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realmirage

(2,117 posts)
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 02:02 AM Jun 2016

Hillary supporters and expecting too much too fast from Sanders supporters

I have supported Hillary since she ran the first time around. I am very happy with her success in the primaries, to put it mildly. But I don't expect everyone who passionately supported a different candidate to just, one day after Hillary clinches, forget all these months of pushing for their candidate and jump on board with another one, even though that candidate is in the same party. Even Olympians are crushed when they lose to a fellow American who is on the same team. The best of them are graceful in defeat and then they retreat somewhere alone and fully experience the process of absorbing the loss. It is not easy.

Not everyone is graceful. But I think just like most Hillary fans have been quietly voting, not getting involved in the melees, there are many Sanders supporters who aren't lashing out, they are just quietly watching and going through the process of first accepting Hillary as the nominee, then actually getting to know her. There are some on this site that are really not able to process the loss on any level, and their threads are not pretty, but they're not the majority of Sanders supporters. But no matter what, everyone deserves that space and time to go through the process. That doesn't mean I let anyone shit on me. But that also doesn't mean I am baffled that all of them don't just switch gears within 24 hours and support Hillary. We've got plenty of time. Within a couple of months most of the holdouts will have completely worked through all this, and most will still be Democrats. The rest you never could do anything about anyway.



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Hillary supporters and expecting too much too fast from Sanders supporters (Original Post) realmirage Jun 2016 OP
Thank you for... JSup Jun 2016 #1
Ever had a fight with a family member? realmirage Jun 2016 #2
Oh, definitely... JSup Jun 2016 #25
It will take time. I agree. BainsBane Jun 2016 #3
I think he will, I believe Sanders after DC is going to drop out Legends303 Jun 2016 #18
Thanks. I think you got it exactly right. Arkansas Granny Jun 2016 #4
Yes time and space are what's needed in the days after a loss, heck even after a win! Her Sister Jun 2016 #5
Are you on ricks list of Hillary supporters? stonecutter357 Jun 2016 #6
I don't know how many will ever come around Stuckinthebush Jun 2016 #7
Thanks for the reality check, Stuck. Cha Jun 2016 #9
Good morning Cha. stonecutter357 Jun 2016 #12
You, too.. thanks for your Reality Check and Good Cha Jun 2016 #13
I'd say a lot of Hillary supporters will need time also realmirage Jun 2016 #16
It is a small group wryter2000 Jun 2016 #23
Well on the 16th that won't be a problem here anymore realmirage Jun 2016 #24
Wow, SitB, you articulated my thoughts *exactly*. Nothing to add. BlueCaliDem Jun 2016 #28
i completely agree drray23 Jun 2016 #31
I agree that everyone needs space. While it is more difficult for Sanders supporters because they seaglass Jun 2016 #8
Good advice. That's mostly what I do realmirage Jun 2016 #17
Exactly right! DemonGoddess Jun 2016 #21
I just have one suggestion to make to help Sander's people to come to terms with... Walk away Jun 2016 #10
+1 sarae Jun 2016 #15
+1000! DemonGoddess Jun 2016 #22
+ 2000 eom BlueCaliDem Jun 2016 #29
Berners are not going to acknowledge that its over until Bernie does liberal N proud Jun 2016 #11
He's just trying to get leverage in negotiating over realmirage Jun 2016 #19
I tend to agree. TwilightZone Jun 2016 #33
Agree with all of that. Political theater is exactly the right word. realmirage Jun 2016 #35
I agree with this Nonhlanhla Jun 2016 #14
I totally agree. Before the convention in 08 realmirage Jun 2016 #20
But Hillary didn't spend her entire campaign attacking the Democratic party. Walk away Jun 2016 #26
She didn't complain ad naseaum about the process being "rigged" either Proud Liberal Dem Jun 2016 #27
No, and yet it's interesting that unity was even more mangled this time of year in 08. realmirage Jun 2016 #34
I have been very quiet on my Facebook page about who I support. Starry Messenger Jun 2016 #30
Don't take any shit from anyone. I'm just saying it's normal for the losing side to be realmirage Jun 2016 #32

JSup

(740 posts)
1. Thank you for...
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 02:53 AM
Jun 2016

...explaining this in a way that I hope people can understand.

Some of these people are going through actual grief.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
2. Ever had a fight with a family member?
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 03:20 AM
Jun 2016

When the other person's emotions are at their peak, and both of you have said all you wanted to say and it looks like it's time to start looking to end the argument, it's not a great time to walk over and be like, you should calm down this instant and accept that I'm right.

JSup

(740 posts)
25. Oh, definitely...
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 09:31 AM
Jun 2016

...my family was very close; my mom and aunt would fight and one cousin would always side with my mom and my sister would always side with my aunt and... yeah. Not bad memories, though; <3 my family.

Always need the cooling off period.

