It was my wife who started to point out yea I’m an alcoholic I was grateful for her to do this it was out of love.

do NOT approach this from the "look how much money you've wasted!" vein.
Something more like, "Honey, love you to bits .. and I've gotten just slightly concerned .. " "Any chance that maybe you're not feeling a little concerned about this too?" "Think we should talk?"

Loved ones addictions are heartbreaking

I found the link for GA - and I realize that you can't just come out and suggest this for your wife, but this link may answer some of your questions. Please let us know how it goes - and hang in there!

Gamblers Anonymous
https://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/locations

And I used to go to OA meetings with my sponsor, great group! She was regular OA and when I drank, I didn't eat.

To me it's like playing cards over the phone. You have a pair of nines and I tell you I have a royal flush. You lose and you owe me $100.

Hope things are going better

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Firstly, I'm sorry this is happening.

I'm in recovery myself from Drugs & Alcohol. AA was great for me.

I used to work with a woman (quite a bit younger than I at the time- probably late 30's) and she said she had gambling issues.
Unfortunately, she said she went to a GA meeting and people were talking about the things they did to get money (not illegally) to support their gambling habits. She said it ended up just giving her ideas.

Hers wasn't online gambling. She went to casinos so maybe that's completely different. Thank God I find gambling so boring (with my addictive personality - I'm lucky).

I hope your wife can get some help.