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boston bean

(36,486 posts)
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:22 PM Feb 2012

I am calling for an election for new hosts

This discussion thread was locked by Neoma (a host of the Feminists group).

Last edited Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:45 PM - Edit history (1)

The reason for this is because the lead host has breached the trust of this group, by sharing private conversations that she had with other hosts, to anonymous non hosts.

It feels as though the group is being run with a figure head while others whom we do not who they are know are or what their intentions are, are running the ship. I do not feel this is appropriate for this group or any group on DU.

Please list below your nominations. The election will be run for 3 days, starting now.

Please state your lead host choice first, then choice for co-host below that.

ETA anyone making a vote should belong to this group, please do not vote if you are not involved with the feminist group.

PLEASE READ BELOW


ETA: Only members who have been a member prior to today can vote in this election. We have had an increase in membership just today, and it may give some reason to doubt the election was fair.

And to clarify a majority vote determines who is lead host. For co host a minimum threshold of 25% of the total vote must be met to become a co-host.

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I am calling for an election for new hosts (Original Post) boston bean Feb 2012 OP
I don't know that I am "involved" to the proper extent.... PassingFair Feb 2012 #1
I agree completely with this post wildflower Feb 2012 #3
thank you wildflower boston bean Feb 2012 #6
Thank you passingfair boston bean Feb 2012 #5
I read here more than post MuseRider Feb 2012 #15
Thank you muserider boston bean Feb 2012 #19
This message was self-deleted by its author justiceischeap Feb 2012 #2
This message was self-deleted by its author boston bean Feb 2012 #4
Okay.. Texasgal Feb 2012 #7
Thank you Texasgal! boston bean Feb 2012 #10
Just to clarify wildflower Feb 2012 #8
okay, thank you wildflower. boston bean Feb 2012 #9
Thank you for doing this wildflower Feb 2012 #13
Thanks again, wildflower. I agree. boston bean Feb 2012 #16
No, there are NOT 3 other spots. I vote we leave it at exactly those two for now. Remember Me Feb 2012 #38
redqueen host, seabeyond 2nd seabeyond Feb 2012 #11
No, seabeyond. See my other post just now Remember Me Feb 2012 #39
YES on redqueen host and seybayond 2nd Remember Me Feb 2012 #54
Can you please clarify? Lisa D Feb 2012 #12
list as many as you want boston bean Feb 2012 #14
Personally I think we should wait The empressof all Feb 2012 #17
I disagree. boston bean Feb 2012 #18
This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Feb 2012 #27
She has been accused of hostage taking and stealing kdmorris Feb 2012 #28
who accused her of hostage taking and stealing? Remember Me Feb 2012 #55
Here: kdmorris Feb 2012 #94
In context, Remember Me Feb 2012 #98
Fair enough kdmorris Feb 2012 #101
seabeyond, please let the election take place here. boston bean Feb 2012 #33
I'd just like to state the following justiceischeap Feb 2012 #20
I disagree. boston bean Feb 2012 #21
What exactly do you disagree with? justiceischeap Feb 2012 #24
no, that a non feminist should run this group. boston bean Feb 2012 #25
That's not at all what I said justiceischeap Feb 2012 #30
please pm me if you want to explore this more deeply. boston bean Feb 2012 #31
Post removed Post removed Feb 2012 #37
Hey now The Straight Story Feb 2012 #64
I think your feelings aren't incompatible with a vote wildflower Feb 2012 #26
before this happened iverglas Feb 2012 #104
thank you. i concur. Scout Feb 2012 #142
I have no problem with your nominations but I also don't see an immediate need to do it now maddezmom Feb 2012 #22
I disagree. boston bean Feb 2012 #23
but some do see a reason to wait and if you going to insist on a vote now maddezmom Feb 2012 #34
I totally agree with Boston Bean -- Remember Me Feb 2012 #41
I think it's going to take more than the vote to get things back to normal maddezmom Feb 2012 #48
Yes it will. Remember Me Feb 2012 #53
And calls to vote now are an attempt to rush through a new main host when the current one is fine Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #50
Oh, please Remember Me Feb 2012 #52
This message was self-deleted by its author kdmorris Feb 2012 #29
Thank you kdmorris. boston bean Feb 2012 #32
If people insist on continuing with this The empressof all Feb 2012 #35
^_^ This. nt justiceischeap Feb 2012 #36
I agree. Lisa D Feb 2012 #40
Those of us who are regulars DO have an understanding. Remember Me Feb 2012 #42
I have read here daily since the group started The empressof all Feb 2012 #44
I wish someone would share those issues of not feeling comfortable here, in this group. redqueen Feb 2012 #49
I feel uncomfortable when someone implies people aren't regulars justiceischeap Feb 2012 #56
Regular participants are just that. redqueen Feb 2012 #66
WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? iverglas Feb 2012 #105
Redqueen: Here's an example for you justiceischeap Feb 2012 #109
No answers? iverglas Feb 2012 #110
Actually there were answers, PM'd to Redqueen. n/t justiceischeap Feb 2012 #112
well fuck that noise, eh? iverglas Feb 2012 #114
It's in reply to Redqueen's question justiceischeap Feb 2012 #116
I've used the word 'regulars' and I don't act as though I own the group... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #171
They have over and over again The empressof all Feb 2012 #58
That is the only issue that seemed to be routinely referred to redqueen Feb 2012 #69
There are trolls showing up in every group The empressof all Feb 2012 #76
I'll check the thread views in the BOG and get back to you. redqueen Feb 2012 #87
Please understand I say this trying to be helpful The empressof all Feb 2012 #102
I have to agree with this statement. justiceischeap Feb 2012 #103
I'm not saying "yeah but"... redqueen Feb 2012 #108
I'm not denying there is a problem. redqueen Feb 2012 #106
The problem is that people feel uncomfortable The empressof all Feb 2012 #113
I feel extremely uncomfortable with a lead host that boston bean Feb 2012 #160
I feel uncomfortable that there seems to be a concerted effort redqueen Feb 2012 #179
I have also voiced that I did not feel comfortable here. TriMera Feb 2012 #68
What more is there? The trolls? redqueen Feb 2012 #73
I did not say anything about the thread title TriMera Feb 2012 #79
The trolls used very subtle slights. redqueen Feb 2012 #84
"and the "lispy queen" comment was said "affectionately" mtnester Feb 2012 #146
Are we claiming that this kind of comment is bullying, redqueen Feb 2012 #174
NO, I am claiming that saying it was said affectionately is a PANTLOAD mtnester Feb 2012 #186
You're cursing at me and accusing me of spin and denial. redqueen Feb 2012 #187
Get a mirror, use it mtnester Feb 2012 #188
Well,I haven't read here daily and I DO have a clue -- a very good one Remember Me Feb 2012 #60
Actually, I should amend my statement Remember Me Feb 2012 #78
i agree. i also what to know what is the accountability process La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #65
why? why do you want to know this? iverglas Feb 2012 #107
I think JustAnotherGen Feb 2012 #43
ok Vanje Feb 2012 #45
No thank you The empressof all Feb 2012 #47
Very well then..... Vanje Feb 2012 #159
I propose that we wait. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #46
I support this idea and would support you handling the vote process maddezmom Feb 2012 #51
I don't suppor it. Remember Me Feb 2012 #59
okay n/t maddezmom Feb 2012 #62
I don't support it either n/t Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #67
okay n/t maddezmom Feb 2012 #71
I don't support it either. nt PassingFair Feb 2012 #81
I would support that as well mtnester Feb 2012 #147
The current host -- WHERE THE HELL IS SHE??? -- nowhere to be seen except when Remember Me Feb 2012 #57
I want hosts who can look beyond their own personal allegiances and facilitate discussion. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #70
You GOTTA be kidding me Remember Me Feb 2012 #74
I assure you, it's none of that. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #83
by the bar you have set, you might not be the best person suited for the job either.. boston bean Feb 2012 #80
I stated in this thread that I have no interest in hosting here. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #88
That is exactly what I am saying, yet someone wants to run a new election boston bean Feb 2012 #91
I suggested that as part of a disagreement with your call for an election. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #93
I have plenty of time, that is why I volunteered. boston bean Feb 2012 #99
I thought that I've volunteered for this, by just posting this, is there something wrong with me? boston bean Feb 2012 #61
yes. you have clear allegiances here that makes you a very impartial person La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #72
really lioness? boston bean Feb 2012 #75
ok. i dont think you'll deliberately screw up tallying at all. La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #77
I do think Neoma should go as host, that much is clear! boston bean Feb 2012 #85
i am opposed to doing anything this minute La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #86
Neoma is an unelected lead host boston bean Feb 2012 #96
why is it too fast? no one has given a good reason for that Remember Me Feb 2012 #151
No, but not everyone thinks we've agreed to throw out the current hosts. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #90
No, it is an election thread. boston bean Feb 2012 #92
I'm deleted this Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #95
ah no, are you? boston bean Feb 2012 #97
I support this. Lisa D Feb 2012 #117
I propose that Remember Me Feb 2012 #149
i do not support this idea. Scout Feb 2012 #150
My vote and a comment... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #63
Boy, do I agree with that, Violet Remember Me Feb 2012 #82
If they're subscribed members of the group and they haven't been blocked, they should get a vote.n/t Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #89
Totally disagree Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #111
I truly hope that the objections about having this election now v a week from now boston bean Feb 2012 #118
Someone suggested having a members' only vote Lisa D Feb 2012 #119
I suppose they will be decided in this thread. boston bean Feb 2012 #120
So if a majority votes for two hosts, Lisa D Feb 2012 #122
A majority votes for lead host boston bean Feb 2012 #129
Good point. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #121
Wow. We've gained over 30 new subscribers since this started. redqueen Feb 2012 #123
So rolling back to before it started is probably in order, right? n/t Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #125
I wouldn't say that. redqueen Feb 2012 #126
if you do not participate in the group. and you are not a subscriber before today seabeyond Feb 2012 #127
I would definitely say that is beneficial. boston bean Feb 2012 #128
It would certainly help dispel Lisa D Feb 2012 #124
You seem intent on making this whole thing difficult Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #130
No, I'm intent on solving the problem in a way that will dispel any hint that the hosting selection Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #133
redqueen, do you cross your heart, hope to cry, stick a needle in your seabeyond Feb 2012 #134
That's the sweetest thing I've seen posted in this group all day. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #135
That was cute, wasn't it! boston bean Feb 2012 #137
actually, with boys was.... tap your belly button with your toe.... seabeyond Feb 2012 #139
Neoma needs a time out first Gormy. boston bean Feb 2012 #136
Neoma seems to be taking a timeout. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #145
No, that is not what I meant boston bean Feb 2012 #148
No. Yr deliberately trying to complicate matters Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #138
not to mention it was merely a month ago, or less, we already had this election. i have heard NO seabeyond Feb 2012 #141
Your first sentence is not supported by the evidence. Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #144
I'm afraid it is Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #157
that's exactly what is happening. Scout Feb 2012 #143
No, because there've been 30 new subscriptions today Remember Me Feb 2012 #152
Got it! boston bean Feb 2012 #140
redqueen, seabeyond and iverglas as hosts n/t Scout Feb 2012 #100
Thank you scout! boston bean Feb 2012 #132
Lead host: redqueen. Co-host: seabeyond. BlueIris Feb 2012 #115
Thank you BlueIris. boston bean Feb 2012 #131
My opinion and vote laconicsax Feb 2012 #153
This message was self-deleted by its author boston bean Feb 2012 #158
I came to this position yesterday, and I am not averse to it. boston bean Feb 2012 #161
That's not the only recourse -- Skinner can remove a host Remember Me Feb 2012 #167
I have witnessed this with other groups boston bean Feb 2012 #169
The election process has already begun. Lisa D Feb 2012 #162
That is a good point. boston bean Feb 2012 #163
There's no reason why the existing votes can't be reconciled. laconicsax Feb 2012 #164
Laconicsax, neoma will not resign, she has stated that. boston bean Feb 2012 #165
Then we should have those as separate elections. laconicsax Feb 2012 #166
There is no other way to remove a rogue host. boston bean Feb 2012 #168
You don't need to elect a whole new set to remove one. laconicsax Feb 2012 #170
Lac, start a thread about ousting her. boston bean Feb 2012 #177
Has Neoma been in touch with any of you hosts? Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #172
No, she has not contacted me. redqueen Feb 2012 #180
Whether it "should" or not Ms. Toad Feb 2012 #176
This is important: whoever becomes hosts -- the software trumps your other Remember Me Feb 2012 #178
My point was that hosts can choose to override that hierarchy by not taking unilateral action. laconicsax Feb 2012 #189
It would be nice - Ms. Toad Feb 2012 #190
I think I already voted, but I'll do it again Remember Me Feb 2012 #154
Lead host: redqueen. Co-host: seabeyond. noamnety Feb 2012 #155
Thank you noamnety! boston bean Feb 2012 #156
My vote is Neoma mtnester Feb 2012 #173
I've got my nomination for co-host here... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #175
Redqueen. JTFrog Feb 2012 #181
i agree with your whole post, and love seeing you in here seabeyond Feb 2012 #183
I'll vouch for your continued interest and participation in feminist discussions, JTFrog... redqueen Feb 2012 #185
I've missed 98% of what's gone on the past week, CrispyQ Feb 2012 #182
good seeing you again. and yes, you have been very busy with RL. that happens. seabeyond Feb 2012 #184

