He never did a day of time. The cops finished their halfassed investigation before I was even out of the hospital. They spent more time scolding me for not having a restraining order (I'd made a very calculated decision that it was likely to make things worse by giving him one more grievance to want to punish me for) than they did interviewing him. They never looked at any physical evidence.

Oh, and I signed out of the hospital AMA after four days because the hospital didn't have a security guard anywhere near my room and wouldn't let me have somebody stay in my room overnight. Somebody had tried to kill me twice and was walking free. They wouldn't even lock the door to my room or keep my name under a folder or something.

For obvious reasons I'm going to take your word for what a great doc it is. :/

You probably could have written the doc--the gist being that laws about domestic violence are antiquated and totally inadequate. Which you know already.

But I'd also say that a big part of the problem is that cops DO NOT take this problem even slightly seriously.

I'm pretty cynical about law enforcement, but even I was shocked at the indifference shown.

I don't want to get too much into the triggering gorey details, but if these women had been the victims of these crimes by someone they were *not* involved with, we'd be into serial killer territory, with feds called in.

and my guess is, had you grabbed a gun and waved it around a bit, you'd be in jail too, right along with marissa alexander. because domestic violence.

by the way, it's totally your fault for being in the relationship with him in the first place. you probably provoked him too.