Women's Rights & Issues

Celerity

(46,154 posts) Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:17 AM Jan 2021

Republican bill in Montana may give rapists the right to co-parent the children of their victims.

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My rapist fought for custody of my daughter. States can't keep survivors tied to rapists.

https://eu.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2019/06/19/abortion-laws-bans-rape-parental-rights-column/1432450001/

I was Louisiana's first special assistant on women's policy, advising the governor and presenting the governor's proclamation for domestic violence awareness month. Then I was raped. It was 2003.

After I became pregnant as a result of the attack, I did not want to think of myself as a victim. I chose to carry my pregnancy to term. It gave me hope that I was not completely broken and destroyed. But it was my personal decision to have my daughter and raise her.

I did not expect to feel the horror and shock that came years later, in 2010, when my rapist tried to claim custody of my child.

My rapist was never convicted for what he did to me. When the day came that I was served with court papers on his behalf, I was terrified of the danger this posed for my child, who had no idea what I would have to go through to protect her.

Rape victims who gave birth to their attackers' children open up on the outrageous reality of CO-PARENTING with the sex predators who ruined their lives

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8514777/Rape-victims-fighting-change-laws-allowing-rapists-parental-rights-children.html

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Republican bill in Montana may give rapists the right to co-parent the children of their victims. (Original Post) Celerity Jan 2021 OP

A rapist should be in jail not interacting with his victims. In_The_Wind Jan 2021 #1

I read about this horrible issue a few months ago--but it was a state in the South or riversedge Jan 2021 #2

Horrifyingly, a large number of states give rapists parental rights. niyad Jan 2021 #5

"..... rapist parenting rights are a priority in Helena [#Montana] this week" from a responder to y riversedge Jan 2021 #3

The War On Women continues in all its hateful ugliness. Thank you so very much for this OP. niyad Jan 2021 #4

Not to mention possible repeat on the daughters lostnfound Jan 2021 #6

This is the end game of the right/GOP who have been trying to take women's rights RAB910 Jan 2021 #7

it's like a less sophisticated, not as complete form of the Handmaids Celerity Jan 2021 #8

As a country we are a lie. 4Q2u2 Jan 2021 #9

Reposting this to Montana. I am disgusted. GemDigger Jan 2021 #10

J. Gillette is a woman. n/t GemDigger Jan 2021 #11

This is the GOP's priority RainCaster Jan 2021 #12

Jane Gillette phone # is 1-406-868-1549 GemDigger Jan 2021 #13

40 years ago, women would be highly encouraged to have an abortion Hestia Jan 2021 #14

I found another article that indicates that Rep. Gillette wants to pull the bill TexasTowelie Jan 2021 #15

In_The_Wind

(72,300 posts)

1. A rapist should be in jail not interacting with his victims.

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:25 AM

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riversedge

(72,010 posts)

2. I read about this horrible issue a few months ago--but it was a state in the South or

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:25 AM

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seems it was more than one at that time. Repugs are pushing their states like this in Red legislative states.

niyad

(118,047 posts)

5. Horrifyingly, a large number of states give rapists parental rights.

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:35 AM

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riversedge

(72,010 posts)

3. "..... rapist parenting rights are a priority in Helena [#Montana] this week" from a responder to y

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:30 AM

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"..... rapist parenting rights are a priority in Helena [#Montana] this week" from a responder to your post.

niyad

(118,047 posts)

4. The War On Women continues in all its hateful ugliness. Thank you so very much for this OP.

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:34 AM

Jan 2021

I do not want to EVER hear these f'n bastards whining about "family values" or "think of the children".

lostnfound

(16,456 posts)

6. Not to mention possible repeat on the daughters

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:39 AM

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Psycho GOP creeps trying to allow this. Insane.

RAB910

(3,839 posts)

7. This is the end game of the right/GOP who have been trying to take women's rights

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:51 AM

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Celerity

(46,154 posts)

8. it's like a less sophisticated, not as complete form of the Handmaids

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 10:55 AM

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4Q2u2

(1,406 posts)

9. As a country we are a lie.

Reply to Celerity (Original post)

Thu Jan 28, 2021, 11:05 AM

Jan 2021

We do not protect our children. We do not protect the people who need it the most. Our laws are a cudgel used to beat the populace.
Male victims of Statutory Rape are made to pay child support as well.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermesmann_v._Seyer

https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/parental-rights-and-sexual-assault.aspx

GemDigger

(4,312 posts)

10. Reposting this to Montana. I am disgusted.

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 11:41 AM

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GemDigger

(4,312 posts)

11. J. Gillette is a woman. n/t

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 11:44 AM

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RainCaster

(11,301 posts)

12. This is the GOP's priority

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 11:49 AM

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Not the pandemic,
economy,
minority rights,
voting,
or democracy.

GemDigger

(4,312 posts)

13. Jane Gillette phone # is 1-406-868-1549

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 12:45 PM

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Hestia

(3,818 posts)

14. 40 years ago, women would be highly encouraged to have an abortion

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Thu Jan 28, 2021, 03:17 PM

Jan 2021

"It's a permanent reminder of a temporary situation"

Now, it's like the conversation never comes up and IMNSHO, keeps the woman as a perpetual victim. Why anyone whatsoever would have their rapist's child is beyond me. The rapists' DNA is now a part of the child's gene pool - why that bring that into the child's life? I know I sure wouldn't want to. After the child finds out, then they too become victimized for the rest of their lives.

The conversation needs be turned around.

TexasTowelie

(115,252 posts)

15. I found another article that indicates that Rep. Gillette wants to pull the bill

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Sun Jan 31, 2021, 02:23 PM

Jan 2021

and that she is blaming state staffers that wrote the bill. Gillette is also receiving death threats.

https://dailymontanan.com/2021/01/29/representative-faces-criticism-for-role-in-withdrawn-bill-lawmakers-say-threats-go-too-far/

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