PassingFair

(22,437 posts)
1. I don't know that I am "involved" to the proper extent....
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:27 PM
Feb 2012

But I would vote:

Lead Host: Redqueen

Co-Host: Seabeyond

wildflower

(3,198 posts)
3. I agree completely with this post
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:30 PM
Feb 2012

Those are my choices as well. I know I haven't posted often, but I've been subscribed for years and care a lot about what happens to this group.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
6. thank you wildflower
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:35 PM
Feb 2012

your votes have been recorded.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
5. Thank you passingfair
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:35 PM
Feb 2012

your votes have been recorded!



MuseRider

(34,364 posts)
15. I read here more than post
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:59 PM
Feb 2012

but I would agree with those, they would have been my picks as well.

Redqueen Host
Seabeyond Co Host

I may not count since I am not here a lot but if I do there is my vote.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
19. Thank you muserider
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:03 PM
Feb 2012

vote has been recorded!

Response to boston bean (Original post)

Response to boston bean (Original post)

Texasgal

(17,154 posts)
7. Okay..
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:35 PM
Feb 2012

Hopefully we can get this place to calm down a bit.

Redqueen- Lead host

Seabeyond- co-host

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
10. Thank you Texasgal!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:39 PM
Feb 2012

wildflower

(3,198 posts)
8. Just to clarify
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:37 PM
Feb 2012

My top choice is redqueen...

and then I think there are 3 more host spots? I would choose seabeyond, laconicsax, and ismnotwasm (if she is still here).

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
9. okay, thank you wildflower.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:38 PM
Feb 2012

wildflower

(3,198 posts)
13. Thank you for doing this
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:54 PM
Feb 2012

I think a fresh start may be the best thing.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
16. Thanks again, wildflower. I agree.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:00 PM
Feb 2012
 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
38. No, there are NOT 3 other spots. I vote we leave it at exactly those two for now.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:10 PM
Feb 2012

They are known quantities, there is obviously support for them here, and leaving it at these two will give this place a chance to simmer down. In fact, I vote that absolutely NO ONE ELSE be added in addition for at least one month after this is finalized. Period.

Now, I have to warn everyone, it's my understanding that redqueen works and doesn't necessarily have much chance and perhaps not much access during the day. She also has family responsibilities. So -- again, according to my understanding -- she can't be here all the time.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
11. redqueen host, seabeyond 2nd
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:50 PM
Feb 2012

laconicsax if he still wants to be a part of the group. texasgal. crispy q and anyone else that thinks they would like to give it a try. oh oho h

boston bean, scout, rememberme,

anyone else.

open.

cause redqueen gets her ass kicked if she walks again

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
39. No, seabeyond. See my other post just now
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:12 PM
Feb 2012

You and redqueen, period. PERIOD.

laconicsax has done nothing that I can see.

You and redqueen are getting support from the group-- let's let the place settle down. In fact -- to repeat myself -- I vote that NO ONE ELSE but the two of you be added as co-hosts for at least a month. AT LEAST.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
54. YES on redqueen host and seybayond 2nd
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:40 PM
Feb 2012

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
12. Can you please clarify?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:52 PM
Feb 2012

How many hosts will there be? I think all the hosts of this group should now be elected, not assigned by anyone.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
14. list as many as you want
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 12:57 PM
Feb 2012

If they get a certain percentage of the entire voting tally, I think they should be added.

What that percentage is, I am not sure. But I don't think 1 vote should do it. Possibly 25%.

I think the software allows up to 20, but I am not 100% sure about that.

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
17. Personally I think we should wait
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:02 PM
Feb 2012

I think we need to give this time before there is any decision about hosting here.

There is absolutely no reason to move on this now.


I have been lurking in this group for years and I could not at this point vote for anyone

I would like more time to consider all the options.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
18. I disagree.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:02 PM
Feb 2012

I will not say more, in hopes of not derailing this thread.

Response to The empressof all (Reply #17)

kdmorris

(5,649 posts)
28. She has been accused of hostage taking and stealing
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:44 PM
Feb 2012

why would she not be talking to skinner? I assume the admins are watching this matter pretty closely.

And you are right... it's not one person's forum.. though she (not Neoma) seems to think it is.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
55. who accused her of hostage taking and stealing?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:42 PM
Feb 2012

I've seen nothing like that.

Now, it wouldn't surprise me, mind you, but -- ?? Links, please.

kdmorris

(5,649 posts)
94. Here:
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:42 PM
Feb 2012
http://www.democraticunderground.com/124046259#post38

http://www.democraticunderground.com/124046259#post47

Sorry - I misspoke - not "stealing", "squatting":

http://www.democraticunderground.com/11392827#post11

I will find more, if you need them, but have to go back to work now.
 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
98. In context,
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:47 PM
Feb 2012

I have to agree.

In context, I see both comments as slightly hyperbolic, but in context, accurate nonetheless.

kdmorris

(5,649 posts)
101. Fair enough
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:02 PM
Feb 2012

I do not agree with you, but you have the right to your opinion.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
33. seabeyond, please let the election take place here.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:51 PM
Feb 2012

no need to rehash, people can make their feelings known with a vote.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
20. I'd just like to state the following
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:05 PM
Feb 2012

A lot of the same names are being suggested for hosts of the group. I think before all this happened there were issues with how this group was being hosted and I don't know that re-electing the same hosts for the group is going to solve the problems we have here.

Though this is a protected group, I've seen too many people claim that they feel unwelcome here. I've seen men, who may be feminists or support feminism be told they have no place here and these things are allowed to stand. People have been saying they have issues with this group long before Neoma took over as the main host (by virtue of the software, I know).

If we want things to improve here, I think this should be considered and discussed. Of course, to some, I'm not considered a "regular" (and I suspect some may even consider me one of those "disrupters" everyone talks about) here so maybe my opinion doesn't count but I'm putting it out there for what it's worth.

I think what is important for a host of any group is the ability to keep their head about them, not get so caught up in things that there doesn't seem to be any impartiality. I think it's important that a host be a feminist but I think it might be equally important that they not be so invested in the feminism that it keeps them from looking at things objectively or fairly (if that makes sense).