BainsBane

(54,771 posts)
3. It will take time. I agree.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 03:35 AM
Jun 2016

I'm giving Bernie until DC votes, but many of his supporters will need longer to adjust. For two months, It's been obvious to many of us and even Sanders own campaign staff that he would not win, but his supporters believed his arguments and kept fighting, as they have every right to do.
I'm hoping most will decide to unify around the party by the convention.

That doesn't mean I'll be forgetting about the ones who have been repeatedly insulting, but that's not all of them. Many are good Dems who simply supported a different candidate. I still assert my right to call out BS when I see it, however.

 

Legends303

(481 posts)
18. I think he will, I believe Sanders after DC is going to drop out
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:13 AM
Jun 2016

and we start the unifying process.

Arkansas Granny

(31,827 posts)
4. Thanks. I think you got it exactly right.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 05:19 AM
Jun 2016

There's too much emotion involved right now. I remember how I felt in 2008 when Obama won the nomination even though I had said all along that I would vote for the Democratic nominee.

Give them time and give them space. There's nothing to be gained by pushing them.

 

Her Sister

(6,444 posts)
5. Yes time and space are what's needed in the days after a loss, heck even after a win!
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 05:34 AM
Jun 2016

I have been emotional the last 2 days and my candidate won!

Emotions after a win or loss are powerful and real!

stonecutter357

(12,769 posts)
6. Are you on ricks list of Hillary supporters?
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 06:07 AM
Jun 2016

are constantly called third way are Corporate tool, sellout and the constant hidden post. And you think Sanders supporters are the victims.

Stuckinthebush

(11,027 posts)
7. I don't know how many will ever come around
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 06:13 AM
Jun 2016

This is the result of demonizing one's opponent. He encouraged them to believe that Hillary wasn't just the other candidate but that she was horrid.

They actually believe that she is a republican

They actually believe that she cares more about the wealthy than the masses

They actually believe that she can't wait to start a war

They actually believe that she is a criminal

They actually believe that she rigged the system and bought votes


He never disabused them of these notions. I look at GdP and talk to Bernie supporters I know and many of them are buying these lies hook, line, and sinker. How can they ever come around when the opponent is cast as such a villain? Sanders has lost his chance to mend these fences. He knows there is no hope for his nomination. Yet he continues to play a dangerous game by talking like he does. This doesn't help.

I hope we get 75% of them - the ones who are real Dems and not just independents who have never voted. I hope we do. The other 25% will sit out the general with the smug satisfaction that they made some strange principled stand.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
16. I'd say a lot of Hillary supporters will need time also
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:10 AM
Jun 2016

to get over the ridiculous attacks leveled at Hillary and her supporters. It doesn't really bother me too much because, well, the candidate I wanted won. But think about this- polls released weeks ago said 80 percent of Sanders supporters have already pledged support for Clinton. That means the anger you're experiencing is due to the behavior of a relatively small number of people. 80 percent are reasonable democrats. I'd say that's pretty good, especially when you consider that in 08, pre-convention, only 47% of Hillary supporters were certain they would vote for Obama.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/109957/obama-gains-among-former-clinton-supporters.aspx

wryter2000

(47,455 posts)
23. It is a small group
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:52 AM
Jun 2016

But, man, are they awful. I sat on a jury on the most obnoxious post about Hillary yesterday and almost pulled the alert lever on another one. They're delusional, and I don't think they're going to change. They're the same folk who could see no difference between Gore and Bush.

I only hope once all their obnoxious posts get hidden they crawl back under their rocks, leaving us with the rational Bernie supporters.

Hey, I'm still a Deaniac. I know about disappointment.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
24. Well on the 16th that won't be a problem here anymore
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 09:17 AM
Jun 2016

And I agree, some of the threads are so detached from reality it's hard to believe anyone could see things that way. Usually the more insane the post is, the less likely I am to respond because you know it will be a complete waste of time to engage. I put a some people on ignore, trash threads, and sometimes jump into a debate if I feel like it. But now that things are over, there's no point for me anymore to engage. I'm already in a general election mindset.

drray23

(7,962 posts)
31. i completely agree
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 03:32 PM
Jun 2016

The most damaging of these lies was that she rigged the system and bought votes.
What Sanders achieved by pushing or at least encouraging this meme is to make millions of young people
believe that voting does not matter since "its rigged". This does not bode well for the future. You do not advance your cause
by demoralizing the next generation of voters.

seaglass

(8,177 posts)
8. I agree that everyone needs space. While it is more difficult for Sanders supporters because they
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 06:24 AM
Jun 2016

need to process the loss of a dream, I think Hillary supporters also need space to process the vile attacks they have been subject to for the last year from members of our own community.

My choice is to recommend positive Hillary threads and stay clear of the continuing attacks against Hillary, her advocates and supporters (I'm trying). I spend much more time on Twitter nowadays than I do on DU. June 16 will be here soon enough.

