Addiction & Recovery

bif

(24,010 posts) Thu Jun 13, 2019, 10:18 AM Jun 2019

The best line I've heard about getting and staying sober...

"Focus on who you want to be, not on who you were." I've noticed that a lot of rehab is focused on ones past, atoning for it, and forgiving. Which is fine, but at some point I think it's healthier to look to the future. Just my opinion.

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The best line I've heard about getting and staying sober... (Original Post) bif Jun 2019 OP

Good advice. It goes along with... Rollo Jun 2019 #1

Excellent advice. yonder Jun 2019 #2

That's why I guit going to meetings after3 months. safeinOhio Jun 2019 #3

Welp..."Focus on who you want to be, not on who you were." irisblue Jun 2019 #4

Similar: "The past is blind to who you are now, but the future is listening." n/t TygrBright Jun 2019 #5

Today is the first day of the rest of my life. n/t progree Jun 2019 #6

Rollo

(2,559 posts)

1. Good advice. It goes along with...

Reply to bif (Original post)

Thu Jun 13, 2019, 10:20 AM

Jun 2019

You can't always control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.

yonder

(10,002 posts)

2. Excellent advice.

Reply to bif (Original post)

Thu Jun 13, 2019, 10:27 AM

Jun 2019

I've been trying to change some things myself, and forward-thinking helps avoid past patterns.

Thanks.

safeinOhio

(34,080 posts)

3. That's why I guit going to meetings after3 months.

Reply to bif (Original post)

Thu Jun 13, 2019, 11:18 AM

Jun 2019

Went back to school and got my degree while working full and overtime. If you keep talking about it and thinking about it, you could end up slipping. But that’s just me. That was in 1990.