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bif

(24,130 posts)
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 09:40 PM Apr 2022

I was the only adult not drinking at our Easter dinner this evening.

And I managed to get through it unscathed! I thought about sneaking a drink a couple times. But I stayed as far away from the bar as I could the whole time. That helped.

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I was the only adult not drinking at our Easter dinner this evening. (Original Post) bif Apr 2022 OP
Good for you! Danmel Apr 2022 #1
excellent Skittles Apr 2022 #2
Yeah! Way to go! MLAA Apr 2022 #3
Awesome XanaDUer2 Apr 2022 #4
👏 sprinkleeninow Apr 2022 #5
Excellent and good job! Maraya1969 Apr 2022 #6
Great Job.. Stuart G Apr 2022 #7
I'm glad you kept to your plan, you should be proud of yourself. dem4decades Apr 2022 #8
I am also nondrinker. Just my choice more or less for 30 years Tetrachloride Apr 2022 #9
I enjoy how sweet people get after a few drinks. The people applegrove Apr 2022 #10
I always find it a hoot. onecaliberal Apr 2022 #11
Bravo !!! fierywoman Apr 2022 #12
Every time I'm driving and see a cop, I still think how nice it is that I didn't just have a few brewens Apr 2022 #13
you have RISEN....above the mob msongs Apr 2022 #14
You're a hero!!! Karadeniz Apr 2022 #15
Bif tiredtoo Apr 2022 #16
So happy for you. soldierant Apr 2022 #17
Hope you can keep it up. Iggo Apr 2022 #18
Me too, bif tavernier Apr 2022 #19
I'm going on 2 years and 3 months, myself. LudwigPastorius Apr 2022 #20
I am having "Clever Mojito" with 0 alcohol. The variety of non alcoholized applegrove Apr 2022 #21
Congratulations! Warpy Apr 2022 #22
I'm just here for the great cartoons Good egg Apr 2022 #23
congrats! momta Apr 2022 #24
Thanks all! bif Apr 2022 #25
Congratulations. I am proud for you. Chainfire Apr 2022 #26
I've been very fortunate. bif Apr 2022 #27
You will get to the point that you do not miss the buzz. It takes a while. Chainfire Apr 2022 #28
K and R Stuart G Apr 2022 #29

Skittles

(159,908 posts)
2. excellent
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 09:43 PM
Apr 2022

always be aware and plan for triggers.....and remember, bif, that it is a RULE that you also MUST POST HERE if you intend to drink, to give us a chance to talk to you first.....yes indeed

Tetrachloride

(8,478 posts)
9. I am also nondrinker. Just my choice more or less for 30 years
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 10:05 PM
Apr 2022

The first 10 was very light.

The next 10 were lighter.

The next 5 even lighter..

Zero for the last 10 months.

applegrove

(123,433 posts)
10. I enjoy how sweet people get after a few drinks. The people
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 10:06 PM
Apr 2022

I hang with are normally very kind but I enjoy it when they go to the nth degree with it. And I enjoy their laughter. And it makes me laugh too. I just expect that and it helps me enjoy while staying sober. Dream about it and then you'll feel actualized when it happens.

 

brewens

(15,359 posts)
13. Every time I'm driving and see a cop, I still think how nice it is that I didn't just have a few
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 10:13 PM
Apr 2022

beers to freak out over. It's been a lot of years now, but I do not miss that oh shit feeling at all!

Iggo

(48,366 posts)
18. Hope you can keep it up.
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:04 PM
Apr 2022

Last edited Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:42 PM - Edit history (1)

I had to choose between my sobriety and my friends. I chose wisely.

Still…

EDIT: Didn’t mean to sound like I think you’ll fail. I don’t. I was just moaning that I couldn’t do it without cutting everyone loose. Because, even after 25 years, I just can’t be sober around people who are drinking. (Oddly, I do just fine with pot heads…lol.)

tavernier

(13,270 posts)
19. Me too, bif
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:10 PM
Apr 2022

I’m really trying to get out of the cocktails-every-night ritual, and decided April would be dry. A few had a wine toast at family dinner, but oddly half decided to stick with soda or coffee. We all drove a fair distance so perhaps that was the reason, but none seemed to miss it.

