What’s to feel guilty about? It’s not an obligation.

seating space for 36 feet.

(I grew up on sailboats. A 36 foot boat has reasonably about 10 linear feet of cockpit space, if that. Two people can distance. Not more.)

I wouldn't do it. And if it will make you uncomfortable, all the more reason.

energy away.

what it was 3 weeks before, and 45% above the first wave peak in April.

Where I live, Minnesota, the latest number is up 36% from the recent low.

That INCREASING and ACCELERATING infection rate has made me shut myself back in. I was going to get out a little more but I look at the Minnesota curves and decide nah. It's perfectly OK to be a poop-dee-poo during a raging pandemic.

Instead, send him some horror links of what it's like to be a Covid patient on a ventilator. Or say someone you are taking care of or live with or whatever is a very vulnerable person and you don't want to risk infecting him/her/them. If that person is a RWer, ask why people in the White House West Wing (except Trump) are required to wear masks, per a May 11 White House management office memo. If its such a hoax or for wimps or whatever.

And for some reason, folks on boats tend to drink. I remember at an early AA meeting, a woman was talking about getting together with some friends on a boat, think it may have been some sort of reunion. I was pretty new, but lots of people warned her not to go since she was putting herself in a situation where she couldn't just walk away if she needed to. But she went anyway and it turned out that she relapsed. I saw her after that so she did start all over again, but the guilt and shame she felt was hardly worth it. I always try to err on the side of caution and I remember that it's important to always have an escape route. You're doing the right thing.

The first word out of a boater's mouth when you meet him/her is "Wannabeer?"

Sailing is fun, but it is not a priority.

I'll be 28yrs sober in 3 weeks and I believe your thinking is exactly right. Feeling ok and comfy yourself is all the excuse you need not to go. It's why if I'm invited to an event where there will be drinking I always drive so I can leave if I get uncomfortable. In this case I wouldn't be able to do that, so I'd think long and hard about it. It's not that I'll drink or wish to. I just don't sit in uncomfortable situations. Easy Does It.

There is no escape route. Like you, it's not that I'll drink, it's just that I won't be totally comfortable the whole time. My wife' is pretty understanding.

plus all the rest. For all of your life you will be balancing decisions-that's the thing a lot of us could not do in the past. And look closely into yourself-realize that to do your best you must send her off to the boat with gratitude in your heart that she will enjoy it. They said sobriety is good-they never said it was easy.

Worked out just fine. I just have to set boundaries and stick to my guns. She had a good time, and I had a relaxing evening.

..Thanks for your courage and resilience...