Anyway, those are my two pennies, take them as they are.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
21. I disagree.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:30 PM
Feb 2012

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
24. What exactly do you disagree with?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:35 PM
Feb 2012

That the previous hosts were doing a bang up job?

That things should be handled by cooler heads?

That there weren't problems prior to this one?

Or maybe you disagree that people have said they don't feel comfortable here?

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
25. no, that a non feminist should run this group.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:37 PM
Feb 2012

I think that is wrong headed.

But please, let's take the discussion someplace else, this thread is really not the place for it.

There is an election going on.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
30. That's not at all what I said
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:46 PM
Feb 2012

and my post pertains to the election, thank you very much...

I think it's important that a host be a feminist but I think it might be equally important that they not be so invested in the feminism that it keeps them from looking at things objectively or fairly (if that makes sense).


Where in that statement did I say a non-feminist should be the host of the group?

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
31. please pm me if you want to explore this more deeply.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:48 PM
Feb 2012

Response to boston bean (Reply #25)

The Straight Story

(48,121 posts)
64. Hey now
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:56 PM
Feb 2012

Don't drag me into this The only thing I am good at moderating is a bottle of rum

wildflower

(3,198 posts)
26. I think your feelings aren't incompatible with a vote
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:39 PM
Feb 2012

Because with a vote, you and others could register your desire for different hosts. IMO.

 

iverglas

(38,549 posts)
104. before this happened
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:20 PM
Feb 2012
I think before all this happened there were issues with how this group was being hosted and I don't know that re-electing the same hosts for the group is going to solve the problems we have here.


Why can you not ever, not once, say what you mean?

What are these "issues"? If you saw them "before all this happened", why did you not seek to have them addressed then?

Let's call a spade a spade. Why have you colluded in the anti-democratic, non-conforming, illegitimate power grab that has happened in this group? Feel free to answer that question by saying you have not done that.


The hosting that was done before this happened was:

- I pinned a post at the top of the board asking visitors to notice where they were and to read and adhere to the SoP, and asking members to remind visitors to do that if needed

- Neoma wrote a post expressing her personal feelings (entitled "Breathe&quot and locked it to replies, and pinned it at the top of the board; I thought the pinning was inappropriate since her personal feelings were not those of the hosts, let alone the group, and unpinned it (and PMed her about the reasons)

- redqueen resigned, so Neoma rose to the top of the host list from the random order in which co-hosts had been entered

- the 4 co-hosts discussed the possible banning of three very obvious disruptive intruders last Tuesday; I believe two were banned from posting here as a result of that discussion

- Neoma removed me as co-host and banned me from posting in the group forum

- another moderator eventually removed the posting ban

- Neoma was asked to appoint redqueen as co-host again and then resign along with all the other co-hosts but redqueen, so redqueen would again be host (that having been the very clear original choice) and the original co-hosts (again, chosen after lengthy discussion) would be reappointed, in a different order

- Neoma disclosed PMs between herself and other co-hosts and gave unnamed other posters access to the site where the co-hosts had discussed the problems of Tuesday night involving the disruptive posters and the banning issue, without asking the permission of the other people involved or even informing them of what she had done

- Neoma refused to resign and pinned another vanity post at the top of the board announcing her intentions for the forum, did not reply to any messages addressed to her in that thread, and has now locked it to further comment


Where is Neoma? Hosting? I'm not seeing any evidence of it. Does someone want to let us know who holds her proxy now?


The host/co-host roster should be returned to EXACTLY what it was before redqueen's unfortunate resignation, unless any of that group of co-hosts does not wish to be reappointed.


I think it's important that a host be a feminist but I think it might be equally important that they not be so invested in the feminism that it keeps them from looking at things objectively or fairly (if that makes sense)


No, it doesn't make any sense. It is obviously an attempt to tailor words to keep redqueen out of the host position (and the other co-hosts out of those positions). It failed.

Scout

(8,625 posts)
142. thank you. i concur.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 08:26 PM
Feb 2012

redqueen = host
seabeyond next
iverglas next

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
22. I have no problem with your nominations but I also don't see an immediate need to do it now
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:33 PM
Feb 2012

maybe let things settle a bit and call for them next week.

I'd also like to say, 3 days isn't sufficient time, imo because not all members check in everyday.

Or maybe all the hosts should resign now until the new vote takes place.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
23. I disagree.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:35 PM
Feb 2012

Some people have already expressed the need for a new beginning. I see no reason to wait.

I think three days is good, as it's not to long and drawn out. then we can get back to the issues that concern us all.

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
34. but some do see a reason to wait and if you going to insist on a vote now
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:51 PM
Feb 2012

Why does it need to be done in 3 days? I think giving it a week would be more inclusive to more members.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
41. I totally agree with Boston Bean --
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:19 PM
Feb 2012

calls to "wait," and "no reason to vote now" only delay getting the forum (Group) back to normal. And IF things are happening behind the Group's back, there's a lot less chance for that to happen and bear fruit.

VOTE NOW.

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
48. I think it's going to take more than the vote to get things back to normal
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:35 PM
Feb 2012

And again, the 3 day time limit is too short.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
53. Yes it will.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:40 PM
Feb 2012

It'll take months, probably.

Three day time limit hell -- I vote to end this TODAY.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
50. And calls to vote now are an attempt to rush through a new main host when the current one is fine
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:36 PM
Feb 2012

with many of us. Frankly, the rush to remove her feels like a high tech lynching.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
52. Oh, please
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:38 PM
Feb 2012

She's only the "main" host because of an accident. The co-hosts were added at random, without understanding how the software would work when someone stepped down. No one intended her to be "next in line" for main host.

edited to add: and when she did become main host, she did nothing (that I can see) other than abuse her authority and position.

Response to boston bean (Original post)

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
32. Thank you kdmorris.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:49 PM
Feb 2012

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
35. If people insist on continuing with this
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:54 PM
Feb 2012

I would like to propose that all the nominees start threads to discuss their plans to make this group a better place and their goals for the group.

At this point we don't know what anyone really thinks about the place this group has on DU

I want to hear everyone nominated and interested in serving articulate their positions so I can make an informed decision.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
36. ^_^ This. nt
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 01:56 PM
Feb 2012

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
40. I agree.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:16 PM
Feb 2012

I don't want to nominate people who may have no interest in hosting. That would be a waste of my vote.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
42. Those of us who are regulars DO have an understanding.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:20 PM
Feb 2012

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
44. I have read here daily since the group started
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:26 PM
Feb 2012

Frankly, I don't have a clue where people stand on inclusiveness and making this a welcoming home for Feminists.

Clearly there have been issues that have been brought up of many members not feeling comfortable here.

That concerns me. It should also concern the hosts IMO

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
49. I wish someone would share those issues of not feeling comfortable here, in this group.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:35 PM
Feb 2012

There are contentious issues surrounding feminism. Not all feminists agree on everything. This is not unique to DU.

The only thing I've seen people own up to feeling intimidated or scared off by is the infighting.

I tried proposing a way to end that yesterday and it lasted all of about an hour.

Without knowing what exactly is making people uncomfortable, it is hard to do anything about it. I am concerned about it, and would love to be able to address it.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
56. I feel uncomfortable when someone implies people aren't regulars
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:44 PM
Feb 2012

I feel uncomfortable when a few members of the group act as though this group is theirs alone.

I keep asking people to create a list of people they don't want here and post it. Put it out there in the meta thread, so we can see who truly isn't welcome here. That I have to ask that, makes me uncomfortable.

I feel uncomfortable because I feel that the LGBT community isn't really welcome here by some.

I feel uncomfortable when I see men who seem to be genuine get attacked within the group.

I feel uncomfortable that it appears that some don't want transparency within the group.

I feel uncomfortable with the speed of which this current hosting situation is being pushed through.

I feel uncomfortable that only a vocal few are going to end up deciding what happens within this group.

Finally, I feel uncomfortable when I get a wedgie.

On edit:

I'm going to feel uncomfortable when I'm attacked for posting this reply because my "feelings" don't have linkable proof.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
66. Regular participants are just that.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:59 PM
Feb 2012

If someone doesn't post often but lurks, the idea that they'll get a suspicious eye cast at them from time to time is not unique to this group or to DU. As long as no one directly attacks someone as a disruptor I don't know if that's an enforceable rule, that no one be even made to feel as if they might be considered a disruptor. And taking into consideration the way this forum has been subjected to attacks and scorn, I think it's actually somewhat understandable that people here are sensitive to the motives of those who don't participate in discussions.

Do you think we could or should have a rule like that?


I'm not sure what you mean by "acting like the group is theirs alone". Again, there are people with that attitude all over the internet, and unless some specific commented is called out for being unfairly territorial or somehow limiting inclusiveness, again I'm not sure what to do about it. Do you have any suggestions?


I have asked repeatedly what it is that makes LGBT community members feel unwelcome here. I know there was one incident where one of the members here was called out in the LGBT forum and then blocked from there and it has resulted in bad blood there, but that does not reflect on anyone else in this forum, as far as I know. And that was one discussion. If there is some other issue then I'd like to know about it, but if it's based on that one altercation then I don't really know what to say besides it seems to have been blown all out of proportion.


I think we all feel uncomfortable when we see PEOPLE who are genuine being attacked anywhere. I think men who are familiar with feminist issues would be understanding that they need to be careful about how they participate in this group, and I don't know that any men who have posted here have felt they have been treated unfairly, save for one who was blocked for not participating along with the spirit of the SOP. If any men do feel they were treated unfairly who were participating in the spirit of the SOP I would hope they would make that known.


Not even going to address transparency. That is a huge mess at the moment and I don't wish to become involved any more than I already am.


