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spicysista

(1,731 posts) Thu Feb 14, 2019, 12:57 PM Feb 2019

Mother Speaks Out About 12 Year Old Daughter's Strip-Search Experience

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From Essence.com

Mother Of 1 Of The 4 Black And Latina Girls Strip-Searched At New York School Speaks Out

Breanna Edwards Feb, 14, 2019

Chanderlia Silva has laughter in her voice as she describes her daughter to ESSENCE.

The 12-year-old is a shy girl, Silva notes, although once she gets comfortable she can be super silly. She loves being around people; she loves music (it always came blaring from the speaker in her room); she likes to dance and play with makeup, try on clothes and hang out with her girls.

So, when the music stopped coming from her daughter’s room, when she started sleeping in all day…behavior that was not like the bubbly “girly girl” that her mother knew and loved, Silva became desperately worried.

“I felt like she was going into a stage of depression,” the 28-year-old mother of four told ESSENCE last week, her voice sobering. “She was displaying behaviors of wanting to hurt herself, which definitely put me in a bad space because you never want to see your child go through that. Then, as a mom, I don’t know what to say, I don’t know exactly what to do. In those situations, you don’t want to put her in a more stressful space.”

Link to article: https://www.essence.com/news/mother-of-1-of-the-4-black-and-latina-girls-strip-searched-at-new-york-school-speaks-out/

This would be devastating to anyone. But to a child....this is not acceptable. It has BEEN happening across the country.
A few examples...

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Mother Speaks Out About 12 Year Old Daughter's Strip-Search Experience (Original Post) spicysista Feb 2019 OP

what the FUCKING HELL is wrong with the adults there? what possible justification did they use niyad Feb 2019 #1

You know, I just think they're ill equipped.... spicysista Feb 2019 #2

I think you were very gentle and generous in your assessment of them. is there anything we niyad Feb 2019 #3

I'm just finding out about this. spicysista Feb 2019 #5

thank you for doing this. what is going on in some of our schools is beyond disgusting. niyad Feb 2019 #6

They're ill equipped in the "Do unto others..." department. CrispyQ Feb 2019 #8

Amen, to that...too! spicysista Feb 2019 #10

Wtf? cate94 Feb 2019 #4

Amen, to that! nt. spicysista Feb 2019 #7

Sick fucks are in charge at that place Blue Owl Feb 2019 #9

niyad

(119,909 posts)

1. what the FUCKING HELL is wrong with the adults there? what possible justification did they use

Reply to spicysista (Original post)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 12:59 PM

Feb 2019

for this violation of the girls?

spicysista

(1,731 posts)

2. You know, I just think they're ill equipped....

Reply to niyad (Reply #1)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:06 PM

Feb 2019

They're ill equipped in the humanity department....
ill equipped in the empathy department...
ill equipped in the love department...
ill equipped of financial resources....
ill equipped in knowing our history thus also....
ill equipped in feeling personally invested and connected to the lives of these young children.

It sucks, niyad. This makes me fighting mad!

niyad

(119,909 posts)

3. I think you were very gentle and generous in your assessment of them. is there anything we

Reply to spicysista (Reply #2)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:08 PM

Feb 2019

can do, demand?

spicysista

(1,731 posts)

5. I'm just finding out about this.

Reply to niyad (Reply #3)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:13 PM

Feb 2019

I will post a follow up as soon as I find out more. Immediately, I'm checking the policies at my children's schools. If this were to happen to any of my babies.... I can't even think about it!
I'll edit this original post to add any updates.

niyad

(119,909 posts)

6. thank you for doing this. what is going on in some of our schools is beyond disgusting.

Reply to spicysista (Reply #5)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:17 PM

Feb 2019

CrispyQ

(38,245 posts)

8. They're ill equipped in the "Do unto others..." department.

Reply to spicysista (Reply #2)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:22 PM

Feb 2019

WTF? How would they feel if something like this happened to their child?

The mother was right. These girls were targeted because of their race & class. This shit has to stop. This attitude/belief that the more pale & well off one is the better of a person they are, is so contrary to the teachings of the Bible, which according to many of these hateful assholes, is a book they supposedly live by. Fucking hypocrites. Some people need to be fired over this.

spicysista

(1,731 posts)

10. Amen, to that...too!

Reply to CrispyQ (Reply #8)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:35 PM

Feb 2019

If there is some sort of policy supporting this practice, it needs to be changed immediately. This sickens me to my core.

cate94

(2,888 posts)

4. Wtf?

Reply to spicysista (Original post)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:11 PM

Feb 2019

They were giddy and that was a basis for a strip search? The adults who did this should be fired, I would hope assault charges could be filed. This is so wrong on every level.

spicysista

(1,731 posts)

7. Amen, to that! nt.

Reply to cate94 (Reply #4)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:18 PM

Feb 2019

Blue Owl

(54,734 posts)

9. Sick fucks are in charge at that place

Reply to spicysista (Original post)

Thu Feb 14, 2019, 01:23 PM

Feb 2019

And sick fucks have no place around kids...

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