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babylonsister

(171,611 posts) Fri Jul 7, 2023, 04:51 PM Jul 2023

Suggestions requested... (UPDATE)

Last edited Sat Jul 8, 2023, 05:17 PM - Edit history (1)

Hi, DU.

My twin sister was admitted into a hospice in La Mesa yesterday. She is dying of bone cancer and she doesn't have much time left. I am going to try to get to CA next week but about passed out when I saw hotel prices for places around there. Over $200/night for a Motel 6??? Jeeze. Am wondering if anyone has any ideas for alternate housing? I will probably try to see if an Air B&B is any cheaper so suggestions for those would also be welcome.

I guess while I'm at it, we also need to rent a car. Any suggestions on what might be cheaper options besides the usual suspects?

I knew Cali was expensive, but every time I've been in the past decade it's been to visit with her in/on the Baja. I most definitely am suffering from sticker shock!

Thanks for any ideas!

UPDATE: I cannot believe I'm typing this, but my sister just died. Thank you all for caring.

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Suggestions requested... (UPDATE) (Original Post) babylonsister Jul 2023 OP

Any hospital-affiliated housing? Easterncedar Jul 2023 #1

I have no idea but babylonsister Jul 2023 #3

Are you able to MOMFUDSKI Jul 2023 #2

No. She lives in babylonsister Jul 2023 #4

There are several hostels in the La Mesa area. Phoenix61 Jul 2023 #5

Another lead, thanks! nt babylonsister Jul 2023 #9

Call the social worker affiliated to your sisters case. sheshe2 Jul 2023 #6

She doesn't have a babylonsister Jul 2023 #10

If you have hospice, a social worker is assigned. sheshe2 Jul 2023 #14

She just got there last night. babylonsister Jul 2023 #15

Hugs, Bsis, sheshe2 Jul 2023 #16

It's likely the hospice has nearby housing to accomodate family blm Jul 2023 #7

I'll be calling in the morning. babylonsister Jul 2023 #11

Would you consider staying in her hospital room with her? wryter2000 Jul 2023 #8

I could stay there, I think, babylonsister Jul 2023 #12

I'm so glad she'll have support from all those people wryter2000 Jul 2023 #18

Peace and strength. quaint Jul 2023 #13

I am very sorry about your sister. I believe a social worker is assigned to everyone who is in LoisB Jul 2023 #17

Easterncedar

(3,531 posts)

1. Any hospital-affiliated housing?

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 04:52 PM

Jul 2023

Some oncology programs offer places for family to stay.

I’m sorry for you and your sister. Hugs.

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

3. I have no idea but

Reply to Easterncedar (Reply #1)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 04:53 PM

Jul 2023

will call this hospice tomorrow and ask. Thanks for that!

MOMFUDSKI

(7,080 posts)

2. Are you able to

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 04:53 PM

Jul 2023

stay in her house?

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

4. No. She lives in

Reply to MOMFUDSKI (Reply #2)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 04:55 PM

Jul 2023

Rosarito, MX. Way too far and crossing that border is a bear without a resident pass.

Phoenix61

(17,649 posts)

5. There are several hostels in the La Mesa area.

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:00 PM

Jul 2023

It’s nice to have the full kitchen and on-site washer/dryer access.

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

9. Another lead, thanks! nt

Reply to Phoenix61 (Reply #5)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:31 PM

Jul 2023

sheshe2

(87,514 posts)

6. Call the social worker affiliated to your sisters case.

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:06 PM

Jul 2023

They can help that is what they are there for. They are not there solely for the patient, they are there for the family.

They were good and so helpful when I needed them while taking care of mom. I had been called to Federal jury duty, that is 18 months service, when it was just 2 of us doing home care for mom. It was solved immediately.

Bsis, so sorry to hear about your sis.

Love and hugs to you and yours.

Peace to you and yours.

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

10. She doesn't have a

Reply to sheshe2 (Reply #6)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:33 PM

Jul 2023

social worker, her husband had been taking care of her until it got to be too much.

And thanks, she. We all have our crosses to bear, this is a big one.

sheshe2

(87,514 posts)

14. If you have hospice, a social worker is assigned.

Reply to babylonsister (Reply #10)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 06:06 PM

Jul 2023

At least they do in MA. I had no clue until my sister told me.

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

15. She just got there last night.

Reply to sheshe2 (Reply #14)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 06:21 PM

Jul 2023

She no longer texts or talks on phone, so don't know yet what's going on.

sheshe2

(87,514 posts)

16. Hugs, Bsis,

Reply to babylonsister (Reply #15)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 06:23 PM

Jul 2023

blm

(113,822 posts)

7. It's likely the hospice has nearby housing to accomodate family

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:14 PM

Jul 2023

of patients at affordable rates.

Holding you in my heart, babysis. 💗

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

11. I'll be calling in the morning.

Reply to blm (Reply #7)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:34 PM

Jul 2023

And thanks, my friend.

wryter2000

(47,474 posts)

8. Would you consider staying in her hospital room with her?

Reply to babylonsister (Original post)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:20 PM

Jul 2023

The medical center where I worked built a new hospital a few years ago. All the rooms are private, and all have a bed/couch for someone to stay with the patient. I don't know how many hospitals do that, but it's worth asking.

And calling the hospice or the social worker is a good idea. They may have other ideas for you. Wishing you strength at this difficult time and a peaceful passing for your sister.

BTW, DU has a bereavement group you can check out for support.

babylonsister

(171,611 posts)

12. I could stay there, I think,

Reply to wryter2000 (Reply #8)

Fri Jul 7, 2023, 05:38 PM

Jul 2023

but I have my bf coming with me for support,to drive and because he offered. Plus, her hubby, son, daughter, might want to stay with her. Yes, I'll be calling hospice.

And thank you!