I've seen that sort of thing happen before, and it's nothing if not massively frustrating.

As a teacher, I know that, sometimes, I've passed issues like this along, been assured it's being taken care of, only to find out later the victim was blamed, etc. Just because teachers aren't saying anything to the student and mom (which we're usually told to do--all communication goes through admins instead) doesn't mean they're not doing something.

and in my opinion they have an obligation to protect their students.

The term in loco parentis, Latin for "in the place of a parent""[1] refers to the legal responsibility of a person or organization to take on some of the functions and responsibilities of a parent. Originally derived from English common law, it is applied in two separate areas of the law.

First, it allows institutions such as colleges and schools to act in the best interests of the students as they see fit, although not allowing what would be considered violations of the students' civil liberties.[1]


Its reasonable for an individual teacher to pass it along, but 'along' had damn well better do something.

I'm not arguing that. What I'm saying is that sometimes we teachers get stymied and ignored, and then we get blamed and told we didn't do anything when we did. Yes, the admins and officer have dropped the ball here big-time and need to fix it and fast, I'm not arguing that, I'm just saying that there's a good chance at least one teacher has done something but is getting blamed and accused of doing nothing.

I'm not.

My cousin told me recently she is/will be home-schooling her son.

Not one teacher, etc.

I understand her desire to homeschool at this point but think a better answer is to raise all kinds of heck, get a "Be More Kind" program going in that school, and hold admins' feet to the fire.

and don't report back to parents or students, I do check in with counselor and principal to keep up-to-date on results. And there are results.

Our incidents are infrequent, and smaller in scope; maybe because we catch them and address them quickly, maybe because we work really hard at building a positive community.

I know it's frustrating for admins when it's a "he said, she said" situation, with no other evidence. We usually have a pretty good idea who is telling the truth, but without some proof, the admin can't take one person's word over another. Fortunately, this is the exception rather than the rule, and if it happens, everyone, including playground and cafeteria supervisors, are put on alert to watch those students more closely. If it happened once, it will happen again, and we'll nail it.

I think the difference in some schools might be one of size. My school is small, and everyone knows everyone else. It's hard to get away with anything, it's hard to "fall through the cracks," and we catch things faster and more often than in larger schools where it's easier for individuals to slide under the radar, and harder for the adults to get to know all of them as closely.

We are more of a community than an institution. I admit to bias; I think all schools should be that way.

as your 'community' fits the bill for me, and probably for my cousin, who has been a teacher.

Don't know that size alone explains the 'stuff' my cousin and the other family have experienced. Maybe? Something in the air? History? Culture?

and the head of the school board to demand the return of the necklace, the bully to alternative school, and a cessation of all bullying in the future. Penalties for failure to comply? Monetary, and in the case of the principal, complaints to the state licensing agency to get a notation on his certificate at a minimum.

Depending, it may have to be an out of town attorney.

Be confrontational and demanding and backed up by your lawyer and the state.

Squeaky wheel gets the grease, and most especially so in education.

So sorry this is happening to you. It enrages me as a teacher and as a parent.

Go back to the police station. Insist on filing the complaint. Name the school officer as a conspirator after the fact since he is not taking action.

Go to the school board public meeting. It often has local media in attendance. Bring the issue up. Provide details. Tell them what the officer said.

Talk to a local reporter. Get media coverage.
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The school and the cops are most interested in no waves. When you make some, there will be some push back, but in the end public shaming will get action.

Later the principal told me the most scary thing I every said was "What is the district's address for legal service". At that point they realized that we were not going to be quiet and just go along. They got serious and the problem was transferred out of the school

I'm not near them, and think they don't have the resources, or they think they don't have the resources, to follow with legal action. I sure would, but don't know that they can.

I did copy and send your suggestion to my cousin.