LudwigPastorius

(10,945 posts)
20. I'm going on 2 years and 3 months, myself.
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:20 PM
Apr 2022

(for booze, that is. I've been done with everything else; pills, coke, cigarettes for many years now.)

Whenever I get the urge to drink, I just think of how much time I wasted being...well, wasted!

...and, how much time I may have left.

applegrove

(123,433 posts)
21. I am having "Clever Mojito" with 0 alcohol. The variety of non alcoholized
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:26 PM
Apr 2022

drinks are growing. It is really nice and I am not wanting any alcohol. You're doing great. I found going to AA really helped. I went for months not years. One bit of advice hit me there and I knew I would never drink again.

Warpy

(113,131 posts)
22. Congratulations!
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:34 PM
Apr 2022

The bane of my existence was always Cousin Asshole who just graduated from bartending school and took it as a personal affront that I didn't drink alcohol. I was lucky in that I didn't want the stuff, it was all pain and no party for me. Telling him that learning all the variations of the Shirley Temple was going to be necessary to his career didn't help, but it made me feel better.

Friends of mine who are also friends of Bill tell me that it gets easier over time. I know it's easier now that I'm old than it was when I was in my 20s. I can still admire people whose brains are screaming for that first drink and who override it because they just can't do that to themselves and their friends and families any more.

You did good. You didn't drink today and that's all anybody ever asks of you.

Good egg

(27 posts)
23. I'm just here for the great cartoons
Sun Apr 17, 2022, 11:43 PM
Apr 2022

Don't know why I'm in the Addiction group but I just wanted to say that two of Jesus's last words were "I thirst."
Mostly I'm here because the DU monitor algorithm demands that I post more frequently so that they will allow me to e-mail the fabulous cartoons to my friends. Congratulations and Carry on!

bif

(24,130 posts)
25. Thanks all!
Mon Apr 18, 2022, 06:59 AM
Apr 2022

It's nice to hear all the supportive comments here. Between the support I get from attending SMART meetings and visiting here, it makes it easier to stay clean. 3 1/2 years or so off booze and going strong!

 

Chainfire

(17,757 posts)
26. Congratulations. I am proud for you.
Mon Apr 18, 2022, 09:29 AM
Apr 2022

I have been sober for over 20 years after consuming several lifetimes of alcohol. I loved being drunk until after being sober for a while. I have been totally over it for a long, long time. I woke up with a hangover one day and decided that I was done with alcohol and cigarettes. I quit both cold turkey. I was probably one nasty bastard for a while. I continued my relationships with the people I drank with and it disturbed them to no end that I would no longer drink with them. "Oh, come on, Steve, one beer is not going to hurt you."

People will continue to try to push alcohol on you, but apparently you have figured out how to handle it. Good for you!

bif

(24,130 posts)
27. I've been very fortunate.
Mon Apr 18, 2022, 10:50 AM
Apr 2022

My family did an intervention, so they're totally supportive. My wife's family knows I don't drink, so there's no pressure there. And I don't really have any heavy drinking friends. Plus I never hung around bars. All that makes it easier to lay off the sauce.

I do miss the warm buzz you get from alcohol, but it's just not worth all the bullshit that goes along with it.

 

Chainfire

(17,757 posts)
28. You will get to the point that you do not miss the buzz. It takes a while.
Mon Apr 18, 2022, 11:26 AM
Apr 2022

It really sounds like you've got this!

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
29. K and R
Sun Apr 24, 2022, 02:41 PM
Apr 2022

Last edited Tue Apr 26, 2022, 08:37 PM - Edit history (1)

Congratulations on Great Work.!!! .........If it were easy, it would be easy....It ain't easy..

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