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NNadir

(34,532 posts)
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:04 PM Dec 2022

Here's the 10 things I love about this weird state, NJ.

I’ve lived in N.J. for 6 months. Here’s the 10 things I love about this weird state.

Some excerpts:



1. Jersey is tolerant. As a Muslim Arab, I’ve had issues in the deep red South — that’s putting it mildly. Up here, however, diversity, acceptance and inclusion are a way of life. No one cares where I came from (Damascus, Syria by the way, if you haven’t read my previous “coming to N.J.” stories). No one is pointing fingers and asking me if I was a terrorist, which happened more than 50 times in my three decades in Alabama...

...2. Jersey is diverse. The beautiful tapestry of humanity translates here in all avenues of culture including music, arts, food, customs, fashion and social and popular institutions; and acceptance of this diverse culture in the norm. When it’s cold, (I thought Alabama was cold!), I wear the Arabic turban as a scarf, which elicits no reaction here...

...4. Jersey is beautiful. In a couple of hours or less, you may cross the Garden State, from the beach — sorry, the Shore — to the mountains with everything in between. The variety of landscapes between the cosmopolitan, more city-like North Jersey and the farmlands of South Jersey — and the suburban splendor of something called Central Jersey — is just lovely...

...7. Jersey is an international food hub. I’ve been blown away by the variety of cuisines spanning the state; every town might as well be the food court at the United Nations. Paterson is a good example. I implore you to read my in-depth story about that international food mecca here. The beauty of it all is that food lovingly connects people, and this world with all its problems needs more loving connections...

...9. Jersey is locked in a hilarious civil war...

...10. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, Jersey has an untouchable quality. Beyond the acceptance, diversity, culture, pride, weather and all the other definable attributes of my new home, the Garden State has something I can’t put my finger on, an essence that is just there, like the wind, always surrounding me — and all of us — without announcing the source. There is an elusive characteristic to New Jersey, something I’m still trying to understand. If you have any idea what it is — and it’s not the smell around Exit 13 on the Turnpike — please let me know...


Especially #10. An ineffable nirvana.
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Here's the 10 things I love about this weird state, NJ. (Original Post) NNadir Dec 2022 OP
I grew up in Jersey...Bergen County. GP6971 Dec 2022 #1
I grew up in Wallington. FalloutShelter Dec 2022 #3
My grandparents and later GP6971 Dec 2022 #6
Is the bowling alley still there? MacKasey Dec 2022 #7
Yep... FalloutShelter Dec 2022 #9
I grew up on Long Island, and growing up, I thought New Jersey was, well, Exit 13. NNadir Dec 2022 #12
I grew up in Queens bordering Nassau County Mossfern Dec 2022 #14
Well, you know, the Congressional district of Northwestern Suffolk, Northern Nassau, and North... NNadir Jan 2023 #17
Shhhh..... Mossfern Jan 2023 #18
Good point. I saw it happen to California. It was actually a nice place... NNadir Jan 2023 #19
Talking about food, who has been to Rut's Hut MacKasey Dec 2022 #2
OMG Ruts Hut... FalloutShelter Dec 2022 #4
The Creamator..... 3Hotdogs Dec 2022 #5
I grew up there IbogaProject Dec 2022 #8
When I worked in Lower Manhattan I sometimes envied those across the Hudson... SeattleVet Dec 2022 #10
I live in NY near the N Jersey border Woodswalker Dec 2022 #11
My first job after college I traveled to South Jersey frequently. twodogsbarking Dec 2022 #13
The Jersey Civil War... PXR-5 Jan 2023 #15
I live in a border county between N and S Jersey, Mercer County. NNadir Jan 2023 #16
It's pork roll and has been since 1906 Rocknation Apr 2023 #22
#4 - because JustAnotherGen Feb 2023 #20
Moved to Jersey circa 1995 -- not because NYC had gotten too expensive Rocknation Apr 2023 #21

GP6971

(32,786 posts)
1. I grew up in Jersey...Bergen County.
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:18 PM
Dec 2022

I loved it growing up there, but honestly don't miss it. Except for the bagels and pizza! Oh...and the great little delis.

FalloutShelter

(12,711 posts)
3. I grew up in Wallington.
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:35 PM
Dec 2022

I'm always visiting family in Bergen and still love the Shore.
I do think there is an almost palpable vibe.
I have lived and loved other places but New Jersey still seems like home.
Just a Jersey girl.

GP6971

(32,786 posts)
6. My grandparents and later
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:43 PM
Dec 2022

my parents always had a summer house in Bay Head. I probably miss that the most.

FalloutShelter

(12,711 posts)
9. Yep...
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:50 PM
Dec 2022

Haven't been in it for over thirty years, but have passed it often enough. Still there on Paterson Avenue.

NNadir

(34,532 posts)
12. I grew up on Long Island, and growing up, I thought New Jersey was, well, Exit 13.
Sat Dec 10, 2022, 07:29 AM
Dec 2022

I lived for much of my adult life in California, including the early years of my marriage.

My wife, who grew up on Staten Island, the New York extension of Exit 13, although to her credit she agreed to go sight unseen, cried when we left California for New Jersey when I was made an offer I couldn't refuse.

Now neither one of us want to live anywhere else. I don't miss Long Island, and I certainly don't miss California, at least what it costs to live there.

We live in the Princeton area.

