Addiction & Recovery
Related: About this forumRough night last night.
We had friends over for dinner. Sitting out on the patio on a warm night really made me want to have some wine along with everyone else. I've been clean for two years now, and I haven't had any major urges in a while. Then I thought how the evening would have progressed in the past. I would have gotten buzzed. Then, after our friends left and my wife went to bed, I would continue drinking until I got super hammered and would pass out in front of the tv. So instead, I did the dishes and cleaned the kitchen while they were outside. I came out and sat with them from time to time, figuring they really wouldn't notice I wasn't there. And the conversations were somewhat wine fueled, which can be pretty boring if you're not drinking. So I got through it unscathed. Whew!
Zoonart
(12,767 posts)Congrats.
Eliot Rosewater
(32,537 posts)cayugafalls
(5,755 posts)Super happy for you.
Permanut
(6,687 posts)Congratulations from a grateful 26 year member of AA.
peacebuzzard
(5,282 posts)I shy away from most group circumstances involving cocktails. Or even dinners with wine. The conversations never seem to be very interesting.
Congratulations on your present life!
jmbar2
(6,138 posts)I stayed with some folks who drank wine every day. They got tipsy, but not necessarily drunk. Just talked louder and louder, got cranked up--every evening. If it was a bad day, they commiserated; if it was a good day, they celebrated with wine. Every evening.
After a few evenings of it, it got pretty boring. I wondered if that was normal behavior for the wine drinking class.
Your post suggests I am not alone - thanks.
Congrats for keeping it together.
Dyedinthewoolliberal
(15,925 posts)I'm in a 12 step program. Not had a drink in almost 17 years. Do you have anyone you can call in case things get, you know, weird? Sometimes talking with someone else helps those feelings pass.
JDC
(10,494 posts)Those conversations become even more boring over time - at least in my experience.
42bambi
(1,753 posts)hubby couldn't -- he now has end stage liver disease. It's a sad time in our home these days, so I was happy to read that you did something so great, and not just for you, but for your loved ones as well.
3catwoman3
(25,504 posts)Doreen
(11,686 posts)Jack-o-Lantern
(1,010 posts)WheelWalker
(9,201 posts)George II
(67,782 posts)seta1950
(937 posts)It sounds hard
Turbineguy
(38,413 posts)Worried2020
(444 posts).
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Yeah - I get that. I drink alot, but I just sorta sip all day, never really getting a "buzz", but my friends all seem to wanna "catch up" and drink what I drink in a day within a couple of hours.
I'm the same with weed (it's legal here ya know ) - just a puff or two now and then, not bowl after bowl, joint after joint to the point where ur train of thought keeps getting derailed . . .
Anyhoo - congrats on your success with the "battle"
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bif
(24,064 posts)It's been an interesting ride!
DoBotherMe
(2,350 posts)You did the next right thing, doing the dishes. It gets easier. 24 years sober here and no regrets.
BadGimp
(4,063 posts)Stuart G
(38,726 posts)Seven great words, " So I got through it unscathed. Whew"
Thank You for sharing this story with us.