"more patient with others", "learn to control emotions". When I was training a fellow employee (a man), I was told that I needed to be more nurturing. That really burned me up. I KNEW he got paid more than me and he refused to work independently (he didn't do anything without asking me how to do it first, even things I'd told - and showed - him how to do 3 times before) and *I'm* the one that was told to work harder and do better.

But there's no double standard in the workplace... riiiigggghhhttt.

Did they really say "nurturing"? Shit.

I am sure it was just that you were not teaching well.

My reviews have been very positive on the work, and very critical on the personality end. I suffer no fools. Thank goodness that I am damned good at the work side.

Luckily we were doing it on the phone (I work at home) or I couldn't have put myself on mute to tell him where he could shove it.

Shoulda tossed one of these on his desk...

"Nurture" someone who makes more than you! Egads.

A wonderful lady who has been a great mentor as he's been promoted up into management. On his first review, she used the word "brusque" in her evaluation of his demeanor with some coworkers. It's been 30 years, and that comment, more than any other, has stayed with him, and he continues to make an effort that none of his employees can say that about him.

If it had been one of the male reviewers, I'm not even sure that it would have even been mentioned.

From the article:

We had two CIO types - one over the software development side and one was the head of the hardware (servers, networks, etc). The CIO of the hardware side was a woman and my CIO was a man. So we all knew one of them would be laid off, but not which one.

They laid off the man and the woman was the one that had to give us the news. She did it professionally, though I'm sure she was shaken.

As we were all filing out, I heard quite a few of the men say that she was an Ice Queen because "she didn't even cry when she told us that he got laid off."

I was astounded... If the man had been the one not laid off, NO ONE would have said shit if he didn't cry.

than Boehner. But that is so pathetic to hear.

1. My standards for excellence are too high

2. I shouldn't carry my own presentation materials to a meeting (pre-Power Point days).


<<sigh>>