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Related: About this forumPolice Further Traumatize Sexual Assault Victims by Turning Them Into Suspects
Sequestered in a small interrogation room, sipping an iced coffee, Nicole Chase was trying to explain just how dysfunctional things had become at Nodines Smokehouse Deli and Restaurant, a family-owned place in Canton, Connecticut, that specialized in smokehouse meats and toxic masculinity.
There was the time one of her colleagues came to work high on acid, she said. On a day the restaurant made only $100, a manager closed early and got fired. Her boss, Calvin Nodine, was constantly telling sexist jokes and drinking on the job even the customers saw it.
Chase thought shed learned how to handle Nodines roving eyes and rude remarks. Until one night in May 2017, after his wife had gone home, when Chase said he pulled her into the mens room, exposed himself and ordered her to perform oral sex.
Chase reported the incident to police the next day, an awkward, abbreviated interview with a rookie officer in the main lobby of the station as her mother sat next to her. Chase decided to quit that day, and six weeks later, shed almost given up hope that anything would happen when she was asked to meet with Detective John Colangelo, who was now taking over the case as the lead investigator. Shed never spoken to him before, but he was friendly in a professional way as he ushered her into the interrogation room, listening to her stream-of-consciousness recollections and jotting down contact info for people who might corroborate her story. Chase felt a glimmer of optimism: Maybe her now-ex-boss would face some accountability after all, she thought.
An hour into their videotaped interview, though, Colangelos tone and posture subtly shifted. Soon, he was chiding her for interrupting him and getting off-topic. You know, no one comes and tells us the entire truth, he told her. No one.
https://truthout.org/articles/police-further-traumatize-sexual-assault-victims-by-turning-them-into-suspects/
Women know this almost instinctively, that men, especially cops, won't believe them. That's why we don't report.
2naSalit
(92,009 posts)Surprising if this were a case where the opposite happened. This just seems like a weekly update on how fucked up it is when you are victimized my males (or white people if you are not white) and try to stand up for your rights, for yourself.
It just goes to show how ingrained women's right to anything is looked upon as though we are a special class of the undeserving.
Bluethroughu
(5,645 posts)Dresses, high heels, a baby on the hip, fat back and taters on the griddle and cold beer in the fridge for our hard working master of the universe.
When will we require more from our police officers?
2naSalit
(92,009 posts)Women decide that it's over with this crap and take over everything. Everything.
It's time for some mom energy, the good kind.
quaint
(3,465 posts)Bluethroughu
(5,645 posts)Call it like I see it, and sometimes I even get recognition from them.
I'm lucky my husband likes free thinking. I run the household, when we buy a home, car, or any important decisions and a man salesman starts his selling focusing on my husband, he shruggs his shoulders and points to me and says she makes the decisions.
My son is an excellent driver and could back up a triple trailer into tight spots at the farm when he was fifteen, when his friends said well he had his dad to show him, he said NO MY MOM taught me how to drive!
The next generations will know better and do better. The old white angry minority knows it's only a matter of time, that is why they are willing to break everything.