This is garbage as simple reading of your source article shows.

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You might learn something.

The article says nothing of the sort about "conventional" violence. It specifically refers to Dating violence, which just happens to be the accepted term for "domestic" violence situations, involving unmarried teenagers. (Domestic violence is generally accepted to refer to adult couples, married or not, usually co-habitating.)

That "conventional sense" is the stereotype that this study (and several before it) should disprove.

How positively enlightened of you.

I responded to the inappropriate use of the word violence in the OP.

Have fun with that idea.

How much responsibility were you expecting? Or are you simply more intent on being argumentative rather than substantive with your allegations?

Seems disingenuous to cry foul now.

If you did not mean to use that word, edit it.

If you didn't understand it, read the article.

Look, let's make this simple ... do you agree or disagree with the Center for Disease Control's classification of emotional abuse as a form of domestic violence??

Do you dispute that those things are abusive and contribute to a cycle of violence?

And I don't doubt that domestic abuse, in cases where it isn't one-sided, very often is cyclical. Which doesn't change the fact that a woman is statistically far more likely than a man to be put in the hospital, or murdered, by an opposite-sex partner. Some of this is simple biology, i.e. the fact that men on average are larger and stronger, and some is societal factors such as men being more likely to own firearms.

Which brings into focus why it is so important to interrupt and treat the cycle of violence and not simply prosecute when that cycle of reciprocal violence escalates into injury to her.

Only 15% of domestic violence is solvable by the methods we use to deal with it.

be tolerated. Even supposedly "minor" situations should be nipped in the bud, if at all possible, before they escalate.

I'm not sure about your 15% figure - though I have no particular reason not to believe it - but DV is a notoriously (with good reason) hard to treat problem. Given especially how abuse of all kinds runs in families, and how children from abusive backgrounds are more likely to reproduce both too early and with the wrong person.

Of the 18,000 young adult relationships studied, the researchers found that 24% had some violence, and 49.7% of those violent relationships were reciprocal. Of the relationships in which nonreciprocal violence was present, the woman was the perpetrator in 70% of those cases.

From there, it's just arithmetic. Only 15% of violent relationships fit the nonreciprocal wife-beater stereotype around which all DV intervention programs are predicated.

They also found that injury was far more likely in reciprocally violent relationships.

The study concluded thusly:

Maybe it shows how ingrained the "never hit a girl" taboo (which I would normally consider a good thing) is for many young men.

The thing is though, even if "[o]nly 15% of violent relationships fit the nonreciprocal wife-beater stereotype," those relationships most likely account for a vastly disproportionate number of serious injuries and deaths, for both the reasons I've previously listed - physical size/strength advantage, gun ownership - and others. I'm only speculating on a justification though, because ultimately I agree that our society's and legal system's response to DV thus far has been utterly inadequate on more levels than one. Though admittedly, I have no real solutions to offer there.

And while it's clear that demonizing men as a group, when a minority of their gender commit highly disproportionate levels of violence and abuse, does little to help matters, it's also clear that that segment of the male population - which exists among all races, social classes, etc. - is very dangerous to both women and other men, and must be dealt with as a dire social problem.

...regardless of the gender of the perpetrator.

Reciprocally violent relationships are the ones most likely to result in injury. Death? I dunno. I doubt that a sample size of 18,000 relationships would be enough to identify anything meaningful about homicide.

Personally, I think that the near-complete absence of "men and children" shelters is responsible for a large share of the IPV in this country. The fact that violent women know that he has nowhere to go, and that she has complete and unilateral control of his children is an enabling factor.

I don't think anyone can deny that we have a serious problem with relationship violence, and with violence period, in this country. But just as I believe that all men shouldn't be blamed for the actions of some, I think it's also important to acknowledge the often disparate forms which male and female "violence" take. After all, it's still true that women are killed or seriously injured by male partners far more often than the reverse. Which isn't the whole picture, by any means, but certainly an essential part of it.

Violence is bad mostly because it triggers escalating retaliatory violence. It is certainly true (and studies show this) that the retaliatory violence is more harmful to women than the stereotype of the unilaterally abusive man.

It would be more effective to interrupt the violence at the source, a point at which no one needs to go to jail.

to go to jail." Agree completely on that. And I only used the scare quotes because I was kind of splitting hairs between types or levels of violence, which logically I probably shouldn't - firstly, psychological abuse can be just as damaging in its own way as physical abuse, and secondly, physically violent DV situations typically start as arguments and escalate from there.

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The only person who has assaulted me in the last 30 years was a woman.

As I was leaving a heated conversation, she kicked me in the ass, then as I continued retreating,

she body-slammed me from behind forcefully enough to knock me face down on the ground.

Her friends dragged her off of me as she tried to beat me further,

and retrieving my glasses which had been knocked off.

Women can be unreasonably violent too.

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