Much of it comes from other men, as well as women. As a gay man, there are also the sexist presumptions that one of us is "the woman." I have been asked that very question on a number of occasions. I also have a three younger brothers and I see some of the pressures they face. Equality should be the goal, but I fear we are still eons away from it.

>>>•Men are expected to occupy the most dangerous and/or lowest paying jobs and positions (waste collection, roofing and construction, truck driving, mining, logging, firefighting, most things related to war).
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Lowest-paid? I'm not so sure.

... which in large measure explains the pay gap.

A man sitting in a playground, even in a park, near kids arouses suspicion, and male teachers in grades K-4 are pretty much non existent.

By the way, this writer is gonna get torn apart.

my wife dropped her off so the people at the party knew her and not me. i went to pick her up and i was a little early so she was still in the pool with the others. the pool is surrounded by a wall about tummy high with regularly spaced openings for people to get in and out of the pool and it was here that i was standing watching my daughter play with the kids in the pool (she was 9).
after a couple of waiting for this to end so i could take her home one male adult flanked by two women came up to me and asked me if knew anyone at the party. a huge part of me was insulted the fuck out and was about to let them know this , who did they think i was? do i have pedophile written on me somewhere? but decided against it since they were essentially( oh how it hate that word ) looking out for her.

my point is they wouldnt have asked my wife that if she'd picked them up instead of droppiong them off

As as man you are expected by society to keep a stiff upper lip and not complain. Some feminists even use this to their rhetorical advantage, ie 'whiny men'.

The problem is that as long as sexism is allowed to flourish on one side, it will never be addressed in any meaningful fashion because society will just see it as normal regardless of which direction it goes. A set of expectations for one gender requires a set of expectations for the other.

if the sexes were reversed).

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1014&pid=948349

- Assumed to be violent / dangerous
- More likely to be thrown in jail for longer periods
- Assumed to be worse fathers / get custody less, even when being a better parent
- Mocked for showing emotion - supposed to stoic and unfeeling

- Considered more disposable (Think any dangerous job, to include combat-based jobs in the military).
- Presumed to be worth less if not willing to lay his life down for a woman.
- His value is often dictated, not by who he is, but rather by what he owns, who his connections are and who he's with.
- Is automatically wrong in any case where a woman has claimed sexism has occurred, regardless of facts.
- Is not considered capable of being a nurturing parent .
- Is expected to internalize all negative emotions and never share them with anyone and
- Is considered out of control if those negative emotions are divulged.
- Is expected to be "strong" and never need any help from anyone else.
- His emotional state is under constant assault by both men and women to "be a man" without really knowing what that means.
- Are expected to take a back seat when their rights are being aggrieved because there are others who's rights are more important.
- Men are still not allowed to hit Women back in self defense.
- If a disaster strikes, and there are women involved, men are expected to sacrifice their lives so the women can live.
- As has been stated before, but needs to said again: Fathers virtually never get Custody of Their Children... Because Men are often assumed to be inferior at parenting
- Men are demonized if they admire an attractive women, but are expected to remain mute if they're objectified.
- Male early education teachers and Child care workers are virtually non existent.
- The default presumption is that if a man is interested in working with kids, he is probably a pedophile.
- If a man does become a teacher, he can never ever be alone with a child under any circumstances for fear of persecution... because of the view that men are always a potential molester
- If a male teacher is persecuted for anything, his guilt is presumed.
- Its not okay for men to hug non immediate family members. (High-fives are dubious if it is not to another guy)
- If men are having life issues, their problems are insignificant and they should just "grow a pair", "man up" or "suck it up".
- It is frequently funny when a man gets hit in the groin, or beat up.
- When a man gets sick he's "a baby".
- Men are hit with body shaming, just like women are, though there is virtually no support for men who're dealing with this issue.
- People will ask kids where their mommy is when they are clearly out with the Dad
- Boys are always told to "grow up big and strong" because that's "what girls like"
- A man is never sexy. The services he performs around the house, or at a job, is.

Not all of these are true all the time... but more often than not, they are.

Never understood why the issue of rapes that happen in wartime are universally agreed to be a horrible thing but deaths of men by the millions is like "Uh, well, it's war, d'uh."

In our culture, war is celebrated almost to a psychotic extent. Rape is recognized as the evil act that it is, but sending soldiers to wars-for-profit to shoot and kill people is passed off as not only good, but necessary.

In a society where life is treated so cheaply, and violence is celebrated, can anyone really claim ignorance of why rape happens? It begins with a basic lack of respect for human life.

I think the idea is that soldiers are lawful combatants. Most people believe that a soldier can kill during war and come home and rejoin society. Few people would call John Kerry a murderer, and his squad leader said he "dispatched" an enemy soldier with his M-16.

OTOH, purposely killing and raping civilians during wartime is seen as cowardly and disgusting, and it serves no strategic purpose.

But yeah, anyone who says "It's war, too bad" probably is a chickenhawk.