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MaryMagdaline

(7,879 posts) Sat Feb 10, 2018, 03:23 PM Feb 2018

Why are the people in the White House so sure

Porter would not hit the President, Kelly or co-worker?

The statements "he was so good at his job" really make an assumption that he would not lose control, hit the President, hit the Chinese ambassador or otherwise go bezerk. Yet ... the FBI does not give clearance to wife beaters. The FBI is a bastion if male dominance so I believe their red flags for wife abuse are based in some science ... wife beating may lead to violence in workplace or in society.

Setting aside morality, which everyone who had prior knowledge of porter's wife beating has done, how are porter's defenders SO CERTAIN he posed no threat? Either in their experience, wife beaters have a specific rage towards women and not other humans ... or ... the or fails me. You have to see women as not human or not equal humans to let any of his behavior slide. You must say "Yea, it's only women he hits or just women he sleeps with."

I am continually amazed about what I don't know about women haters.

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Why are the people in the White House so sure (Original Post) MaryMagdaline Feb 2018 OP

drumpf hates all women not spreading their legs for him. lark Feb 2018 #1

Batterers almost always have excellent Phoenix61 Feb 2018 #2

Exactly, I am sure his public personna is charming. efhmc Feb 2018 #5

Little tid bit I picked up from Wellstone ruled Feb 2018 #3

... handmade34 Feb 2018 #4

lark

(24,149 posts)

1. drumpf hates all women not spreading their legs for him.

Reply to MaryMagdaline (Original post)

Sat Feb 10, 2018, 03:34 PM

Feb 2018

Just like he hates all minorities, the poor, and any law that might apply to him.

Phoenix61

(17,641 posts)

2. Batterers almost always have excellent

Reply to MaryMagdaline (Original post)

Sat Feb 10, 2018, 03:34 PM

Feb 2018

self control. They may hit their children but friends, co-workers, and neighbors are rarely a target. Battering isn't about a loss of control or anger management problems. It's about a deep need to control their intimate partner. They are a security risk because they engage in illegal behavior which makes them vulnerable to blackmail.

efhmc

(15,005 posts)

5. Exactly, I am sure his public personna is charming.

Reply to Phoenix61 (Reply #2)

Wed Feb 14, 2018, 03:36 PM

Feb 2018

That is why women who might become his partners should be warned about him.

Wellstone ruled

(34,661 posts)

3. Little tid bit I picked up from

Reply to MaryMagdaline (Original post)

Sat Feb 10, 2018, 03:39 PM

Feb 2018

one of his Ex-wives TV Interview yesterday. She said something to the effect that Porter hit her one time and she blamed it on the OXY he was taking after having Cosmetic Surgery.

Okayyyyyyy,that tells me a whole story about and all one needs to know about Mr. Porter. Talk about a Ego,and a major personality flaw. That's why Donnie Dipstick loves this Slug. Similar traits?

handmade34

(22,920 posts)

4. ...

Reply to MaryMagdaline (Original post)

Sat Feb 10, 2018, 03:45 PM

Feb 2018

I used to provide shelter (safe-house) for abused women... it is not so much about hating the women... it is more about something in the man and very complex emotions are involved... the threat isn't violence towards a person in the White House... it is about potential blackmail or other character flaws that may develop...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-reality-corner/201302/behind-the-veil-inside-the-mind-men-abuse

I’m sure now you asking so who are these men, will I know that he is an abuser by looking at him, what makes them tick and what signs can I look for in my partner to determine if he is an abuser/batterer. I will tell you that no you can’t tell if someone is a batter/abuser by looking at them but there are some tell-tale signs and behaviors. So looking deeper into the mind of the abuser I want to now provide you with a few of the behaviors that are typical for batterers.

Profile of an Abuser/Batterer:

Jealousy (questioning her constantly about whereabouts, and jealous of time she spends away from him).

Controlling behavior (I’ve had clients who’s victim couldn’t get a job, leave the house or bathe without his permission)

Isolation (Makes partner move away from family and friends so that she depends on him solely for support.)

Forces her to have sex against her will (I’ve had several clients who forced their partners to have sex with their friends and forces sex when she is asleep.)

Holds very rigid gender roles (Believes that her job is just to cater to him, he is the “king of the castle.”)
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Men that are abuse are very clever, smart, and extremely charming. Most of these men have a personality that draws people in because of their level of charm this is part of their art to deceive and manipulate. This is why often times when a victim does report an assault she is not easily believed because people usually say “not him, he is so nice’ “you are so lucky”, All of this plays into his because if he gets people outside of the home to buy into his deceit the victim has little if no support. Most batterers are seen as “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" because of the stark contrast in their public and private selves. When we look into the mind and behaviors of the batterers the DSM-IV gives us some diagnostic criteria/diagnosis for this population.

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