... tall women, short women, whatever. Yes, it's natural.

but for an older person to seek out a relationship with a younger, attractive partner, based on nothing but their appearance? I think that's where the problem comes in.

Edit to add: He's specifically talking about older men leering at / seeking out teenage girls.

is very shallow and stupid, as well. Which is kind of the point of the piece, I think.

... Jimmy Carter said something about lusting in his heart. But he wasn't chasing skirts.


If "lusting after" includes more than idle thoughts, than I wholly agree with you.

that this isn't about shaming anyone for doing a double take at an attractive teenager. I think he does well to draw a firm line between such glances and outright leering... and between the true wrongness of this kind of thing with respect to teen girls, and the simply less-likely mutual attraction between early 20's women and older men (it does happen, but not as often as some would like to imagine).

literally, ALL of it. good to have confirmation on my thinking process. and i say this because as a young girl, i too had the older men thinking they were all that. being a waitress, it was dependent on my tip, my ability to eat. so as i smiled and allowed, i was thinking creep until i got in the backroom and was allowed to tell the fellow employees what a creep that man was....

why did that man drive up to the 12 yr old and say that? dominance. it is the same as rape just a very shallow level of it. to feel empowered and to humiliate that girl. nothing more.

why do older men oggle the young girl? same thing. you can feel it as the recipient, you know what the man is doing. and every man that feels it is his right, likes to pretend otherwise. but it is not easily hidden like they think it is. and an older woman wouldnt put up with their shit and they know it.

before, there were more men like the article speaks of, with the real man. today, my theory is, with the inundation of porn and easy accessibility of porn and the mainstreaming and normalizing porn, too many older men have learned to sexualize our young girls instead of seeing them are the article states men should see our young girls.

not to mention the evolutionary garbage feeding this tripe to men.

had that same experience growing up. Walking somewhere alone as an underage girl, and being approached, leered at, getting disgusting comments (which isn't limited to catcalls), etc. Or worse.

to everyone who is watching. they think they are so cool, and they dont get how bad they present themselves to the world. i had my teenage son with me in a restaurant picking up some food. some old man was hitting on a young waitress. she is smiling, that smile... and the other guest at the table looking uncomfortable but with that smile. my son is watching it all. when we left he says, why? why do older men do this. they look so stupid. the girl has no interest in him and everyone is just looking at them.

i have seen so many old men do this. can you imagine an old woman behaving like this with a young man. the gasps... the WTF's

same thing. they dont get it, though

lusting after attractive females of any age is normal, although the media trend has enhanced it to an abnormal degree lately with the sexualization of the prepubescent form.

To actively pursue? No. Cultural condemnation has been pretty consistent on this for a long long time.