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BlueKota

(5,127 posts) Sat Nov 8, 2025, 08:59 AM Nov 8

Is there a polite way to say I am not up for company today?

Usually my cousin stops in to take my trash to the town recycling center, and then stops back for a two hour visit. I only got four hours sleep last night, and I cried myself to sleep. I am not in any shape to put on a happy face and hold up my part of the conversation.

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Is there a polite way to say I am not up for company today? (Original Post) BlueKota Nov 8 OP

Will you take a Raincheck? no_hypocrisy Nov 8 #1

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 8 #2

Stay in bed and leave a note on the door viva la Nov 8 #3

Thank you BlueKota Nov 8 #6

Or just text it to the person. SheltieLover Nov 8 #13

Being honest usually works better than inventing a bogus reason to cancel. Chasstev365 Nov 8 #4

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 8 #7

If you are not feeling well, simply tell your cousin so, mwmisses4289 Nov 8 #5

Thank you! BlueKota Nov 8 #8

I'm not feeling well. Thank you for understanding. ZDU Nov 8 #9

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 8 #10

As several have suggested, when your cousin stops to pick up the trash, thank him, and then Fla Dem Nov 8 #11

Get some sleep justaprogressive Nov 8 #12

no_hypocrisy

(54,524 posts)

1. Will you take a Raincheck?

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:02 AM

Nov 8

BlueKota

(5,127 posts)

2. Thank you.

Reply to no_hypocrisy (Reply #1)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:04 AM

Nov 8

We are both retired so maybe he can stop in later this week.

viva la

(4,540 posts)

3. Stay in bed and leave a note on the door

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:13 AM

Nov 8

"I had a bad night. Im going to sleep in. Let's talk next week."

BlueKota

(5,127 posts)

6. Thank you

Reply to viva la (Reply #3)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:35 AM

Nov 8

SheltieLover

(78,037 posts)

13. Or just text it to the person.

Reply to BlueKota (Reply #6)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 11:52 AM

Nov 8

Chasstev365

(7,341 posts)

4. Being honest usually works better than inventing a bogus reason to cancel.

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:17 AM

Nov 8

BlueKota

(5,127 posts)

7. Thank you.

Reply to Chasstev365 (Reply #4)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:36 AM

Nov 8

mwmisses4289

(3,491 posts)

5. If you are not feeling well, simply tell your cousin so,

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:21 AM

Nov 8

and as somebody else up thread said, ask for a rain check.

Edited to add: Hope you get to feeling better.

BlueKota

(5,127 posts)

8. Thank you!

Reply to mwmisses4289 (Reply #5)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:36 AM

Nov 8

ZDU

(1,149 posts)

9. I'm not feeling well. Thank you for understanding.

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:02 AM

Nov 8

BlueKota

(5,127 posts)

10. Thank you.

Reply to ZDU (Reply #9)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:11 AM

Nov 8

I will tell him that.

Fla Dem

(27,473 posts)

11. As several have suggested, when your cousin stops to pick up the trash, thank him, and then

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:40 AM

Nov 8

just say .....I enjoy our visits but I'm really not feeling great today. So I'll be going back to lay down after you go. Have a good weekend and again thanks for picking up my trash.

Just a suggestion.

Hope you feel better soon.

justaprogressive

(6,508 posts)

12. Get some sleep

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 11:23 AM

Nov 8

eat some chocolate! Feel Better!

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