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NNadir

(34,659 posts) Tue Oct 1, 2024, 09:49 PM Oct 1

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I remember how I felt the first time when I was dumped by a lover. My mother told me I'd get over it, and boy...

...that pissed me off, but of course, she was right.

My oldest son came home tonight in tears because a woman he loved told him it was over. It was his first really major love affair, just about one year long.

I tried to gently relay my experience, and so did my wife, you know, "...we all go through it..." but I'm trying very hard to not minimize the pain he's feeling while doing so.

He will get over it, but he sure as hell doesn't think so now.

I did tell him that 80% of rock songs are about being in love, and of those 80% are about love going bad.

It sounds like it ended like the Bonnie Raitt song, a last night together:

In fairness to the young woman, she told him out of the box that she was never going to be a long termer.

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I remember how I felt the first time when I was dumped by a lover. My mother told me I'd get over it, and boy... (Original Post) NNadir Oct 1 OP

I used to listen to the song by The Bee Gees kimbutgar Oct 1 #1

Someone said to me "you won't feel this way forever" spooky3 Oct 1 #2

Picture the person who rejected you to be a 90 year old senior. Frasier Balzov Oct 1 #3

Yeah good idea. His love for her was not about her looks though. He enjoyed laughing at their troubles together. NNadir Oct 1 #5

Follow doctor's orders JoseBalow Oct 1 #4

It hangs on until you meet someone new womanofthehills Oct 2 #6

kimbutgar

(23,256 posts)

1. I used to listen to the song by The Bee Gees

Reply to NNadir (Original post)

Tue Oct 1, 2024, 09:54 PM

Oct 1

How do you mend a broken heart. Play it after a week slyly.

spooky3

(36,194 posts)

2. Someone said to me "you won't feel this way forever"

Reply to NNadir (Original post)

Tue Oct 1, 2024, 09:56 PM

Oct 1

When I was in pain. A simple sentence but it really helped.

Frasier Balzov

(3,481 posts)

3. Picture the person who rejected you to be a 90 year old senior.

Reply to NNadir (Original post)

Tue Oct 1, 2024, 10:13 PM

Oct 1

That very same person with their youthful allure gone.

It helps!

NNadir

(34,659 posts)

5. Yeah good idea. His love for her was not about her looks though. He enjoyed laughing at their troubles together.

Reply to Frasier Balzov (Reply #3)

Tue Oct 1, 2024, 11:02 PM

Oct 1

I feel bad for him; although I'm fully aware it will pass, even if he doesn't believe it.

JoseBalow

(5,138 posts)

4. Follow doctor's orders

Reply to NNadir (Original post)

Tue Oct 1, 2024, 10:31 PM

Oct 1

womanofthehills

(9,265 posts)

6. It hangs on until you meet someone new

Reply to JoseBalow (Reply #4)

Wed Oct 2, 2024, 12:01 AM

Oct 2

When I was young I would be upset over a breakup till I dated someone new.

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