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bif

(24,065 posts)
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 11:37 AM Sep 2021

Yesterday was my third anniversary of sobriety!

It hasn't been easy. I still struggle a bit on weekends and have avoided a lot of parties over this period. But it is getting better. I used to think about drinking (actually, about not drinking) all the time. But, I've just accepted the new reality. I'm just not a drinker anymore.

I have to thank my family for getting me into rehab. And the occasional positive reinforcement. Although it'd be nice to hear how much they enjoy the new me once in a while. They seem to take it for granted and they can't possibly know how much work it's been for me.

Anyway, here's to many more years of clean living!

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Yesterday was my third anniversary of sobriety! (Original Post) bif Sep 2021 OP
Good for you nycbos Sep 2021 #1
Congratulations to the new you. zuul Sep 2021 #2
Major congratulations! rurallib Sep 2021 #3
Hey, way to go. pwb Sep 2021 #4
As a member of a family with many alcoholics, I applaud you from the bottom of my heart. BComplex Sep 2021 #5
Very proud of you! Irish_Dem Sep 2021 #6
i think it's really great that you took up painting. mopinko Sep 2021 #7
Congrats bif. One day at a time. NoMoreRepugs Sep 2021 #8
Congratulations on 3 years nykym Sep 2021 #9
Attaway to go! Dyedinthewoolliberal Sep 2021 #10
Fantastic Duncanpup Sep 2021 #11
Awesome Alpeduez21 Sep 2021 #12
Congrats. Bristlecone Sep 2021 #13
Thanks all! bif Sep 2021 #14
Bravo! ChazInAz Sep 2021 #15
Congratulations!!!! BillyBobBrilliant Sep 2021 #16
Congrats! nt yaesu Sep 2021 #17
Happy 3rd anniversary and many more! RestoreAmerica2020 Sep 2021 #18
👏👏👏 Respect irisblue Sep 2021 #19
Here's a simple congrats for a complex effort, bif. yonder Sep 2021 #20
Congratulations! FuzzyRabbit Sep 2021 #21
One day at a time RainCaster Sep 2021 #22
Great job, keep at it!!!! Jon King Sep 2021 #23
Great job, keep it up, you'll benefit tremendously! intheozone Sep 2021 #24
eggscllent . AllaN01Bear Sep 2021 #25
Congrats and much success going forward! BadGimp Sep 2021 #26
"I'm just not a drinker anymore" Skittles Sep 2021 #27
Best response line i heard if offered a drink is.. hydrolastic Sep 2021 #28
Congratulations, Key Words, "They seem to take it for granted and they can't possibly know how much Stuart G Sep 2021 #29
Congratulations! Rhiannon12866 Sep 2021 #30
Congratulations! DemocraticPatriot Sep 2021 #31

rurallib

(63,228 posts)
3. Major congratulations!
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 11:40 AM
Sep 2021

Life is pretty good sober, isn't it?

I quit somewhere @ 1990 and life has been much better.

Keep it up - hope to see updates coming in the next years.

pwb

(12,202 posts)
4. Hey, way to go.
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 11:41 AM
Sep 2021

Those three years have been difficult for us all so you did good. Stay with us.

BComplex

(9,114 posts)
5. As a member of a family with many alcoholics, I applaud you from the bottom of my heart.
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 11:55 AM
Sep 2021
Some of my family members have achieved several years of sobriety...others are still struggling. You're doing great, bif! One day at a time!

Irish_Dem

(58,324 posts)
6. Very proud of you!
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 12:10 PM
Sep 2021

Lots of alcoholism in my family and I know the damage it does, and how hard it is to stay sober.

One day, one hour, one minute if that is what it takes!

Yes three years of clean living, good on you!

mopinko

(71,869 posts)
7. i think it's really great that you took up painting.
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 12:12 PM
Sep 2021

never worn your shoes, but an potter friend of mine did.
had not been doing much when he got bad, and it wasnt his best.
he was amazed how much time he had once he quit. get back to work, and got a teaching job at a community college. the clay was good therapy.

he sorta has the same problem. but he's just so grateful his wife didnt dump him. i do think she knows, tho. he was a bad dad, but pretty much makes up for that every day.

nykym

(3,063 posts)
9. Congratulations on 3 years
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 12:19 PM
Sep 2021

yeah it can be tough at times but the rewards are much better.
35 years for me - I don't miss it at all.

Alpeduez21

(1,861 posts)
12. Awesome
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 12:53 PM
Sep 2021

You have achieved something quite great. At three years sober I had returned to school to get a degree. None of the other students or professors could I have guessed I was a blackout drinker who broke out in handcuffs due to my allergy to alcohol. It was like I was living a secret life, like walter mitty or something. Now that reality of a sober Alpeduez21 makes the blackout life seem a distant fantasy that barely existed.

FuzzyRabbit

(2,087 posts)
21. Congratulations!
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 01:46 PM
Sep 2021

Your sentence "I'm just not a drinker anymore" tells me that you were 100% successful. You no longer identify with drinking. Keep it up.

Skittles

(159,642 posts)
27. "I'm just not a drinker anymore"
Fri Sep 10, 2021, 10:43 PM
Sep 2021

after I quit smoking (after several attempts), I'd still think about it and dream about it. But then one night while taking a walk I came across a pack of cigs (my brand) with a lighter near the pool area of my apartment complex...I took one of the cigs....walked with it for a while and then I thought, this is the moment of truth, am I a non-smoker or will I always be someone who struggles not to smoke? I tossed the cig in the dumpster and that's when I knew I really was done for good.

hydrolastic

(526 posts)
28. Best response line i heard if offered a drink is..
Sat Sep 11, 2021, 08:10 AM
Sep 2021

No thanks if i drink that, i will lose all my stuff and half of yours. Next june 15th, 30 years

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
29. Congratulations, Key Words, "They seem to take it for granted and they can't possibly know how much
Sun Sep 12, 2021, 03:54 PM
Sep 2021

it's been for me....Dealing with "addictions" is very hard...no matter what you are addicted to...

Rhiannon12866

(222,886 posts)
30. Congratulations!
Sat Sep 18, 2021, 05:28 AM
Sep 2021

And this is why it's beneficial to share with those of us who have been there. I joined AA in November of 2008 and was fortunate to meet a wonderful woman who told me what to do. But it still took me awhile. Like the others have said, an addiction is very hard to break. And I've learned that sobriety is a journey, not a destination. I can remember when I never thought I'd make it a week - but I kept at it, with the help and example of others, espeically the woman who sponsored me, and I have 12 years as of last April. Sometimes when I think of it, I'm amazed. And I try to pay it forward. I have a friend who also has three years as of today. One of my AA jobs is coins - and you deserve one, too...

 

DemocraticPatriot

(5,410 posts)
31. Congratulations!
Wed Sep 22, 2021, 12:03 AM
Sep 2021

I was on my 4th night, and I failed this time

But there's always tomorrow, yes? Back to the starting line.

It is an ongoing battle...

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