He also instilled in my sister and me that being nice to men in moments when our intuition told us something was off could get us killed. This was back in the 70’s and early 80’s.

I don’t think “not smiling” or not reacting as if this was a compliment is enough. Girls need to learn how to call out a perv and shut him down.

Maybe it’s just my daughter (a tough little Aries…), but by the time she was 10 or 11, if a grown man said something like that to her, she would’ve replied with something like, “Ew. What are you, like 100?” I’ve always been proud of her self-confidence and refusal to play meek just because someone’s older and trying to invade her space like that.

Be forewarned.
I could have used your advice when I was a kid.

Both my kids announced randomly around age 3 that their real ages were 73 (son) and 78 (daughter—7 years younger). It was a woo-woo thing and they were both in earnest. I have no problem believing that they’re really older and more evolved than I am, and a lot of their personalities has little to do with how I raised them—it’s just who they are. Not sure if it’s really a past life or DNA memory or just that I never censored myself around them and they soaked everything up. Maybe they’re just a generation that came better-equipped than we were.

I know a lot of people think you should shelter your kids from unpleasant things but having grown up sheltered and shy, I think being prepared to handle them would have been much more useful in my own life.

Then the man MUST say "I do apologize, and if I ever disrespect you again please slap me." or he will have major painful problems.

The Women I know, and I, would only permit the man to say at most "Delighted to meet you lovely ladies" and even "I love your outfits". We appreciate compliments on outfits we made the effort shopping for and then deciding what to wear.

The man knows what is rude or disrespectful and what is proper when speaking with Women. If he doesn't, he will be educated on what is right. Coldness or curtness is also considered disrespectful.

It's my family's and my friend's culture, it's all about respect, and it allows for cordial interactions that create goodwill.

Is the creepiest part to me. Like making her acknowledge/participate in his leering.