Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

BWdem4life

(2,514 posts)
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:03 AM Oct 2024

My daughter just shared the happy news...

She has earned her Associate of Arts!



She is 29. Me being poor, (and a single dad to boot), I was unable to pay for college. I warned her very strongly against student loans, and told her there was really no rush. I myself have no degree - I washed out early due to the high cost (even in 1987 it was too much for me), went to work and never got one.

Opportunity came when she broke up with her boyfriend in 2020 and moved in with me and my fiance. At that point she was 25. I told her that as long as she was going to school, she could pay $200 rent. She took the bull by the horns, got financial aid and worked part time, went to community college.

Persistence has paid off and she has her first degree. She is now at a good, but relatively inexpensive 4-year institution, working on a BS in Chemistry. Why chemistry? Heck if I know... I was lousy in Chemistry. But I'm sure it will open all kinds of doors for her. She had to move in with her grandma because it was too far away, which is actually very helpful to my mom as her husband has cancer now

At any rate, that's my boast for the day!

49 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
My daughter just shared the happy news... (Original Post) BWdem4life Oct 2024 OP
Congratulations, this is wonderful news FakeNoose Oct 2024 #1
Great news. Good for her. underpants Oct 2024 #2
Good news is great to hear! Not boasting at all! Hope22 Oct 2024 #3
Chemistry? Excellent choice Easterncedar Oct 2024 #4
Yes, not easy, but leads to a lifetime of delights and employment. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2024 #8
#1 reason to boast, and good for you AND your daughter. a kennedy Oct 2024 #5
Sending the vibes to all of you! Faux pas Oct 2024 #6
The little things are actually big things when you cachukis Oct 2024 #7
Fantastic! MLAA Oct 2024 #9
Congratulations to you and your daughter. debm55 Oct 2024 #10
Fantastic news! No wonder you're proud.... Tanuki Oct 2024 #11
WOW, SUPER for her!! robleb Oct 2024 #12
Congratulations to her and you! You have every reason to be proud and boast! liberalla Oct 2024 #13
Woohoo! iluvtennis Oct 2024 #14
I am a chemist and it is a pleasure to welcome a young woman to our profession. NNadir Oct 2024 #15
Congratulations to you both! Chemistry is an awesome choice. woodsprite Oct 2024 #16
This is great - TBF Oct 2024 #17
Congratulations, well done by all. Chemistry is a wonderful field which can lead to many opportunities. c-rational Oct 2024 #18
Good for her! I know you must be very proud. I wish her well. LoisB Oct 2024 #19
Kudos to your daughter zeusdogmom Oct 2024 #20
Congratulations! And some advice from a former academic administrator MyMission Oct 2024 #21
That's just great! people Oct 2024 #22
Congratulations! I know exactly how you feel yobrault1 Oct 2024 #23
A BS in Chemistry can open doors Biglinda 52 Oct 2024 #24
Well done sir! LittleGirl Oct 2024 #25
Very inspiring story! karin_sj Oct 2024 #26
Fabulous! Tell her all the good people on DU are proud of her!!! Karadeniz Oct 2024 #27
I will! nt BWdem4life Oct 2024 #29
That is a wonderful accomplishment!! CrispyQ Oct 2024 #28
Congrats! Wishing all the best for her and you! (n/t) Moostache Oct 2024 #30
Congratulations to your daughter! DemonGoddess Oct 2024 #31
Fabulous! leftieNanner Oct 2024 #32
Terrific news!!! calimary Oct 2024 #33
I've been telling a lot of kids that an AD will net them a job that pays the bills Warpy Oct 2024 #34
wonderful for you & her!!! bluboid Oct 2024 #35
Good job Figarosmom Oct 2024 #36
Soooooo happy for all of you! What an accomplishment!!! Liberal In Red State Oct 2024 #37
Congrats malaise Oct 2024 #38
Congratulations to both of you! That is how I got my college degrees, some decades ago. Ziggysmom Oct 2024 #39
Congratulations! You should be very proud. PittBlue Oct 2024 #40
Excellent news! Ligyron Oct 2024 #41
Congratulations to your daughter! It is a wonderful achievement! HeartsCanHope Oct 2024 #42
Chemistry is a great career choice -- my dad was a food chemist, flavorist & scientist for over 50 years Bluejeans Oct 2024 #43
That is WONDERFUL!!!! GeoWilliam750 Oct 2024 #44
Congrats bdamomma Oct 2024 #45
kudos to you, too Skittles Oct 2024 #46
How awesome congratulations to her ,and go proud daddy!! FirstLight Oct 2024 #47
Excellent!! catchnrelease Oct 2024 #48
Good for her Old Crank Oct 2024 #49