DemonGoddess

(5,123 posts)
21. Exactly right!
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:29 AM
Jun 2016

This is why I STILL refuse to venture into the cesspit that is GDPee. Nowayinhell. It's still toxic there.

Walk away

(9,494 posts)
10. I just have one suggestion to make to help Sander's people to come to terms with...
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 06:41 AM
Jun 2016

their adjustment problems. Find a way to get Cornell West out of your campaign. Continuing to stir up hatred and bile against our Democratic nominee for POTUS up to, and right into the front door of, the Democratic Convention, is untenable.

sarae

(3,284 posts)
15. +1
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:09 AM
Jun 2016

West is a professional shit-stirrer. I don't see how he could possibly contribute anything positive at this point. It'd be one thing if his comments were grounded in true ethical convictions, but I think his actions are 100% centered around his ego and petty vengeance for perceived social slights.

liberal N proud

(60,945 posts)
11. Berners are not going to acknowledge that its over until Bernie does
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 06:59 AM
Jun 2016

If he keeps campaigning and telling the Berners that the is still a path, then they will keep believing him.

Someone is selling someone a heap of bullshit.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
19. He's just trying to get leverage in negotiating over
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:22 AM
Jun 2016

the future platform of the party. When you see it for what it is, it makes more sense. You talk a lot of shit before the negotiations to get leverage, then when the negotiations are made you make up. He'll be a good ally in the general.

TwilightZone

(28,833 posts)
33. I tend to agree.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 04:03 PM
Jun 2016

I think a lot of this is just political theater now. Everyone knows where this is headed and the various parties are just trying to put the best face on it they can for all involved. I think he drops out after DC and endorses Hillary and we all move on.

Nonhlanhla

(2,074 posts)
14. I agree with this
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 07:53 AM
Jun 2016

Give them time. Bernie ran a scorched earth campaign against Hillary, demonizing her in such ways that it will be difficult for his supporters to turn around. Some never will, and probably never would have voted for her anyway. But already many of his supporters are turning around. Many more still will, especially as the horror of Trump in the White House becomes a more realistic picture for them. Right now they have to process the loss. Most Hillary supporters know the feeling all too well. I was an Obama supporter 8 years ago, and got annoyed with the PUMAS, but back then realized that Hillary's supporters just needed time to process what had happened. In time most did, and we ended up having 8 years of a sane, rational, and indeed quite wonderful president instead of the horror of a McCain/Palin administration. Yesterday's endorsements, and even Bernie slightly more unity voice (although he is clearly not quite there yet), gave me hope that we can do it again. Trump and whatever horror he picks for his VP cannot be allowed to go to the White House. And I think most Bernie supporters know that.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
20. I totally agree. Before the convention in 08
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 08:25 AM
Jun 2016

only 47 percent of Hillary supporters said they were certain they would vote for Obama. And it all turned out fine. This is a normal process that just takes a little time.

Walk away

(9,494 posts)
26. But Hillary didn't spend her entire campaign attacking the Democratic party.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 09:32 AM
Jun 2016

These are not party faithful you are talking about.

Proud Liberal Dem

(24,777 posts)
27. She didn't complain ad naseaum about the process being "rigged" either
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 09:39 AM
Jun 2016

That being said, I'm all for giving Bernie supporters a chance to get it out of their system. I think that most sane and rational progressives don't want Trump in the WH more than they dislike Hillary. Some won't ever come around to even holding their noses and voting for Hillary and that's fine too but they probably don't represent a massive number of people.

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
34. No, and yet it's interesting that unity was even more mangled this time of year in 08.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 04:09 PM
Jun 2016

I think it just means that this is a normal process after a side loses. I was a bit surprised myself when I saw that only 47 fricken percent of Hillary supporters pre-convention were certain they'd vote for Obama. It's nowhere near that low this year among Sanders supporters. The circumstances are different but the anger is at the same level.

Starry Messenger

(32,375 posts)
30. I have been very quiet on my Facebook page about who I support.
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 10:46 AM
Jun 2016

Last night I took a "risk" and posted a clip of Elizabeth Warren's speech from yesterday, and someone still deep in their feelings came in and pooped in it this morning. It's been three days, actually, since Hillary became the presumptive nominee. How much longer do we need to give them space? To keep from hurting their feelings with being excited about positive motion forward?

I feel like I have been walking on eggshells around people who are totally fragile and lashing out, and that really goes against my grain as a feminist. Tactful I can be, but I'm done taking the negativity and abuse like we deserved it for supporting the winner.

My .02

 

realmirage

(2,117 posts)
32. Don't take any shit from anyone. I'm just saying it's normal for the losing side to be
Fri Jun 10, 2016, 04:02 PM
Jun 2016

acting this way.

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