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Related: About this forum29 years sober today..
And grateful to be here.
My life is completely different from 29 years ago. The job was gone, the marriage was gone and the house was gone.
Today I have a long term relationship and a nice home, and I was able to retire from a long term job, with a pension. My health has held up okay so far, at age 77.
I'm very lucky. I'm aware every day that none of those things was guaranteed by my sobriety, but none would have been possible if I continued on the path I was on.
I started my sobriety in AA; I know that's not for everybody, but it made a world of difference to talk to others who were facing the same challenge.
For those coming up behind me in sobriety, let me just say that this was the most difficult challenge of my life, but it was a thousand times worth it.
Irish_Dem
(55,986 posts)Thank you for posting, you are sharing an important story.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I am one of many success stories, and every addict should know what's possible.
Irish_Dem
(55,986 posts)You are showing there is hope, it can be done.
And the work is worth what is gained.
Then what method you used to achieve your goals.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I live in a city big enough to have many groups to choose from, and was able to find just the right fit for me.
Irish_Dem
(55,986 posts)Significantly better.
(I will tell you a secret, this tends to rankle some in the clinical community.
But I don't really care how people get better, I just like people do well and live
happy lives.)
ChazInAz
(2,769 posts)I got sober in Tucson forty-two years ago. That city has hundreds of AA groups, with meetings around the clock every day. Wonderful place for us drunks!
Permanut
(6,606 posts)Some days I went to five meetings; it's been a long time since I did that, but at first when I was down and out, and unemployed...
Safe harbour.
Stuart G
(38,726 posts)I came in to OA at 210 pounds..Today I am about 150.
I have kept 60 pounds off for over 40 years. ....
I rarely weigh myself any more,...(except at the doctors office. I threw away the scale about 35 years ago.
FalloutShelter
(12,712 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)FalloutShelter
(12,712 posts)Bayard
(24,145 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)sinkingfeeling
(52,962 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)A lot of days, one day at a time.
sprinkleeninow
(20,540 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,540 posts)ProudMNDemocrat
(19,014 posts)Continue on this journey with open eyes and mind.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)Thanks ProudMNDemocrat; My alcohol sensitivity is permanent.
SWBTATTReg
(24,011 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)I want everyone who is struggling to see what can happen.
NNadir
(34,533 posts)I will be talking to my nephew soon about his addiction. I know it can be done.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)If he falls, he can get right back up. I'm rootin for both of you; him for recovery, and you to find just the right words.
NNadir
(34,533 posts)I've been doing research.
It's not alcohol though; it's something advertised as not being addictive but nonetheless is in the presence of certain genetic states.
I've had two very good friends, alcoholics, who relapsed; both made it in the end.
I know two others who died; one a step brother. If there's any consolation in that horror, no one else died in the crash that killed him; no one else was involved.
I'm fully aware of just how difficult it is and you are justifiably proud of your success.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)It's good to remember those we have lost.
niyad
(119,487 posts)to come.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I'm truly grateful for what I have.
rzemanfl
(30,272 posts)more than half of my life.... Congratulations on your anniversary.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I'm coming right up behind you!
This news makes me happy for you and I wish you many more years of success.
llashram
(6,269 posts)one day at a time
Permanut
(6,606 posts)fierywoman
(8,092 posts)I'm sober 9 months. From the way I'm reacting to this (no cravings, really) I don't think I was alcoholic. I gave up sugar at the same time and I still have to white-knuckle those cravings. What I love about no alcohol is how, at my age (72) my thinking is becoming clearer and clearer! But, today is for you, so again, BRAVO !!!
sprinkleeninow
(20,540 posts)I can't tolerate sugar free anything.
I do drink mineral water and natural flavored spritzers.
But can't wean myself offa cola.
Good going! 🩷
fierywoman
(8,092 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,540 posts)Yes to San Pellegrino.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)You also have a great quit going!
Chicagogrl1
(467 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)Others inspired me, like Big John the longshoreman ("This thing will kill ya if ya don't get serious about it" , so I'm glad to have a chance to pass it on.
Goddessartist
(2,067 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)The thing that is missing for so many is hope. Hope that a better future is possible. I want everybody to have that hope, and to see it in us.