FakeNoose

(37,600 posts)
1. Congratulations, this is wonderful news
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:08 AM
Oct 2024

Your daughter made some great choices and she did the hard work to get ahead. Meanwhile you gave her awesome advice, and you gave her a chance to spread her wings. It's a win-win!

Hope22

(4,000 posts)
3. Good news is great to hear! Not boasting at all!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:10 AM
Oct 2024

Congratulations to your daughter! 😁👍

Easterncedar

(4,503 posts)
4. Chemistry? Excellent choice
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:10 AM
Oct 2024

She’s not taking the easy road. Of course you are proud. Well done you! Thanks for sharing the good news!

MLAA

(19,285 posts)
9. Fantastic!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:29 AM
Oct 2024

A degree in Chemistry will serve her well, either directly using her degree or in another field just demonstrating she was smart enough to achieve such a difficult degree! Go, daughter!

Tanuki

(15,910 posts)
11. Fantastic news! No wonder you're proud....
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:35 AM
Oct 2024

I'm beaming with pride on her behalf and I don't know either of you! But her intelligence and hard work are definitely paying off and creating a bright, rewarding future for her!

NNadir

(36,019 posts)
15. I am a chemist and it is a pleasure to welcome a young woman to our profession.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:57 AM
Oct 2024

I regard it as a very satisfying career, one that serves humanity in subtle but essential ways and offers the highest level of intellectual satisfaction.

Congratulations all around. I wish your family every success in the world.

woodsprite

(12,450 posts)
16. Congratulations to you both! Chemistry is an awesome choice.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:00 AM
Oct 2024

It reaches into so many areas. I have friends and family who have chemistry backgrounds that have found their spots in fashion merchandising, fire protection engineering, art conservation, historic preservation, a paint company, and medical fields, to name a few. It's so exciting as a parent to see doors open for our children.

TBF

(35,135 posts)
17. This is great -
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:04 AM
Oct 2024

you did a lot just by providing housing! I am certain she is grateful for the support, and it is a blessing that she's able to help your mom in return. (My siblings and I did state colleges too - we were the first generation in our family to go to college)

c-rational

(3,048 posts)
18. Congratulations, well done by all. Chemistry is a wonderful field which can lead to many opportunities.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:11 AM
Oct 2024

MyMission

(2,007 posts)
21. Congratulations! And some advice from a former academic administrator
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:34 AM
Oct 2024

I suggest she take 12 additional credits in education so she can be certified to teach!
Working in higher ed for many years, I suggested this to many students, and the ones that did so were always grateful. Majoring in Science, History, English, Art whatever, having a teaching certificate can open doors and offer options after graduation. I'll add that I did not do that, and ended up teaching with a provisional license and needed to go back to school for 12 credits to get certified. That's my unsolicited advice. Please share it with your daughter.
I know you're proud of her!

yobrault1

(181 posts)
23. Congratulations! I know exactly how you feel
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:37 AM
Oct 2024

I did the same with my daughter, she got her computer science degree over a 10 year span but ended up with $0 student debt because she stayed home, worked to pay for every semester until she was done. Now she makes more money than I do but she is not burdened with massive student debt and can save towards buying her first home.