The last hosting discussions were left open for weeks, so I can see the side of those who wanted it done faster last time and don't want to go through that again... especially in light of the fact that this group is being targeted by trolls. Very sadly successful trolls.


I take offense to your notion that a vocal few will decide what happens. No one is stopping anyone from speaking up. There's a saying that goes something like 'always speak the truth, even if your voice shakes'. The issues that are discussed in this group are taken very seriously by those that participate here.

Despite the fact that these concerns are roundly mocked in other groups on this site, that is a fact. If someone cares about an issue, they have a responsibility to speak up. Failing to do so and then complaining about the results is not an effective way to change anything. I can understand not wanting to speak up in GD or the Lounge, or anywhere else on the net that isn't moderated or populated by thoughtful people... but here? We need every voice here, and on issues such as discussions of rules and hosts, I would hope that everyone concerned would realize the importance and participate in those discussions.

 

iverglas

(38,549 posts)
105. WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:24 PM
Feb 2012

I feel uncomfortable when someone wanders in here making intentionally vague allegations against unnamed persons on behalf of unnamed persons in unspecified incidents.

I don't feel uncomfortable, actually, of course, I just feel as peeved as I do every time you do this.


Let's start with this one:

I feel uncomfortable that it appears that some don't want transparency within the group.


Name names and substantiate the allegation or stop now.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
109. Redqueen: Here's an example for you
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:32 PM
Feb 2012
I don't feel uncomfortable, actually, of course, I just feel as peeved as I do every time you do this.


Why, out of all the posts, when Redqueen asked what made people feel uncomfortable was I singled out? Other's responded to her, yet it's my post that gets singled out.

On edit:
I'm noticing a trend as of 4:52 EST:

La Lioness Priyanka was the only other one to get a reply from iverglas.
 

iverglas

(38,549 posts)
110. No answers?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:36 PM
Feb 2012

Never have been, have there?

And never will be.

Just unsubstantiate allegations that we all know are not true.

World without end, amen.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
112. Actually there were answers, PM'd to Redqueen. n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:39 PM
Feb 2012
 

iverglas

(38,549 posts)
114. well fuck that noise, eh?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:46 PM
Feb 2012

You made allegations in this thread, not by PM to anybody.

Substantiate them.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
116. It's in reply to Redqueen's question
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 05:15 PM
Feb 2012

So I don't see how this involves you really.

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
171. I've used the word 'regulars' and I don't act as though I own the group...
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 03:53 AM
Feb 2012

Would 'frequent posters in Feminists' be better?

You know why I think it's important that 'frequent posters in Feminists' be the ones who make hosting decisions in their own group? It's because I feel really uncomfortable too, and it's because of suggestions that anyone who subscribes to this group must have a vote and watching the number of subscriptions skyrocket. It's because I've watched the fighting and bickering going on with some people popping in just to yell at someone else and not join in any threads where we're actually discussing feminism. I'm not part of any vocal group, but I don't see why my vote which is in the best interests of bringing some much needed peace to this group is considered as valuable as that of someone who has no interest in this group other than feeding some flamewars spread across DU. Yr a regular face in this group. Do you consider yrself part of the 'vocal minority' that will decide? I don't anymore than I'm part of anything other than a group of people who use this group for what it's intended to be used for...

Now, you should already be aware that I consider yr views on feminism to be the ones that are closest to my own and that I think yr a valuable member of this group, so don't go getting uncomfortable on me, okay? It makes me uncomfortable that you feel uncomfortable about LGBT feminists not feeling welcome (btw, I know yr not talking about some hypothetical situation when a gay guy turns up who just happens to be a misogynist). It makes me feel that in being a part of this group, I'm being seen as some sort of homophobe. I've got a simple rule of thumb for who should be welcome here. Anyone who's a misogynist or who disrupts the group after being warned not to should be blocked, and if they're LGBT or not doesn't even enter into it as far as I'm concerned. Anyway, it does bother me that you don't feel like yr welcome, because I certainly welcome yr contributions and know I'm not the only one who feels that way...

On the people with penises thing. I've heard a rumour that one of our hosts possesses one, and I'm someone who always believed I wasn't a feminist until a man I used to know quite a few years ago convinced me otherwise. I had no problems accepting he was a feminist, but resisted thinking I was one. If I see a man I think is genuine posting and he gets jumped on, I'll jump right on in and have my say and so should you...

I don't understand what you mean by transparency. Is this about how hosts communicate and stuff? I'm a host of a group and a forum, and the Hosts forum doesn't provide actual transparency. What it gives is the ability for hosts to discuss what goes on in there and the assumption is they use their common sense. I don't think all DUers need to see the back and forth and sometimes angst of a bunch of H&M hosts debating whether to lock a thread or not, mainly coz it'd be boring as all hell....

On this supposed speed thing, I disagree. The current situation has turned the group into a toxic zone and it needs to be resolved asap so this place can settle down. Why wait? My opinion isn't going to change if I have to wait a week, a month, or even a year...

Now I get to add something that is really making me uncomfortable and questioning posting here. I feel uncomfortable posting anything at all because I feel like I'm walking on eggshells trying to avoid offending someone somehow with something I've said, or that my posts in this group will be targeted for alerting, even though I'm pretty skilled at putting together posts that are solidly unhideable. But I don't feel that way when I post in the I/P group, which up till recently I thought was the most cyber bloodletting sort of place at DU, so I don't get why I feel like that posting here. It kind of sucks...

That wedgie feeling? Yr going to have to deal with that one on yr own!!



The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
58. They have over and over again
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:49 PM
Feb 2012

If you would like perhaps we should start a thread to put this out again.

If people across the board report this feeling at some point you need to address it. Clearly you know that some people feel they will be attacked here by other members. As hosts you need to find a way to make the environment less friendly to those who use the group in a manner that is hostile and unwelcoming.

I didn't see your thread about ideas to end the infighting. That's a shame people didn't participate.

Maybe you need to reframe the discussion and solicit opinion and construct an expectation of non judgemental responses.

When groups brainstorm the participants refrain from naysaying and excuse making. Perhaps utilizing those techniques in framing your requests could garner better responses.

Please understand, I have nothing against any of the hosts past or present ...but there is a problem here that you all need to stop denying or blaming others for.

If you want to lead you need to understand that people aren't always going to be direct and you need to pay attention to what isn't said as much as what is.

On Edit: OK I found your thread. It wasn't clear to me that was an attempt to elicit discussion on how to make this a more comfortable home. Honestly I'm not interested in fighting and refighting this as a battle of bullies or LBGT against feminists battle. I think looking at it that way is short sighted and poisons the well so to speak.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
69. That is the only issue that seemed to be routinely referred to
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:04 PM
Feb 2012

as a problem.

There's also the infighting, but again, that was not a major issue before the trolls showed up.

Furthermore, those arguments that were started by the trolls could have been much better handled if there had been more communication, and less fingerpointing and defensiveness. All that did was serve to make things worse.

As far as paying attention to what isn't said as much as what is, I'm not sure what to make of that. I'm not a mind-reader. There are obviously some personal interactions that are problematic and I consider those to be between the people involved.

As people were so fond of telling feminists in H&M, perhaps they should put those people they find so disagreeable on ignore.

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
76. There are trolls showing up in every group
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:17 PM
Feb 2012

This group really isn't that unique. Have you ever been to BOG? Seriously....We aren't that important.

On DU no group or position is immune from disagreement but I think we should at least try to make conflict less disagreeable ....

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
87. I'll check the thread views in the BOG and get back to you.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:29 PM
Feb 2012

We seem to attract a lot of attention, disproportionate by far to the amount of participation that goes on.

As for making conflict less disagreeable, I agree completely. This is why I have such a big problem with people alleging that there are huge problems here when often it seems that the issue is actually something one person said, and they are extrapolating that to the entire group.

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
102. Please understand I say this trying to be helpful
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:07 PM
Feb 2012

You seem to deny there is a problem and then blame the people who are reporting they have an issue. The fact that you don't understand this contributes to the problem. I really don't know how to make myself clearer...There is a disconnect among members in perspective.

Sometimes understanding is not the first step...Sometimes acknowledging that people have a right to have a voice is a better first step. Understanding is difficult when people can not speak. If there are so many voices saying the same thing the fact you don't understand has little to do with it. You still need to hear it and be open to altering your own perspective.

I really don't feel any hostility or animosity towards you RedQueen but the problem here isn't the fact that people are reporting they have a problem yet that's what you seem to imply.

justiceischeap

(14,040 posts)
103. I have to agree with this statement.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:16 PM
Feb 2012

I gave examples to you Redqueen and I'm not feeling that those examples are really being considered. "Yeah, but" isn't really hearing my concerns. Again, I must reiterate it's all about perceptions. I'm perceiving that though I've given you examples of what makes me feel uncomfortable, they just don't seem important to you because, maybe, you can't see how they appear to others.

Just for transparencies sake, I PM'd my examples to Redqueen because I certainly don't want to be accused of starting some flamewar.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
108. I'm not saying "yeah but"...
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:31 PM
Feb 2012

I'm saying that I do hear your concerns, and that I also see it from the other side.

The problem is that people are not communicating with each other. They are suspicious and distrustful of each other. My only solution is more open and honest communication.

Instead of taking a statement as a slight, and wondering if it's aimed at you, just ask the person, and ask why they feel that way. I don't know how else to get past this. I don't think people here are operating out of bad faith (or if there are people doing so I'm sure it's very, very few)... and since I sincerely believe that I would hope that we all could try lowering our defenses and re-opening the lines of communication.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
106. I'm not denying there is a problem.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:26 PM
Feb 2012

We're disagreeing on what exactly the problem is.