Goddessartist
(2,067 posts)soldierant
(7,812 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)calimary
(84,117 posts)Congratulations, Permanut!
Thats a COLOSSAL accomplishment!!!
Permanut
(6,606 posts)Colossal is the right word. Thanks!
I could not have done it without help.
iluvtennis
(20,780 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)There's no way to minimize the effort, but boy was it worth it.
johnnyplankton
(446 posts)AA saved my life.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)My sister got me a special AA coin for twenty; she's gone now, but I still carry it every day. So..congratulations comin back atcha!
Daylily
(51 posts)Congratulations to you also. Im in awe of your accomplishment. We have a wonderful friend who has 30 years sober, so we know what youve done.
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cate94
(2,880 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)Daylily
(51 posts)And what an amazing achievement! You should be very proud. I know that it wasnt easy. Congratulations and many more years of happiness to you.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I'm proud, and humbled by your response and others here. Thank you!
Warpy
(113,130 posts)That first step has to be like jumping off a cliff. Having people around you who did it and lived through it is essential.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)For whatever reason, just being able to talk to people in AA who were escaping from that dark road we were on was a lifesaver.
3catwoman3
(25,377 posts)What an accomplishment.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)WmChris
(216 posts)We keep trudging the road to happy destiny one day at a time.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)I'm grateful every day to be on that road.
BlueIdaho
(13,582 posts)At least thats what the folks around my local coffee pot say. 😉
Seriously - Im sure the lessons you have learned have given you a joyful life worth living.
9/15/88.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)"Good start!". She was ten years ahead of me, and we both would have enjoyed visiting your coffee pot.
I do have a joyful life worth living; sobriety didn't give that to me but it gave me a chance, and I'm grateful every day for that chance.
BlueIdaho
(13,582 posts)Drunk I had no choices, sober I do - and responsibility. Obviously youre making great choices and reaping the rewards.
Well done!
twodogsbarking
(12,228 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)I see posts almost every day here from incredible DU posters in recovery. Congrats to all, and my heart goes out to those still struggling
BrownsFan4Ever
(1 post)25 years sober on 8/21. Through the Grace of God as I understand Him to be and the fellowship of A.A. Persons like you kept the doors open until I stumbled in. Thank you!
Permanut
(6,606 posts)And congratulations right back atcha.
And thanks to those who kept the doors open for me through the first three tries at sobriety
MLAA
(18,570 posts)Congratulations! And hurray for those who went before you and helped you and those who will follow you and you will support. 💕💗💕
Permanut
(6,606 posts)Thanks, MLAA; I'm not even going to think about where I'd be without those incredible pioneers in recovery.
irisblue
(34,155 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)Tikki
(14,794 posts)It feels really good, for sure..
19 years here.
Tikki
Permanut
(6,606 posts)19 years for you, and closing in on 20, one day at a time. Nice quit ya got going.
My sister, who was 10 years ahead of me in AA, presented me with a special coin to commemorate my 20 years.
She lived a long and happy life. She's gone now but I still carry that coin.
Bristlecone
(10,474 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)Rhiannon12866
(221,051 posts)I've been there, too, found AA in November 2008, my sobriety date is April 30th 2009. And I credit my wonderful sponsor for sticking with me and telling me what to do - as well as those who came before me. And now it's a community that I'm proud to be a member of and I not only keep coming back, but I reach out to others who are where I was. It works!
Permanut
(6,606 posts)And a shiny brand new 29 year coin - way cool!
Rhiannon12866
(221,051 posts)And that's been my favorite AA "service," I've been the coin orderer for three different groups!
Diamond_Dog
(34,481 posts)Permanut
(6,606 posts)Diamond_Dog
(34,481 posts)Die hard Guardians fan here. ⚾️⚾️⚾️
cate94
(2,880 posts)Im all of 69 days sober. Given my age, Im fairly sure Ill never make it to 29 years sober. OTOH, everyday is a milestone for me right now. I take that back, I am currently on a cruise, every moment is both a miracle and a milestone right now.
Permanut
(6,606 posts)let me just say that 69 days is a monumental achievement.
You have a great quit going. It took me four tries to get to 29 years; NEVER give up on your commitment to sobriety.
Congratulations!
Stuart G
(38,726 posts)Thank You for posting this!!!