Mossfern

(3,067 posts)
14. I grew up in Queens bordering Nassau County
Sun Dec 11, 2022, 02:57 PM
Dec 2022

and I too thought that all of New Jersey was like Exit 13. My husband dragged me kicking and screaming from our apartment in Manhattan to "that place." I've lived here 43 years and can't think of any place to which I would want to relocate. I live in Essex County and am merely a short train ride away from NY Penn station. My 130+ year old house borders on a beautiful Olmsted park and can view the lake from my kitchen window. I do have to say though that the Jersey shore is not like LI beaches - especially that the sun rises and sets in the wrong direction!

NNadir

(34,532 posts)
17. Well, you know, the Congressional district of Northwestern Suffolk, Northern Nassau, and North...
Sat Jan 7, 2023, 05:03 PM
Jan 2023

...Eastern Queens is now George Santos's district.

Having lived there, I get it.

Of course, when I lived in San Diego, my Congress person for a time was Randy "Duke" Cunningham, who ultimately went to prison for corruption. He was a real right wing loser kind of guy as well.

In New Jersey, I got to have Rush Holt as my Congress person, in my opinion, the finest Congressional representative possible. His replacement, when he decided to leave the House, Bonnie Watson Coleman, is a fine Congress person, but she isn't Rush Holt.

I'd be embarrassed as hell if my Congress person was George Santos; I'm glad I escaped Long Island; I'm glad I escaped California and landed in nirvana, New Jersey.

Mossfern

(3,067 posts)
18. Shhhh.....
Sat Jan 7, 2023, 05:21 PM
Jan 2023

don't tell anyone! Let them think of NJ as the "armpit" of the nation.
We're already the most densely populated state in the country and don't need any more development.
My former Congressman was Bill Pascrell, now it's Payne.(gerrymandering) Two of my kids interned for Pascrell.

NNadir

(34,532 posts)
19. Good point. I saw it happen to California. It was actually a nice place...
Sat Jan 7, 2023, 10:29 PM
Jan 2023

...when I moved there to escape Long Island. (That was a very long time ago.)

Then everybody in the United States starting moving there, just as I did.

My wife and I were chatting about California this afternoon.

We were chatting this afternoon about whether we should visit California some time, for a trip down memory lane, but decided it would probably be depressing. It's much nicer to be in New Jersey.

You're on to something. It's fine with me if people think of New Jersey as the national armpit, as you so eloquently put it. Let's keep the reality our private secret.

MacKasey

(1,167 posts)
2. Talking about food, who has been to Rut's Hut
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:30 PM
Dec 2022

I am a former Jersey girl, gone over 30 years but I still talk Jersey.

Comfort food
Taylor ham, fried egg and cheese on a hard roll.

Exit 13 is Elizabeth , and you are between port Newark and port Elizabeth. Which includes the Passaic river which is very polluted

Passaic is cleaner up by Patterson.

There are oil refineries in Linden which is next to Elizabeth.

Also public service electric and gas us in Linden

There is just a lot of factories in that area

IbogaProject

(3,582 posts)
8. I grew up there
Fri Dec 9, 2022, 11:47 PM
Dec 2022

I grew up down very close to Philadelphia. I've lived in cities my entire adult life. But NJ has a lot of depth and you can set up a good life if you find a good job or livelihood.

SeattleVet

(5,582 posts)
10. When I worked in Lower Manhattan I sometimes envied those across the Hudson...
Sat Dec 10, 2022, 01:05 AM
Dec 2022

they had a much better view! They got to look at the NYC skyline, while we looked across at New Jersey!

 

Woodswalker

(549 posts)
11. I live in NY near the N Jersey border
Sat Dec 10, 2022, 02:03 AM
Dec 2022

and travel into Jersey often for estate sales etc and have to say it beautiful. Great places to eat, cool pubs, nice scenery. And the women are always more attractive in progressive areas I've noticed.

twodogsbarking

(12,228 posts)
13. My first job after college I traveled to South Jersey frequently.
Sat Dec 10, 2022, 09:42 AM
Dec 2022

People didn't wait to know you to be nice to you. They were nice from the start.
Even being a hick from the sticks didn't matter.

NNadir

(34,532 posts)
16. I live in a border county between N and S Jersey, Mercer County.
Sat Jan 7, 2023, 04:42 PM
Jan 2023

Besides that, I can have no opinion on whatsoever on the name of ham. I emigrated from California to the superior State of New Jersey; I lived, for a time among Southern California hippies, where I learned to become a lactovegetarian. It's one of the few parts of California culture I retain. As such, I don't eat ham and thus have no opinion on what to call it.

Rocknation

(44,883 posts)
22. It's pork roll and has been since 1906
Sun Apr 9, 2023, 03:02 PM
Apr 2023

when the government declared that its ingredients do not meet the "legal" definition of ham.


rocknation

Rocknation

(44,883 posts)
21. Moved to Jersey circa 1995 -- not because NYC had gotten too expensive
Sun Apr 9, 2023, 02:51 AM
Apr 2023

Last edited Thu Nov 9, 2023, 05:57 PM - Edit history (21)

but because I'd come to realize that I'd been born to be a Jersey girl...despite having been born in the Bronx.

P.S. There is no such place as Central New Jersey: with a vertical reach of barely 175 miles, New Jersey is just too plain short to have a credible central region.



North Jersey consists of the counties of Mercer, Middlesex, and the counties north of them; the rest is South Jersey (including Monmouth County, because it shares a border with the Jersey Shore's Atlantic Ocean). Thank you and good night.

P.P.S. And it's pork roll -- In 1906, the government decreed that way it was made, it doesn't qualify to be classified as ham.


Rocknation

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