I know nobody wants that, but sometimes you just have to let someone find their bottom.

A decent amount of time cooling your heels and sobering up in Jail ... tends to be 'bottom' for a lot of folks.

Although ... homelessness often also works ... You really can't help anyone until they WANT help, and significant suffering is usually the instigator of someone coming around in that way.

recovery is that they ack that they have a problem. Also, tell your sister to not spend their retirement for they won't have time enough to recovery from gutting it out...they should be the primary goal of their retirement, not their son.

Sometimes the hardest choice is the best choice...I have family members that are alcoholics and I'm so happy I pulled the plug (no contact) for they are still surviving somehow (jobless or thereabouts), but me and my SO are so much better off (I can't handle the stress nor do I have the resources to help)...the rest of the family knows what's going on too, for they have had to deal w/ the calls asking for money, etc. too.

Usually more than just the immediate family members are negatively impacted too...

My sister is on anti anxiety meds because of all this stuff. I know it is a disease, but he is so manipulative and plays on my sister's love so much it makes me nuts.

of Middle Aged and Older Parents. Tough Love and getting involved with and helping with Social Care Services works best. The whole family has to agree on a plan and never deviate from that plan. Persons whom are Dependent are the greatest Manipulators in the world. Intervention does work,it may take a couple tries,but it does work.

Once you give a few bucks to a Addict,it's all over,then the real grief begins.

Experience tells me different. Had to intervene with my Parents and that was forty years ago. Lot's if name calling and finger pointing,but,in the end we managed to make it work. Still today,couple Siblings still point fingers and blame,but what the hell,my life is better without the grief they refused to recognize ,even thought they themselves had to deal with Addict children of their own.

have places for addicts to get treatment and it's free. Here in Melbourne, FL, there's a place called Circles of Care, so perhaps there's one in your sister's area.

https://www.circlesofcare.org/current1/home-page.html

due to the number of people who need inpatient care.

Maybe they could check if there are any available facilities in neighboring towns?

Addiction sucks. My bf is a recovering alcoholic and runs a halfway house for guys once they get out of Circles. Many of them don't recover (and don't even want to) but are just looking for a port in the storm, a temporary roof over their head, or an escape from the heat.

It's really tough for the families that haven't given up. I wish you all the best.

Addiction sucks. The only thing I have to offer is that your nephew has to do this, at least in the beginning. Until he is ready to take responsibility for his recovery your sister will be wasting her money. Good luck to you all.

That's sad, but don't let him drag down anyone else with him. Your sister living in poverty in retirement is not worth the chance that he'll straighten out.

Maybe prison is the best place for him for awhile. It's unfortunate that we no longer have any real mental health system in this country anymore, so incarceration becomes the backup plan.