our next door neighbors were graying. He was a high grade engineer, retired, she was stay at home.
She baked cookies and watched over us.
We had moved from Boston, to quiet, for a family to become 8, 6 children.
Our neighbors were from genteel, South Carolina.
He was big league credentials.
Great every one knew every one, environment.
He stayed indoors mostly. My mother got to know them some. As did I. Shoveling, chores etc. for cookies.
After an extended conversation, my mother brought up at dinner, that our neighbor kept to himself as he was raised, admonishingly, to have your name noticed on your birth announcement and your obituary.
Never forgot that one.

A ladies name is in the newspapers only on the occasions of her birth, her wedding, and her death

Let's see. Skipped out on a furlough, committed crimes, was tried and sentenced to two life terms plus 85 years.

Compare with someone who pardons violent crimes, too many of whom have committed further crimes, and demand ransom for their reprehensible actions.