It's very rewarding, even though I could not pay for her education, I provided, as did you, an enabling environment for her to achieve her goals.

Biglinda 52

(111 posts)
24. A BS in Chemistry can open doors
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:40 AM
Oct 2024

My neighbor's daughter has a BS in Chem and she's a food chemist. She also has a side (unpaid) gig with America's Test kitchen as a recipe tester. Congrats to your daughter!

LittleGirl

(8,771 posts)
25. Well done sir!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:43 AM
Oct 2024

I finished my degree at age 45 and I was so happy about how long it took and how important it was to me. I had to get a couple of student loans while I took classes so that my employer could repay me when I passed the test. They wouldn't cover every single class but it helped to pay for 95% of them. When I got reimbursed, I was debt free. Good for her! I'm so happy to see another young woman put in the work to be successful! Yay.

karin_sj

(1,218 posts)
26. Very inspiring story!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:48 AM
Oct 2024

Congratulations to her for being such a responsible and caring person, and to you for raising and supporting such a great person!

CrispyQ

(39,805 posts)
28. That is a wonderful accomplishment!!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 11:55 AM
Oct 2024


And a good degree, too! It was his knowledge of chemistry that saved Captain Kirk from the gorn.

leftieNanner

(15,980 posts)
32. Fabulous!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 12:56 PM
Oct 2024

If she chooses to go the distance and get a PhD in chemistry, the grad school will be free and she will be paid a stipend.

My daughter did, and is now an assistant professor in that field.

Congratulations 🎉

Warpy

(113,542 posts)
34. I've been telling a lot of kids that an AD will net them a job that pays the bills
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 01:22 PM
Oct 2024

and once they can do that, they can sart thinking about working on that BA or BS without incurring a crippling amount of debt . It's not the easiest way, but it can be done.

Ziggysmom

(3,813 posts)
39. Congratulations to both of you! That is how I got my college degrees, some decades ago.
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 03:48 PM
Oct 2024

In the real, working world you get ahead by hard work and what you know, not where your diplomas came from. I work in IT and often meet new grads who have massive student loan debt. All that status of attending a snooty private college has long worn off. Hope you two can celebrate together.

Bluejeans

(110 posts)
43. Chemistry is a great career choice -- my dad was a food chemist, flavorist & scientist for over 50 years
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 05:34 PM
Oct 2024

Tell your daughter to look into chemist jobs in the food industry, especially jobs for "flavorists". My dad specialized in flavors for food, drinks and pharmaceuticals.

You may have run across my dad's work when you were raising your daughter. My dad invented the sweet candy grape flavor for Children's Dimetapp!

Here's an article explaining what a "flavorist" does on a daily basis:

https://www.owlguru.com/career/flavorists/

FirstLight

(15,261 posts)
47. How awesome congratulations to her ,and go proud daddy!!
Wed Oct 30, 2024, 10:31 PM
Oct 2024

Im back at my BA at 54... Scared as fuck but what the hell else am I gonna do? My body can't keep up with the old jobs I used to work, so here we go!

Chemistry is no joke! Good for her!!

catchnrelease

(2,086 posts)
48. Excellent!!
Thu Oct 31, 2024, 12:40 AM
Oct 2024

She's got smarts doing things the way she has been doing. Two of my grandkids have taken the same route. Junior college first two years, got themselves some aid and are now both in a state college that's near home. So one commutes the short distance from home and the other shares an apartment with other young women. They should both be able to graduate without the horrible loan debt. Congrats to your daughter and her proud dad!!

Old Crank

(5,755 posts)
49. Good for her
Thu Oct 31, 2024, 08:36 AM
Oct 2024

Wish her good luck wtih her chemistry studies.
That course in college was a real struggle for me. Not the lab parts the other stuff, valence levels and the like.
Now my wife didn't pursue a liberal arts type degree because that would have been hard. She did chemistry and later developed a chemical storage system based on reactivity to store them.

Latest Discussions»The DU Lounge»My daughter just shared t...