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BlueKota

(5,269 posts) Sat Nov 8, 2025, 09:59 AM Nov 2025

Is there a polite way to say I am not up for company today?

Usually my cousin stops in to take my trash to the town recycling center, and then stops back for a two hour visit. I only got four hours sleep last night, and I cried myself to sleep. I am not in any shape to put on a happy face and hold up my part of the conversation.

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Is there a polite way to say I am not up for company today? (Original Post) BlueKota Nov 2025 OP

Will you take a Raincheck? no_hypocrisy Nov 2025 #1

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 2025 #2

Stay in bed and leave a note on the door viva la Nov 2025 #3

Thank you BlueKota Nov 2025 #6

Or just text it to the person. SheltieLover Nov 2025 #13

Being honest usually works better than inventing a bogus reason to cancel. Chasstev365 Nov 2025 #4

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 2025 #7

If you are not feeling well, simply tell your cousin so, mwmisses4289 Nov 2025 #5

Thank you! BlueKota Nov 2025 #8

I'm not feeling well. Thank you for understanding. ZDU Nov 2025 #9

Thank you. BlueKota Nov 2025 #10

As several have suggested, when your cousin stops to pick up the trash, thank him, and then Fla Dem Nov 2025 #11

Get some sleep justaprogressive Nov 2025 #12

no_hypocrisy

(54,780 posts)

1. Will you take a Raincheck?

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:02 AM

Nov 2025

BlueKota

(5,269 posts)

2. Thank you.

Reply to no_hypocrisy (Reply #1)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:04 AM

Nov 2025

We are both retired so maybe he can stop in later this week.

viva la

(4,586 posts)

3. Stay in bed and leave a note on the door

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:13 AM

Nov 2025

"I had a bad night. Im going to sleep in. Let's talk next week."

BlueKota

(5,269 posts)

6. Thank you

Reply to viva la (Reply #3)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:35 AM

Nov 2025

SheltieLover

(79,705 posts)

13. Or just text it to the person.

Reply to BlueKota (Reply #6)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 12:52 PM

Nov 2025

Chasstev365

(7,628 posts)

4. Being honest usually works better than inventing a bogus reason to cancel.

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:17 AM

Nov 2025

BlueKota

(5,269 posts)

7. Thank you.

Reply to Chasstev365 (Reply #4)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:36 AM

Nov 2025

mwmisses4289

(3,896 posts)

5. If you are not feeling well, simply tell your cousin so,

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:21 AM

Nov 2025

and as somebody else up thread said, ask for a rain check.

Edited to add: Hope you get to feeling better.

BlueKota

(5,269 posts)

8. Thank you!

Reply to mwmisses4289 (Reply #5)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 10:36 AM

Nov 2025

ZDU

(1,203 posts)

9. I'm not feeling well. Thank you for understanding.

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 11:02 AM

Nov 2025

BlueKota

(5,269 posts)

10. Thank you.

Reply to ZDU (Reply #9)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 11:11 AM

Nov 2025

I will tell him that.

Fla Dem

(27,566 posts)

11. As several have suggested, when your cousin stops to pick up the trash, thank him, and then

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 11:40 AM

Nov 2025

just say .....I enjoy our visits but I'm really not feeling great today. So I'll be going back to lay down after you go. Have a good weekend and again thanks for picking up my trash.

Just a suggestion.

Hope you feel better soon.

justaprogressive

(6,850 posts)

12. Get some sleep

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Sat Nov 8, 2025, 12:23 PM

Nov 2025

eat some chocolate! Feel Better!

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