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bif

(24,065 posts) Wed Dec 11, 2019, 09:10 PM Dec 2019

Anyone else struggle with the holidays?

This isn't my favorite time of year to begin with. My mom passed away in the beginning of December (many years ago). But now that I'm not drinking, it's even more depressing. "F*ck Christmas" seems to be my new mantra. The forced merriment and endless stream of parties really get to me after a while. January 2nd can't come soon enough.

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Anyone else struggle with the holidays? (Original Post) bif Dec 2019 OP

Sorry you are struggling. The holidays will do that. rainy Dec 2019 #1

Big party tonight bif Dec 2019 #2

Do whatever you feel best doing..If you feel better skipping, then skip the party. Stuart G Dec 2019 #3

well, I'm glad I skipped the party bif Dec 2019 #4

It is difficult for many. Tipperary Dec 2019 #5

rainy

(6,215 posts)

1. Sorry you are struggling. The holidays will do that.

Reply to bif (Original post)

Wed Dec 11, 2019, 09:38 PM

Dec 2019

I hope you have some good peeps to hang with to get you through this❤️

bif

(24,065 posts)

2. Big party tonight

Reply to rainy (Reply #1)

Sun Dec 15, 2019, 11:58 AM

Dec 2019

Which I'm probably going to skip. If I go, I plan on ghosting after a half hour or so. Still up in the air about going. Staying home and either watching something on Netflix or painting is all the company I need. Way more fun that making idle conversation with people I don't know and don't care about.

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)

3. Do whatever you feel best doing..If you feel better skipping, then skip the party.

Reply to bif (Reply #2)

Sun Dec 15, 2019, 03:53 PM

Dec 2019

Protect yourself always. We addicts need to protect ourselves. ALWAYS. If this is going to put a strain on us, cause us "extra trouble", forget it. If painting will make you happy, then that is what to do. Yes, the Holidays SUCK ...AND SUCK IS indeed close to .....UCK....

bif

(24,065 posts)

4. well, I'm glad I skipped the party

Reply to Stuart G (Reply #3)

Tue Dec 17, 2019, 09:27 AM

Dec 2019

When my wife came home she said, "You would have hated it!" She said the only people she knew were the host couple and a woman from her book club. She still managed to stay for an hour and a half, chatting with a bunch of strangers. She loves that scene. So I stayed home and made a fabulous dinner! Time much better spent, I must say.

Tipperary

(6,930 posts)

5. It is difficult for many.

Reply to bif (Original post)

Fri Dec 27, 2019, 01:45 AM

Dec 2019

I think we have to remember we actually do NOT have to do a thing or go anywhere we choose not to. I was in my 40s when that truth hit me. It has made a wonderful difference.

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