Where have I said that people don't have a right to a voice? If anything I'm asking that there be more clarity about these things.

I don't understand what your last sentence means. I didn't mean to imply that the problem is that people are reporting they have a problem. I think the problem is that it's all very vague what that problem is. As a result of that, there are all these misunderstandings and it's leading people to be even more defensive and distrustful, and that just is not helpful.

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
113. The problem is that people feel uncomfortable
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:39 PM
Feb 2012

There is no answer to the question Why. It doesn't matter Why. There is no ONE answer. Every woman who reports this has a different reason.

You can't just fix this through understanding this like it was a disease that needs medication.

It's a systemic issue for the group.

Everytime you request that people explain themselves to you it pushes them away. I think it would be helpful for you to start a thread to really listen to people without asking for reasons, proof or justifications for their feelings. No judgements on their feelings...and no expectations for the hosts to fix things either.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
160. I feel extremely uncomfortable with a lead host that
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 10:28 PM
Feb 2012

shares private conversations with other hosts, with anonymous non hosts for reasons that are not transparent.

I also feel uncomfortable with a lead host who will not discuss the issue.

I also feel uncomfortable with a lead host who is absent, conveniently, from these discussions.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
179. I feel uncomfortable that there seems to be a concerted effort
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 10:24 AM
Feb 2012

to label some behavior bullying, and other behavior not bullying.

The way I see it there is heated discussion coming from both sides.

TriMera

(1,375 posts)
68. I have also voiced that I did not feel comfortable here.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:03 PM
Feb 2012

When I did, it was attributed to what happened what another member (who also happens to be LGBT) said and the reaction to that in the Group Hosts and Statement of Purpose thread. Well, the reason that I feel uncomfortable has nothing to do with that. It has to do with the fact that certain members make it very clear that this is "their" group and that only certain things should be discussed. Also, with all due respect, I don't think that a thread started with the intention of ending discord within the group should be titled "LGBT vs Feminists". I know that your heart was in the right place, but that's not the way to start a discussion; especially when there is much more to this than the title suggests, IMHO.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
73. What more is there? The trolls?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:09 PM
Feb 2012

Seriously, tell me. Because other than personal squabbling and trolls and that discussion, I'm not seeing it.

Which members are making it clear that this is their group?

What things do you think are not to be discussed, and who's saying that?

I appreciate your criticism of the thread title, I would have done the same had you said so in the thread, and would have changed it to be more indicative of the subject.

TriMera

(1,375 posts)
79. I did not say anything about the thread title
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:20 PM
Feb 2012

because I thought it might send the discussion in that direction (LGBT vs Feminists) and I did not want to do that. The handling (or lack thereof) of the troll situation has a lot to do with my discomfort. As I have said before, perception is very powerful. As for those claiming the group as their own, do you really want me to name names? I would rather not put myself in the middle of that shit storm.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
84. The trolls used very subtle slights.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:24 PM
Feb 2012

I did not detect the transphobia in the comments, and the "lispy queen" comment was said "affectionately" and coming after weeks of being told that we were supposed to accept bitch and cunt because we should own them, I would hope the lack of sensitivity about that would be understandable.

If the trolls had been confronted then I think it would have gone a lot better. But then when one came back and it was confronted, people got defensive about the manner of the confrontation.

I think the lesson to take from all of this is that people in both groups are really on edge and defensive, and we need to check that, so that we aren't drawn into any more conflicts created by trolls.

Please PM me the names of those who claim the forum is their own, because I am really interested in getting this stuff sorted. I can do my own searching with the names and the terms to find out what I've somehow missed up to now.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
146. "and the "lispy queen" comment was said "affectionately"
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:03 PM
Feb 2012

What a fucking pantload.

My vote now goes to Neoma to stay as primary host. As a many year reader an Du2 (and I think DU1, not sure) and on here, that was some fantastic spin and denial.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
174. Are we claiming that this kind of comment is bullying,
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 07:13 AM
Feb 2012

or is it acceptable?

You can call it a pantload if you like. Perhaps if people didnt put so much emphasis on owning slurs there wouldn't be this confusion, but oh well.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
186. NO, I am claiming that saying it was said affectionately is a PANTLOAD
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 03:56 PM
Feb 2012

of spin.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
187. You're cursing at me and accusing me of spin and denial.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 04:02 PM
Feb 2012

I think that qualifies as bullying, based on some of the other claims I'm seeing.

Regardless, those are not my opinions, those are the facts. The (now banned troll) said they were gay and were using the terms affectionately ... and it is a fact that for a long while leading up to that incident people on DU had told feminists that they should 'reclaim' anti-woman slurs, or that other members were reclaiming 'bitch' and 'cunt', so they didn't personally consider the terms offensive.

Maybe you can't see how that kind of crap muddies the waters, but I assure you that it does.

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
188. Get a mirror, use it
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 09:23 PM
Feb 2012

and get back to me.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
60. Well,I haven't read here daily and I DO have a clue -- a very good one
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:54 PM
Feb 2012

So ... ????

Many of the people are not comfortable here because of the tension and disharmony. I understand that. Some people -- an awful lot of them feminists - - just can't stand strife and such.

But there are others who probably won't be comfortable until they've taken over the place.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
78. Actually, I should amend my statement
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:20 PM
Feb 2012

As I thought about it, the reason I have "a very good idea" is because I spent several recent full damn days of my life following all the threads (and participating in probably too many of them) -- all the way to Meta & Help and back, and back again, and back. Not pretty. Not pretty at all.

BUT, I learned a helluva lot, and what I learned is even less pretty. My personal observations of the patterns that were interwoven throughout left me with a very unsettled feeling about what's going on and what is likely to go on from here.

So, it's probably not fair to imply let alone think that everyone should know what I have learned, since not everyone took the same route I did.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
65. i agree. i also what to know what is the accountability process
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:57 PM
Feb 2012

who will you block out of the forum and why.

 

iverglas

(38,549 posts)
107. why? why do you want to know this?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:30 PM
Feb 2012
i agree. i also what to know what is the accountability process
who will you block out of the forum and why.


Why are you pretending that this has not been discussed at great length in the past?

Do you want to pretend you don't know my answer, just for instance?

Has anyone been blocked from posting in the forum who you think should not have been blocked?

Let us know. Or stop trying to make someone think that the existing/original hosts/co-hosts engaged in nefarious poster-blocking or gave evidence of any intention ever to do that.

Who would you block out of the forum and why, La Lioness Priyanka?

Can you link us to where you objected to Neoma unilaterally blocking me from posting? - whether because you thought that decision was a bad one, substantively, or because you thought the process involved in making it was bad.

Let's have some transparency, indeed. And accountability. And all that jazz.

Here's what I want to know.

What are the names of the posters who have discussed with Neoma

- removing me as co-host of the group
- blocking me from posting in the group
- deciding to remain as host of the group without consulting any co-hosts and against the wishes of her co-hosts and of many other posters

?

Let's have them, now. You go first.

JustAnotherGen

(33,538 posts)
43. I think
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:23 PM
Feb 2012

I will let others vote on this. I read more than I post - quite a bit more than I post as I belong to several 'niche' online groups/forums focused on women. I don't have a dog in this race at all.

Vanje

(9,766 posts)
45. ok
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:29 PM
Feb 2012

1.Neoma
2.Empress of all

The empressof all

(29,100 posts)
47. No thank you
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:34 PM
Feb 2012

My plate is full

Vanje

(9,766 posts)
159. Very well then.....
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 10:27 PM
Feb 2012

1.Neoma
2. Gormy Cuss

(Edited because my spelling sux.)

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
46. I propose that we wait.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:32 PM
Feb 2012

Rushing to throw out the current host is not needed. The last host selection was by consensus of a relatively small number of subscribers. It's pretty obvious that the process wasn't well executed, probably because most figured that redqueen would stay at the helm and the co-host order wasn't important.

I suggest that we wait at least a week and then hold a vote similar to the way it was done in the LBGT forum after they had a contentious host issue. First, members nominate themselves or others as host (and those others agree to act as hosts.) Assuming that we still want a host and four co-hosts, the next step would be for each member to post a list of who they would like to see as hosts, in order of preference. The person with the most first place votes becomes the host. The person with the most second place votes becomes the first co-host, and so on until five persons have been identified. This does require people to vote publicly and thus requires agreement that a members' voting preferences can not be used to criticize them at a later date.

I have no interest in hosting this group but I would be willing to manage the above election process and do all of the tallying and would welcome a second volunteer to confirm the tallies.

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
51. I support this idea and would support you handling the vote process
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:37 PM
Feb 2012
 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
59. I don't suppor it.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:50 PM
Feb 2012

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
62. okay n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:55 PM
Feb 2012

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
67. I don't support it either n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:03 PM
Feb 2012

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
71. okay n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:04 PM
Feb 2012

PassingFair

(22,437 posts)
81. I don't support it either. nt
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:22 PM
Feb 2012

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
147. I would support that as well
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:04 PM
Feb 2012
 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
57. The current host -- WHERE THE HELL IS SHE??? -- nowhere to be seen except when
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:49 PM
Feb 2012

she posts one of her ultimatum-type posts and then runs for the hills.

Is THAT what you want in a main host?

Do you want a main host who will make unilateral decisions about ousting people? after an agreement that such things would be consensual among the hosts? And then she refuses to un-do the damage, or answer for herself?

She's been criticized a lot here in these boards -- WHERE THE HELL IS SHE? Don't you think she should be answering for herself in SOME way? Is THAT what you want in a main host? Is that how you plan to behave in the Group you host?

And are you comfortable with her sharing private communication with others -- how would you like her to share your PMs with others without your permission or knowledge? Doesn't matter if you said "nothing you're ashamed of," it's the principle of the thing.

