for her husband. When he fell on his way to the bathroom, he couldn't get up by himself and she wasn't strong enough to help him on her own. So she called 911, and emergency medical personnel came and got him upright. They're trained to help in those situations.

Best wishes to you both for his recovery.

I'll keep this in mind. I'm sure after he's been home for a full day, I'll get the hang of it.

I got one of those fold up potty seats with arm rests and wheels, just kept it by the bed (you get used to it) and it was a short transfer from the bed to the seat. Hang in there, things will get better...

Thanks magumba!

It was towards the end of his ordeal with Multiple Myeloma. He fell or collapsed in the bathroom and my mother couldn't really do anything by herself. She called 911 and they sent an ambulance and took him to the hospital and handled the situation really well.

Not sleeping IS an issue when we are caring for someone who is recovering from a surgery or ill. In situations where I've been unable to sleep due to looking after someone very ill, the worst thing is to think, "I've got to sleep" because that makes it much harder to sleep. I tried to nap when I could but I just told myself, "Right now the rules are different and I'm on call all the time" and reminded myself how many other people have been in this exact same situation. Something just pulls you through. My mother lived in a situation like this for three and a half years and somehow got through. There's also the love we feel for these people and maybe the feeling of paying them back for all the good they've done for us, which can make it easier.

Good luck with your situation.

But I will do my best to get sleep when I can.

Thanks.

Will save both of you a ton of frustration. Take home the hospital pee container. No reason to go all the way to the bathroom if he doesn’t have to. Male Depends, also just in case. Clear out all throw rugs. Two tennis balls for the walker legs. If eligible for home rehab, they should be able to give you some ideas. You can by the foaming body cleanser at Amazon. Makes good chair shampoo. Get hair damp, foam and scrub then use damp wash rag to rinse.

I actually have a waterproof mattress pad on a different bed in the house. Unfortunately, we just transferred him into our bed. It was a challenge!


I will look into the body cleanser because he can't bathe for several more days.

Thanks.

my husband developed pneumonia and sepsis while having chemo. Got him through that, but three weeks later, while he was still frail, he fractured a hip and had hip replacement surgery. I was doing pretty much everything for him, including dressing him, for a several months. Here’s what helped us in addition to a walker:

Gait belt. His physical therapist taught me to use this to help him up and down stairs. We live in a two-story house, and he wanted to sleep in his own bed. We practiced while he was still in the hospital, so I knew the routine by the time he was home. We also did laps around the hospital floor with me steadying him with the belt to help him gain strength.

A raised toilet seat and a shower chair also helped tremendously.

You could get a portable toilet, but since this isn’t long term, I’d recommend one of those bottle urinals like they have at the hospital. My husband used one of those if he needed to go during the night and emptied and washed it in the morning.

BTW, I got all this stuff at Walgreen’s. The cashier took pity on my frazzled state and had everyone looking for every coupon or discount they could give me plus helped me put everything in the car.

Patience. This isn’t really fun, but it’s doable and rewarding when you see little improvements like graduating from a walker to crutches, then to one crutch, and finally to walking our big crazy dog again (this took five months because of his weakened state).

Take care of yourself while you’re taking care of him. I started getting massages because I was doing so much heavy physical work during that time. If you have a support system that can help with meals, that is a real blessing.

Hang in there. You can do this!

This is one more reason to love DU!

I don't want to trouble our daughters about my concerns - they don't live near us. So getting help here is much appreciated.

yet sturdy stool for the shower. The stools are aluminum, plastic and very easy to lift and move. Many regular pharmacies or medical/health supply stores carry these items, even Target/Walmart. Perhaps get a bedpan too, just in case.

We did this for our mom as well as having an occasional home health aide when we weren't available. And you know to remove electric cords, clutter and throw rugs in his area that could be a hazard and always have adequate illumination from a nightlight or two turned on. ~ All the best to you and your husband.

bottles: https://www.amazon.com/Gloveleya-Portable-Urinals-Hospital-Plastic/dp/B01I13YBXY/ref=asc_df_B01I13YBXY/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=216788156559&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11895829154574984695&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=t&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9026060&hvtargid=pla-433562139807&psc=1

Probably available at drugstores ^^

Hang tough, keep a pot of coffee going, you’ll make it through this!!!

And he used it just a little bit ago.

Thanks for the support.

at home. Call the Social Worker at the hospital that he was discharged from and ask if they can arrange a home visit by a therapist. They can help you with all of these concerns you have.

And he will not start his Physical Therapy for a month. Thanks for the suggestion.

Ambulance runs are either free (volunteer EMS service) or expensive (Paid services) so if your hometown has paid services you might check with the local police department or fire department-explain your fear of a fall and possible need for the service of one or two healthy helpers-there might be some help there.

here and there to give you a break? Or a senior companion service that could help by doing grocery shopping and other errands for you? Might be worth it for the first few weeks.

Thanks.

I was his caregiver for the last nine months of his life. He was an avid fisherman and long before he became ill he'd already been using the same solution he used on his fishing boat -- a plastic bowl (or bucket). Gross, I know, but that's what he did, and he was already used to using that instead of going all the way to the bathroom. It worked great. I just had to empty it. This doesn't work for other things though, so you might want to get a portable potty.

I also was the caregiver for my mother until she became immobile. I bought a portable potty for her room -- she needed assistance getting in and out, so I also had a monitor that sounded when she stepped out of bed. It works a treat.

You will be fine. It is pretty normal for all of us to need assistance sooner or later. Just remind yourself it is temporary and try to be patient. He's probably not thrilled either.

Edit to add: My son is a fire fighter. He told me if my mom ever fell to not wait and call 911. The firefighters provide emergency services as part of their job and are happy to come help. Just calmly explain someone has fallen and you need help getting them back up. That way they don't call for an ambulance and there is no cost. Don't ever try to lift him yourself (I'm assuming he's larger than you, but in any case, just don't try, it's really easy to hurt yourself).

He is moving around a little bit and I have him convinced that any time he gets up, he needs to go to the bathroom. Saves on emergencies!

Thank you.