I am tired. took Rich back to the hospital as he was vomiting and urinating blood on Wednesday. They said he would have
after effects of the radiation for up to a month, I also am very upset with my family. I haven't talked to them since the end of June,when I called and told them about Rich's cancer. The reply back "Everyone has to die sometimes so stop your crying" and my sister yells "how am I going to go to my appointment." No calls, no cards. nothing. Many people know the abuse I had and still have with them. I am sitting here crying about how my husband and son and myself have been treated. I can't see what I ever did that would make them hate me so much. I have done everything they wanted including putting them over my own family here. I just don't understand.
What did I do wrong.to be sexually physically and emotionally abused by them?
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It's bad enough what you and Rich are going through, but the cruelness of your relatives is totally unnecessary! 
You always have the community here & someone is generally on 24/7.
Sometimes all we have is those that are our partners or those that we choose. Both my wife and I have had family issues hers are worse than mine but still. It doesn't mean it hurts any less.
I am sending you so much strength and love. I know it's not much coming from the
internet, but know that we are here and we are listening and holding you close
ones. It is just impossible to try and understand why people treat us badly, especially family.
Sending many virtual hugs to you and your family.
I know they have been very hurtful , even cruel, to you, but your priority is your husband and yourself right now. Try not to think about them.
Here’s a hug
Hope Rich feels better soon.
I'm especially sorry for the reaction you are getting from your family.
Is there someone else you can turn to for support?
What abusers do is nothing at all that their victims deserve. Do not allow yourself to believe that you "deserve" to be abused or mistreated. You deserve support and love, but sadly, it seems like trying to understand your family (in the past and now) is a fruitless exercise. All you can do is move on and move forward, and try to exorcise their negativity from your life. It is THEY who do not deserve you, my dear.
I am so sorry for all you and Rich are going through. It's all very scary and exhausting when the ones we love are caught in the whirlwind of a debilitating illness. You are his rock and his shining star... you are his everything. And you are doing the work of angels. I am sending you big hugs, and hopes and prayers for strength, for healing, and for a better tomorrow. Hang in there, honey. We are here when you need to vent.
all I can do here is offer love and support, and encourage you to lean on those you know you can rely on, including your DU family.
The rest have to go by the wayside.
With so many hugs and good wishes to you and Rich.
You need a big long hug. I cry for you.
I am so sorry you, Rich and your son are having to go through this. You are lucky to have them and for them to have you.
You are the family scapegoat. They hate because they were taught to. Let them go. Grieve the loss of your childhood family. They will never be the support you need them to be. Nothing you can do will ever be good enough for them. I know I’ve been there, physically, emotionally, sexually. I had to let them go for my own health.
You, Rich and your son will stay in my prayers and energy healing thoughts for a long, long time.
When struggling with health challenges with a loved one, we often find ourselves alone.
Sending love and vibes. You are strong. It is NOT your fault.
You get no help when you need it - you get no understanding when you try to explain - you get no support when you want it - and you get no peace from the job you are doing! That sucks........
Your only 'peace' is you believing you are 'doing the right thing' - doing what YOU know is best and what is needed - and knowing that others that have 'been there - done that' are right there by your side, even if you don't see us.
Blessings........ 
You've created an enormous family here on DU.
We love you and wish the best for you and Rich.
You have done nothing to deserve abuse. Your abusers are sick, warped people.
May DU bring some small comfort to you.
Family is sometimes over-rated in cases like this. You do need a support structure around you but not them. I hope you can find it. A grief support group, therapy or whatever. You need people who will listen, care and uplift you, not be nasty, cold and abusive!
have thoughts of my youth. Thank you for asking. Love you, Deb.
Someone is always here to offer a word of support, encouragement or well wishes.
Speaking of, sending another round of positive and healing vibes to Rich!