Why wait a week? This place is in shambles. Waiting a week would just ensure that it all continue for at least a week.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
70. I want hosts who can look beyond their own personal allegiances and facilitate discussion.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:04 PM
Feb 2012

As best I can tell Neoma is being hands off and letting us discuss it amongst ourselves. The lock on the thread calling for her to resign was done only after the discussion had carried on for quite some time -- a good lock.

Since you asked, I believe that any host should have the authority to oust a person who is violating the SoP. The other hosts can discuss the matter and agree by consensus to uphold it or reverse it. I also believe that the primary host has a special duty in that process, namely being the tie breaker if there is a mixed opinion.

I am comfortable with hosts talking privately about issues here. In fact, I'd wager that all of them have discussed matters of this forum with people other than their co-host. As for someone sharing my PMs with others without my permission or knowledge, there is no rule under DU3 to prevent that. We all communicate via PMs under an informal agreement that the message is private. Sometimes I've received and sent PMs with requests not to share. I've always honored my end of that agreement and hope that others have honored their end. That's the best to hope for. The mantra on DU3 is transparency after all.

As for waiting a week, there are too many people riled up at the moment, same as happened when the original hosts/SoP thread went up. After THAT calmed down we selected a host and co-hosts with little fanfare. I'd like to see something similar for the next hosting discussion, but as I've stated elsewhere I think this time we need to be a bit more formal and actually ELECT hosts.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
74. You GOTTA be kidding me
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:12 PM
Feb 2012
As best I can tell Neoma is being hands off and letting us discuss it amongst ourselves.


That's not being charitable, that's being either delusional or deceitful or perhaps just completely ignorant of the situation at hand. Either way, a statement like that under these circumstances is sure credibility-destroyer for me.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
83. I assure you, it's none of that.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:23 PM
Feb 2012

I'm also not terribly concerned about your credibility meter.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
80. by the bar you have set, you might not be the best person suited for the job either..
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:21 PM
Feb 2012
She's also been asked to stay by others.

Far from taking the group hostage she is publicly hosting in a way that is commendable and a number of us want her to stay on in the interim.

Neoma had the difficult challenge of becoming primary host while the group was in the midst of a prolonged battle. Take a deep breath, back away and look at what she has done. Yes, she blocked a member from the group. Anyone with an unjaundiced eye can see why a host would consider blocking that person at the time Neoma made the block. Rather than supporting this decision or starting a thread to discuss it, another co-host unilaterally made the decision to unblock that member. THAT type of manipulation doesn't belong in the group.


http://www.democraticunderground.com/124046259#post82

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
88. I stated in this thread that I have no interest in hosting here.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:30 PM
Feb 2012

but the quote above does no more to invalidate me as a host here than your opinions would automatically invalidate you.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
91. That is exactly what I am saying, yet someone wants to run a new election
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:36 PM
Feb 2012

not the one I started.

hmmmm...

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
93. I suggested that as part of a disagreement with your call for an election.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:41 PM
Feb 2012

Obviously it could be done without my involvement. I only volunteered so that there wouldn't be an argument that no one would want to put in the time to do such a tally.


boston bean

(36,486 posts)
99. I have plenty of time, that is why I volunteered.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:48 PM
Feb 2012

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
61. I thought that I've volunteered for this, by just posting this, is there something wrong with me?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:54 PM
Feb 2012

LOL

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
72. yes. you have clear allegiances here that makes you a very impartial person
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:06 PM
Feb 2012

to handle an election process

personally, i too would be completely unsuitable for it. so i am not saying you are a bad person or have a character flaw or anything like that.

i would prefer a more neutral person.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
75. really lioness?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:15 PM
Feb 2012

because I think a host that shares private conversations with others is not acceptable behavior for a host, means I won't be able to tally up some votes and make and op.

Come on...

and ETA, I don't know what you mean by allegiances. I have no allegiance to any particular person here, I do however have an allegiance to helping this group and discussing REAL issues. Would like to see us get back on track. The sooner the better.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
77. ok. i dont think you'll deliberately screw up tallying at all.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:19 PM
Feb 2012

but here is where i don't think you'll be good: determining how long to wait. creating a process of accountability. waiting till all parties state what exactly they'll contribute as host etc.

mostly with people who are so invested in removing neoma and replacing her, i dont trust that they will take the time to create a better alternative process.

to me managing this thing has nothing to do with accurately counting votes. sorry, if it sounded like i don't trust you to count votes. I do.




boston bean

(36,486 posts)
85. I do think Neoma should go as host, that much is clear!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:26 PM
Feb 2012

That doesn't mean I can't hold a fair election.

I have stated my reasoning for wanting to have an election, and I have given a time frame, and it will be open for all to see.

Not sure what more I could do.

I do think a week is too long, but it is me callling for an election, one you seem not to opposed to, except for the fact that I am the one requesting it.

The accountability is right here in this thread for everyone to see.

 

La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts)
86. i am opposed to doing anything this minute
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:29 PM
Feb 2012

i do think we'll have to go through this process but i think this is too fast

i think if we go through a new election process, we should first think about things like accountability/transparency etc.

i am opposed to electing someone else based on current popularity.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
96. Neoma is an unelected lead host
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:43 PM
Feb 2012

who has proven herself to be unscrupulous, heavey handed and unaccountable based on her actions, we cannot move on with her as lead host, even for a week..

If she wants to resign as requested this morning. I am open to waiting a week or so.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
151. why is it too fast? no one has given a good reason for that
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:25 PM
Feb 2012

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
90. No, but not everyone thinks we've agreed to throw out the current hosts.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:35 PM
Feb 2012

Therefore, this thread isn't a selection. It's a discussion about selection.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
92. No, it is an election thread.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:40 PM
Feb 2012

If you want someone to be host, vote for them.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
95. I'm deleted this
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:43 PM
Feb 2012

Last edited Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:05 PM - Edit history (1)

because I was ticked off when I posted it. Sorry, bb.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
97. ah no, are you?
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:46 PM
Feb 2012

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
117. I support this.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 05:25 PM
Feb 2012

And I really wish you'd reconsider serving as a host. I think you'd be good at it.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
149. I propose that
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:23 PM
Feb 2012

we not let any further time elapse because it just allows time for more dissension. I for one have had enough. I want things to settle down.

I further propose that the Feminist Forum organize their own election without input or interference from those who are only here when something really interesting is happening, so they can add on.

And finally I propose that Boston Bean handle the whole thing.

I'll repeat my other proposal: that after the 2 co-hosts are elected, absolutely NO ONE be appointed or elected or dropped in, flown in, annointed, christened, whatever as a host or co-host for at least a month.

Scout

(8,625 posts)
150. i do not support this idea.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:24 PM
Feb 2012

i do not want someone as host of the group who shared private messages with outsiders.

and someone who was not elected.

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
63. My vote and a comment...
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 02:56 PM
Feb 2012

My vote is just like it was in the vote this group already had - Red Queen...

btw, there are some who've been 'involved' in this group, and their involvement has been to flame away and not discuss feminism. I don't see why they should get a vote....

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
82. Boy, do I agree with that, Violet
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:23 PM
Feb 2012

And thank you for making the obvious explicit.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
89. If they're subscribed members of the group and they haven't been blocked, they should get a vote.n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:33 PM
Feb 2012

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
111. Totally disagree
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 04:36 PM
Feb 2012

Firstly no one. It the admin know who's subscribed where. Secondly I don't think it's right that anyone who's not a participant in this group or has only appeared here to jump into flamewars should have any say in a vote to reinstate the main host we'd all voted for not all that long ago.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
118. I truly hope that the objections about having this election now v a week from now
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 05:37 PM
Feb 2012

aren't being used to try to stack the deck of what someone might call a "member" or to rally troops to try and overcome the real will of the members of this group as it stands today.

People who have posted here prior and have been members here prior to today, should be voting. All others, I would hope that they would use their conscience and not try to stack a vote.

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
119. Someone suggested having a members' only vote
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 05:57 PM
Feb 2012

but that suggestion was ignored in the interest of rushing this vote process. We also still do not know who is interested in serving as host or how many total hosts there will be. I know you suggested that anyone who gets 25% of the vote should be a host, but other posters say it should be limited to two.

There is currently no consensus to this process, so how will these issues be decided?

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
120. I suppose they will be decided in this thread.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:01 PM
Feb 2012

if most people only vote for two, only two will be added. Then it is up to the lead host to add additional hosts.

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
122. So if a majority votes for two hosts,
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:06 PM
Feb 2012

there will be two hosts. If a majority votes for three hosts, there will be three hosts. Is that how it will work? I'm only asking you because you started this election process, but the parameters aren't clear to me.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
129. A majority votes for lead host
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:30 PM
Feb 2012

The co-host are elected in order of how many votes they receive..

But the threshold for becoming a co-host is at least 25% of the total vote.

I think some minimum threshold should be met for co hosts. Otherwise someone could get one vote and become a co host.




Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
121. Good point.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:04 PM
Feb 2012

If admin can provide a list of subscribers as of yesterday or perhaps as of Saturday 2/11, which IIRC is the day before the blocking in question, that would be a way of addressing the issue you raised. There were 130 members when I check this morning.

I think asking people to use their conscience is good but I don't know how others feel about that.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
123. Wow. We've gained over 30 new subscribers since this started.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:07 PM
Feb 2012

Interesting.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
125. So rolling back to before it started is probably in order, right? n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:08 PM
Feb 2012

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
126. I wouldn't say that.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:11 PM
Feb 2012

Perhaps people who formerly felt uncomfortable have decided they have a stake and are interested in participating.

