones.

electric_blue68

(18,723 posts)
50. Damn. So sorry to hear! My dad did beat it ? late '80s, early '90s, and treatements have improved! Good luck
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 08:59 PM
Nov 25

elleng

(136,839 posts)
51. VERY SORRY, Koz!
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 09:41 PM
Nov 25

HOPE radiation is available to you; worked for my friend, who was treated @ N I H in MD.

MustLoveBeagles

(12,694 posts)
53. Many posters have made posts they latter regretted including myself
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 09:54 PM
Nov 25

Don't beat yourself up over it. I'd follow another posters suggestion about joining some of the support groups here.

I'm sorry to hear about your cancer diagnosis. Sending healing vibes and hugs your way. 🤗

DET

(1,732 posts)
54. Lots of Hope
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 10:26 PM
Nov 25

My husband has been living with Stage 4 prostate cancer for over five years. Treatments have improved significantly in the last ten years. My best advice would be to get treatment from a good medical oncologist (not a general practitioner or urologist), preferably one who specializes in genitourinary cancers and preferably at a large hospital. You clearly don’t have Stage 4 (PC with remote metastasis, which is incurable); the outlook for you should be excellent.

arthritisR_US

(7,632 posts)
55. I'm so sorry to hear this, my heart is with you and we all
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:51 PM
Nov 25

make posts at trying times we regret. We’re human and luv don’t worry about prior posts just be as strong as you are and know we are here to support, luv and strengthen you 😘

Fish700

(148 posts)
56. I survived it.
Mon Nov 25, 2024, 11:58 PM
Nov 25

Last edited Tue Nov 26, 2024, 08:25 AM - Edit history (1)

Diagnosed at age 49. Got a voicemail while pumping gas, great bedside manner. It took 2 years after my radical robotic prostatectomy to get back to normal but I am doing well now. I joined Sam's club so a month's supply of Sildenafil wasn't $600 and I didn't need it after about a year and a half. Best of luck.

pioche4

(147 posts)
58. Sending good wishes for your road to recogery
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 01:17 AM
Nov 26

What an amazing community. ♥️ I hope your team of doctors and caregivers are there for you…you have space here for support !

summer_in_TX

(3,294 posts)
59. So sorry to hear this, Kozar.
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 01:22 AM
Nov 26

We are here for you.
Thank God for all the medical advances in cancer treatment these days.

Not only did you have this difficult news but it was a bereavement anniversary with your wife's birthday. A double whammy.

Permanut

(6,714 posts)
60. Hey, you've been here for years, we know you..
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 03:24 AM
Nov 26

Life can throw some major curve balls in a heartbeat.

Post updates when you can.

Meowmee

(6,125 posts)
61. So sorry to hear that 🤗
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 03:32 AM
Nov 26

The treatments are great now, you can beat this, my father did but had some damage because he got the worse kind of radiation. At the time the proton beam was just out and he should have got that instead. But still he survived it. Get a good doc(s)/oncologist, and hospital who have the best treatments.

Mr. Mustard 2023

(257 posts)
63. Best wishes kozar...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 09:21 AM
Nov 26

...here's wishing you a full and speedy recovery. Life is one helluva thing.

debm55

(38,457 posts)
64. When do you start your radiation? My husband had beam radiation. Keep us up to date on your recovery. It's a hard go. 5
Mon Dec 2, 2024, 09:29 PM
Dec 2

days a week for 9 weeks.Is you PSA level very high? Get well

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