...and expected people to react kindly or with respect?

were a woman. Someone telling you your post was ridiculous is NOT attacking you for being a woman, it's attacking you for posting something ridiculous. Not everyone clicks on your name and reads your bio. To cry sexism is a bit dishonest, methinks.

You're acting like a jerk and you should stop.
That is all.

Somebody posted something about the realities of dealing with disingenuous Republican politicians. You interpreted that as an assertion that Michelle Bachman (R-idiot) was more intelligent than President Obama (D-constitutional scholar). When the inevitable demands for a link, otherwise known as documentation, appear you become defensive and claim rules that do not exist. In the course of those demands, somebody calls you "Sammy" for some reason, probably because of the DU name you chose, which appears to be masculine. In actuality, it appears your name is Samantha and you are female.

So a gender misdirection created by you prompted a demand for documentation you refused to provide makes DU somewhat sexist.

It makes perfect sense.

Sounds like a preconceived prejudice against the site. I wonder who turned you against us before you ever signed up to prove we suck.

We create our own reality. Sounds like you came here with an agenda and are set on seeing us as sexist and misogynist.

You will fit right in with a few, who bemoan the state of DU, and just complain and gripe about how awful it is.

Maybe if you look for the good you will find it.

There are 4 women's groups each with a little different emphasis. Lots of herstory and contributions by our foremothers to making life better for all of us.
I hope the damage can be undone.

...before seeing it here via your link, I would have assumed you to be a man named Sam Reynolds. Therefore I do not believe that anyone was being condescending in the male-condescending-to-female manner.

As another responder here has noted, you posted something that was guaranteed flamebait. It is no surprise to me whatsoever that someone called you "Sammy".

Now if your username had been SueReynolds and that same person had called you "dearie", you might have a point. But even then I'd cut them some slack because (a) you never did point to the original thread you were complaining about and (b) I've seen posts using the condescending term "dearie" without being called out as sexist, and rightly so, because in almost all cases the condescension is a result of wildly differing viewpoints rather than sexism.