I wouldn't assume anything either way. I just thought it was a significant jump.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
127. if you do not participate in the group. and you are not a subscriber before today
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:21 PM
Feb 2012

then of course your vote should not count.

could it be any more obvious

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
128. I would definitely say that is beneficial.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:22 PM
Feb 2012

We need people who are voting here to have confidence. And we need those who have been members here to know their vote is truly counted, and not bamboozled by a bunch of new comers who could really give two shits, except to roll an election.

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
124. It would certainly help dispel
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:07 PM
Feb 2012

accusations of "outsiders" or "disruptors" trying to sway the election process.

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
130. You seem intent on making this whole thing difficult
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:31 PM
Feb 2012

Why the hell should someone who may be completely hostile to the group or someone who has only appeared to get into flamewars and not to discuss feminism have their vote counted? Also do you have any issues with red queen being lead host? I don't. I voted for her only a few weeks ago, think she's a great host, and I'm saddened that unlike the other cohosts neoma refused to do the reshuffle required to put things back how they were. I hope neoma puts the very poor judgment I've seen her display behind her and allows red queen back into the spot that we'd elected red queen to fill. I no longer trust neoma's judgment and strongly oppose her being even a cohost. I don't feel after yesterday's events that she has the best interests of this group at heart at all and feel she took me for a total ride over this whole thing. I want hosts who won't act unilaterally. This shit needs to be sorted out now and not left to fester.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
133. No, I'm intent on solving the problem in a way that will dispel any hint that the hosting selection
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:52 PM
Feb 2012

is not done in a way that MOST of the membership feels is fair and representative. This isn't about redqueen. It IS about the aftermath of her stepping down as host. Redqueen stepped down after having the responsibility for only a short time. That is the only reservation I have about installing her as host again. Her action started the events leading up to this mess. It's a;so obvious that the selection of co-hosts was problematic in light of their subsequent actions. For those reasons I think we need a complete do-over.

Because these last few days have been so rancorous I also believe, as I suggested, that we select hosts a bit differently this time. I threw the idea out there. I'm not wedded to it. I AM however adamant that pushing through a new host selection starting today is just going to set this group up for the same kind of failure.

This whole group needs a timeout.


 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
134. redqueen, do you cross your heart, hope to cry, stick a needle in your
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:59 PM
Feb 2012

toe.... double pinky swear you will NOT ever ever ever do something so silly again. as a matter of fact, .... instead, you will go outside, look at the sky, listen to the birds, smell the roses and BREATHE. instead of walking away in a huff to only say

i am better than that

do you promise,

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
135. That's the sweetest thing I've seen posted in this group all day.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:03 PM
Feb 2012


boston bean

(36,486 posts)
137. That was cute, wasn't it!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:13 PM
Feb 2012
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
139. actually, with boys was.... tap your belly button with your toe....
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:28 PM
Feb 2012

it is a horrible thing we say to kids and let them say. lookie at those beautiful faces.... couldnt do it.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
136. Neoma needs a time out first Gormy.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:09 PM
Feb 2012

That is the reason for this new election.

1. sending out private conversation with host to anonymous non hosts.
2. sending out private emails with hosts to anomynous non hosts
3. blocking a host unilaterally
4. refusing to have conversation with co hosts
5. refusing to step down to let redqueen back in after she made a bad decision on leaving.
6. locking a thread from further discussion stating she is not stepping down
7. locking my thread this morning from further discussion by our members, after a jury left it.
8. not even being interested enough to discuss the issue today. She is absent. A no show.

Hell there might even be others... I just don't know or care, the above is enough.

This group cannot move on with her as lead host. No one should expect people to put up with that for a week. Her staying as lead host will do NOTHING to help calm this down. It will only make matters worse. If you truly believe, and i think you are genuine, that what should be done, should be done by what is best for the group, you cannot disagree, that neoma needs to step down.

She is the only reason we need to have a new election quickly.

And if she won't step down, that doesn't leave any option but a new election.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
145. Neoma seems to be taking a timeout.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 08:59 PM
Feb 2012

After she locked the thread this morning I haven't seen her. That show a tremendous amount of restraint given how the accusations against her have been flying all day. If I were her I would have burned my way to a PPR'ing by now.

Frankly, I wish the admins would step in and set parameters because this group is totally dysfunctional at the moment.

As to your list of points, most have been discussed here today, No need to rehash them.


boston bean

(36,486 posts)
148. No, that is not what I meant
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:23 PM
Feb 2012

I think you know that.

She can't just sit perched in the lead host chair and lock threads with no discussion about her actions.

You are right things are totally dysfuctional and a lot of it has to do with Neoma, starting with her actions, and ending with her silence.

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
138. No. Yr deliberately trying to complicate matters
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:19 PM
Feb 2012

I honestly don't believe anyone who insists people who have come into this group to get into slanging matches should have a say in an issue that shouldn't even be an issue has the best interests of this group at heart.

And stop pretending red queen is a new host. She's the one everyone voted for only a few weeks back. and there's no failure in how she hosted as main host. That's also why I'm voting for her now and think calls to wait are just trying to let things fester. Neoma should display the judgment she didn't show yesterdAy and remove herself as host. I sure wouldn't want to be host in a group wwhere members don't trust me

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
141. not to mention it was merely a month ago, or less, we already had this election. i have heard NO
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:35 PM
Feb 2012

voice objection to the original vote.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
144. Your first sentence is not supported by the evidence.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 08:50 PM
Feb 2012

I also never pretended that redqueen is a new host. She was selected, she served, she stepped down. I only stated that given that progression and the aftermath that the members should have a say in whether they want her to be primary host again. I also stated that I thought the co-host selection last time wasn't quite as successful as we had hoped and thus we should do over the whole process. You and I disagree on this.

As for having a host who isn't trusted by other members, we've already had at least one host who fit that bill. Again, this is why I suggested having a cooling off period and a complete do-over.


Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
157. I'm afraid it is
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:56 PM
Feb 2012

The cries of we have to wait, the defense of a host who wasnt elected to be lead host and who has shown a complete lack of judgement and kicked it all off again after red queen had done such a good job of bringing calm to the group, and let's not forget the bizarre stuff about running to the admin and assuming for a list of subscribers, which I can tell you from experience in dealing with subscription issues is something that doesn't get handed out willy nilly to people.

It's clear from what I've read here from you that you have deep seated hostility towards at least one host. I'm not interested in all this petty bickering going on and just wish all of you would give it a rest. Why is that so fucking difficult?

Just so you know, unlike now when yr in this thread defending someone who betrayed the trust of members and possibly shared my email exchange with her with those who are playing a huge role in turning this group to complete shit, I don't approve of bad behAviour from hosts, regardless of whether I like them or not. The situation we've got right now is someone who refuses to cooperate with the other hosts, has gone out of their way to try to fuck up this group just when it looked like things were coming good, and who refuses to step down even though she knows she's lost the faith of most regulars in this group. You think that's not a huge problem that needs to be resolved ASAP? The admin don't need to be involved if the peoPle who have participated here discussing feminism are allowed to decide, and if neoma shows the maturity and common sense to stand aside, neither of which I see happening

Scout

(8,625 posts)
143. that's exactly what is happening.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 08:39 PM
Feb 2012

all these people who never gave a shit about the forum/group before are now all hot to come see the cat fight! hahahahahaha let's go watch the silly women, can't even run their own forum.

subscribers to this group had a big increase today ... wonder where they're all coming from? and of course the longer the vote is delayed, the more the troops are rallied from outside this forum.

you know it, i know, "they" know it.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
152. No, because there've been 30 new subscriptions today
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:27 PM
Feb 2012

thanks to the involvement of someone not involved but "concerned" who posted a M&H thread which has over 300 posts and counting.

I don't particularly want anti-feminists voting on our hosts. Why do you?

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
140. Got it!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 07:30 PM
Feb 2012

Thanks Violet!

Scout

(8,625 posts)
100. redqueen, seabeyond and iverglas as hosts n/t
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 03:52 PM
Feb 2012

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
132. Thank you scout!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:47 PM
Feb 2012

BlueIris

(29,135 posts)
115. Lead host: redqueen. Co-host: seabeyond.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 05:11 PM
Feb 2012

Polite, effective leaders who have shown they won't cave to disruptors or anti-feminists. These distractions must end so productive discussion can begin again.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
131. Thank you BlueIris.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 06:43 PM
Feb 2012
 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
153. My opinion and vote
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:34 PM
Feb 2012

I don't like the differentiation between lead and co-hosts. Being at the top of the list shouldn't carry with it any additional authority or privilege. All hosts should be co-hosts since. The only thing that the #1 host has over the other hosts is that only an admin can remove them as a host.

Before Neoma removed iverglas as a host an blocked her from the group, I sent a PM to the hosts of this group suggesting that we don't take unilateral action in blocking someone, adding or removing new hosts, or locking and pinning threads. Excepting for blocking the most obvious disruptors and locking off-topic threads, none of the hosting actions should be used willy-nilly by a host. We don't need a hierarchy of hosts to function as a group. Each host should be equal to another, matters discussed, and actions agreed upon.

Everyone who responded did so favorably, and then Neoma unilaterally removed iverglas from the host list and blocked her from posting over an off-site argument, and has locked and pinned a thread that has no bearing on the SOP. Iverglas has since been unblocked and reinstated and I have since PM'd Neoma asking her to unpin her thread, but she has flatly refused.

That said, I think we should return to the original hosting roster minus Neoma, who has clearly abused her authority as host. Without her, the host roster would be:

seabeyond
CrispyQ (if she's still willing)
laconicsax
Redqueen
iverglas

This is the group of hosts that the group initially selected and I think that tossing the lot and starting over is the wrong decision. We should restore the original host roster then add new hosts.

Response to laconicsax (Reply #153)

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
161. I came to this position yesterday, and I am not averse to it.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 10:31 PM
Feb 2012

After initially suggesting a re-vote on hosts.

However, the only recourse to purge a rogue host, who will not resign is to have a new election.

If Neoma will resign, I think what you propose is an acceptable outcome.

If not, we have to have a new election.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
167. That's not the only recourse -- Skinner can remove a host
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:11 AM
Feb 2012

if there is reason and the other hosts say so and probably some of the Group. You'll have to get specifics from wherever such things reside if you want to pursue it.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
169. I have witnessed this with other groups
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:31 AM
Feb 2012

and the recourse had been new elections.

If someone here thinks Skinner will step in here, please contact him and see if he will, prior to us having new elections.

I have noticed that Skinner is not involving himself in these issues and is leaving it up to the group members to sort out.

Lisa D

(1,532 posts)
162. The election process has already begun.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 10:42 PM
Feb 2012

People have been voting all day and to suddenly stop the new election now, frankly, would look a little suspicious. Several posters advised that an election shouldn't be rushed, but that advice was largely ignored. It's too late now to reverse course without eroding the trust in the hosts/group even further.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
163. That is a good point.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 10:43 PM
Feb 2012
 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
164. There's no reason why the existing votes can't be reconciled.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 11:44 PM
Feb 2012

I think it was a mistake to simply call for a new election without discussion of whether it was needed or even having nominations first, but since that's where we are, the votes here will have to be reconciled with the current host list anyway.

What I'm suggesting is removing a host who clearly abused her power, and adding new hosts. If we simply wipe the slate clean and start over with the winners of this election, what's to prevent a new election and clean slate next month, and the month after that? That's what Republicans try to do when they lose elections, and we should be better than that.

Starting over from scratch isn't necessary or warranted. We have hosts and people are re-voting for them along with others, lets add some new hosts and have a discussion about how hosting here should work.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
165. Laconicsax, neoma will not resign, she has stated that.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:06 AM
Feb 2012

The only recourse at this time is to have a new election to remove her, for abusing her host powers and all the things I have listed and others have listed.

That is the recourse laid out by admin on this site.

It has happened in other groups as well.


 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
166. Then we should have those as separate elections.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:11 AM
Feb 2012

IMO, dealing with removing an abusive host should be done before and separately from nominating and electing new hosts.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
168. There is no other way to remove a rogue host.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:13 AM
Feb 2012

This is the process.

 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
170. You don't need to elect a whole new set to remove one.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 01:48 AM
Feb 2012

We could simply have a vote to remove Neoma separately from electing a whole new batch of hosts.

If I'm wrong, please link the rules/F&G/meta thread where this is explained.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
177. Lac, start a thread about ousting her.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 08:49 AM
Feb 2012

Please do. I went with what I believe to be our only options.

If people want to do it that way and if it can be done, please do it.

I had a thread locked yesterday by neoma demanding her resignation. It was similar to what you want to do.

You might be able to do a better job, I truly mean that, I am not being facetious.

Please do what needs to be done. I agree, she has abused her powers, she needs to go. If that is what you and others want to do, I see no problem with it. I am 100% behind you!

Again, please do it. I'll make my say in your thread about her breach of trust. I only want what is best for this group, as a member. If some feel I acted hastily, well, I can take that. But it was done in good faith.

All other groups that have had lead host problems have been resolved with a re-vote. I have doubts, that your way will work, but it might.

Please give it a good try!!!

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
172. Has Neoma been in touch with any of you hosts?
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 04:22 AM
Feb 2012

I sent her a PM last night expressing my concern, as she'd initially contacted me last week asking for my opinions on how to settle things down, and I found it strange that she didn't answer my latest PM, but had time to pop in here and lock a thread that was critical of what she'd done yesterday. I've been reading stuff about her sharing PMs of members of this group with non-hosts, and not that mine had anything I wouldn't own publicly, but I'm concerned that my exchange with her which she solicited has been shared with non-hosts...

I agree that tossing everything hostwise because one's behaved inappropriately isn't the way to go. But I have a nomination for a co-host, and I don't care if they replace an existing host or are an additional one. I'm going to check with them first to see if they're willing before I nominate them in this thread as a co-host...

btw, not that I could make sense of much of the bickering about how this groups hosts communicate, but have you considered using the Hosts forum? As there's been stuff dragged from this group into H&M to stir up trouble and there's a lot of interest in the group from people who aren't part of it, you could do what another safe haven group did which was start their thread off by saying it was only for group members, though given some seem to think posting one post of flamebait makes them a member of this group, I'd say it was only for the Feminists hosts and say it's an internal issue that needs to be sorted. I'd say the vast majority of hosts of other groups and forums would have no problems at all in respecting yr wishes and letting you guys work it out on yr own.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
180. No, she has not contacted me.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 10:29 AM
Feb 2012

And I agree that these discussions should take place in the Hosts forum. However I was also made aware of a situation which might have affected the decision to handle issues in that forum, so I can't really address the decision to handle them off-site completely as I am lacking some information about what might have played into it.

Ms. Toad

(35,515 posts)
176. Whether it "should" or not
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 08:49 AM
Feb 2012

from a DU group structure point of view, there is a power hierarchy. Each host serves at the whim of every host higher on the list.

The group can agree to operate under different rules, but if anyone on the list chooses to ignore the informal rules, the DU group structure kicks in - so ignore it at your peril in setting up the order of the host roster.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
178. This is important: whoever becomes hosts -- the software trumps your other
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 09:58 AM
Feb 2012

decisions on hierarchy, so be real careful about how you fill in those blanks.

 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
189. My point was that hosts can choose to override that hierarchy by not taking unilateral action.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:07 PM
Feb 2012

In the Atheists & Agnostics group, none of the hosts take action without discussing it with the others. SoP-violating threads can get locked without prior discussion, but the other hosts are always notified with objections and subsequent discussion being able to reverse the decision.

It's true that any host can choose to ignore the informal rules, and that's exactly what happened here when Neoma removed iverglas, blocked her from the group, and has since refused to consult with the other hosts on taking actions, but it's been my hope that we can all hold ourselves to a higher standard than that.

Ms. Toad

(35,515 posts)
190. It would be nice -
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:38 PM
Feb 2012

but probably, unfortunately, also smart to plan for the worst.

 

Remember Me

(1,532 posts)
154. I think I already voted, but I'll do it again
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:35 PM
Feb 2012

Redqueen and seabeyond.

 

noamnety

(20,234 posts)
155. Lead host: redqueen. Co-host: seabeyond.
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:35 PM
Feb 2012

I'd be far more comfortable with that than the current situation.

boston bean

(36,486 posts)
156. Thank you noamnety!
Tue Feb 14, 2012, 09:36 PM
Feb 2012

mtnester

(8,885 posts)
173. My vote is Neoma
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 05:29 AM
Feb 2012

however, I think a cooling off period should occur instead of an anger vote

Since the vote appears to be rolling anyway, I want to make sure no one misses this vote, since my previous vote seems to not have received the thanks for your vote nod...busy thread

Violet_Crumble

(36,142 posts)
175. I've got my nomination for co-host here...
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 08:42 AM
Feb 2012

I only nominated Red Queen and hadn't nominated a co-host yet, so I'd like to nominate JusticeIsCheap as a co-host. I think her contributions to feminist discussions in this group are really good, she's got a level head and has what it takes to be a co-host...

 

JTFrog

(14,274 posts)
181. Redqueen.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:34 AM
Feb 2012

seabeyond
CrispyQ
laconicsax
boston bean (not sure if she wants the job but she's certainly earned a spot)

As seabeyond will attest, I may not be a prolific poster here, but we've had many discussions about feminism and misogyny here at the DU. I subscribed to the forum a few weeks before all hell broke loose and I did send her an article that she posted here recently.

Although my vote may not be counted amongst the others, I think if we're going to count votes of those recently jumped into the fray, then perhaps my vote will be considered.

I'd also like to thank boston bean for stepping up and taking action with the new election. I understand that functionality of the software may not have been taken into account when the group was first formed. I would think that if someone were voted out as host, that they would defer to the groups wishes and not force the admins to step into the mix. This is why I think this should be handled as quickly as possible. This would allow the group to focus on the SOP of the group.

Thank you for listening.


 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
183. i agree with your whole post, and love seeing you in here
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:38 AM
Feb 2012

Redqueen.

seabeyond
CrispyQ
laconicsax
boston bean (not sure if she wants the job but she's certainly earned a spot)

As seabeyond will attest, I may not be a prolific poster here, but we've had many discussions about feminism and misogyny here at the DU. I subscribed to the forum a few weeks before all hell broke loose and I did send her an article that she posted here recently.

and i love the suggestion of BB. if she would agree, lol. i think that is a ver good idea. did i clearly state that in my post? i better say it again, clearly. though i dont imagine it will be hard to fill in the slots. now that we better understand the process.

i really would like to see you in here more. you are so grounded.

redqueen

(115,164 posts)
185. I'll vouch for your continued interest and participation in feminist discussions, JTFrog...
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:51 AM
Feb 2012

both here and elsewhere around the site.

CrispyQ

(38,238 posts)
182. I've missed 98% of what's gone on the past week,
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:37 AM
Feb 2012

but this is not why I came to this forum. It's unfortunate that whatever has transpired has created such discord in this group.

That said, I feel redqueen has always been fair & in addition, she is an extremely vocal & articulate voice for women's issues in all areas of DU.

I vote for redqueen as host, seabeyond as co-host.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
184. good seeing you again. and yes, you have been very busy with RL. that happens.
Wed Feb 15, 2012, 11:40 AM
Feb 2012

you are still of value in my opinion and i still vote for you, too. in time, when things calm down, i think this would be a good thing.

i am not here to acknowledge everyones post. but it so happens you post, and i wanted to say and JT posted and i wanted to say lol

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