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Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 11:33 AM Dec 2011

Please keep a friend of mine in your thoughts tomorrow

He is having surgery because of lung cancer tomorrow. My friend quit smoking eight years ago and is so depressed. He has made it through chemo. I am telling him the surgery is another battle he will win.

When I was going through treatment for breast cancer I thought then and still do that the people praying or sending positive vibes my way helped. My cancer didn't show up on mammograms and when I felt a tiny lump I went to the doctor. It turned out my right breast was all tumor.

We go through treatment together. My candles are lit every night for people fighting cancer and those who are no longer with us. It can't hurt and it may help.

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Please keep a friend of mine in your thoughts tomorrow (Original Post) Irishonly Dec 2011 OP
keeping you and him in my thoughts maddezmom Dec 2011 #1
Thank you Irishonly Dec 2011 #4
Best wishes to him...and you. Uben Dec 2011 #2
I will light a candle for her Irishonly Dec 2011 #3
No, they didn't say...... Uben Dec 2011 #5
I am so sorry Irishonly Dec 2011 #6
Thank you Uben Dec 2011 #7
caught early his chances of recovery are EXCELLENT Skittles Dec 2011 #15
Your wife and your friend are in our thoughts jumptheshadow Dec 2011 #8
A candle will be lit for your partner Irishonly Dec 2011 #11
Thank you so much jumptheshadow Dec 2011 #13
will be keeping you both in my thoughts maddezmom Dec 2011 #10
I am sending my best thoughts to both of you.... Walk away Dec 2011 #9
Great news Irishonly Dec 2011 #17
thinking good thoughts for your friend Skittles Dec 2011 #12
Hoping the surgery went well and he is recovering. geckosfeet Dec 2011 #14
He is recovering. Irishonly Dec 2011 #16
My friend went back to work on Tuesday Jan 3 Irishonly Jan 2012 #18
Woot!!! (nt) jumptheshadow Jan 2012 #19
Hope the surgery went well Hepburn Jan 2012 #20

Uben

(7,719 posts)
2. Best wishes to him...and you.
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 11:38 AM
Dec 2011

My wife had breast cancer 8 yrs ago. Right now, we are awaiting CT scan and bonescan results. Sonogram yesterday showed lesions on her liver. She's pretty ill right now. Fingers crossed.

Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
3. I will light a candle for her
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 11:44 AM
Dec 2011

I am hoping everything will be ok. Please keep us posted. I often wonder if we spent as much on cancer research and finding a cure as we do on wars if cancer would become a distant, albeit bad, memory. Did they tell you when they would have the results?

Uben

(7,719 posts)
5. No, they didn't say......
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 12:22 PM
Dec 2011

....we do the bone scan in the morning (they had to order the dyes). I don't remember how long it takes to get results from either test. I know they can identify hot spots on a bone scan almost immediately, in most cases. Whether or not they will tell you is anyone's guess.

My step-dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer last week, but it was caught early and he has already began radiation. Prognosis is very good for him.

We have been paying $25,000/yr in insurance premiums just in case something like this happened. We considered cancelling and waiting six months to get on the federal high-risk ins. program to lower the costs of healthcare. But, had we done that, look where we would have been.

Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
6. I am so sorry
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 12:51 PM
Dec 2011

I am thankful you have insurance. I am glad to hear about your step-dad. Radiation, as you know, can zap you but it is better than the alternative. I will be thinking of you and your wife in the morning and pray the news will be good.

jumptheshadow

(3,311 posts)
8. Your wife and your friend are in our thoughts
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 04:14 PM
Dec 2011

My partner was diagnosed with breast cancer and bone mets three weeks ago. She has always been so healthy ... it came out of the clear blue sky. We're adjusting to the new world we've entered. Please let your wife and your friend know that we send our best to them and their families.

Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
11. A candle will be lit for your partner
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 10:18 PM
Dec 2011

I have been doing it for years. Please let her know she is also being thought of and we will do what we can to help both of you.

jumptheshadow

(3,311 posts)
13. Thank you so much
Mon Dec 12, 2011, 06:40 AM
Dec 2011

We, in turn, will add both individuals to our intentions to the candle we are burning.

Walk away

(9,494 posts)
9. I am sending my best thoughts to both of you....
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 06:57 PM
Dec 2011

I just saw my neighbor doing his yard cleanup. He was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer over seven years ago. He had the surgery and treatments and today?...well he had 12 bags of leaves at the curb and was playing with his dog.

I'm the anecdotal breast cancer survivor. It sucks but keep looking past each level of treatment to the finish. When it's over you can celebrate!

Skittles

(159,372 posts)
12. thinking good thoughts for your friend
Mon Dec 12, 2011, 04:36 AM
Dec 2011

tell him it is still wonderful he quit smoking and it will greatly aid him in his recovery

Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
16. He is recovering.
Tue Dec 13, 2011, 10:43 AM
Dec 2011

I will talk to him later today again and will see him tomorrow.

Thank all of you for your concern. My friend's wife thanks all of you also. People, although not in here, sometimes forget the care takers suffer just as much in their own way as the patient. My friend was very groggy.

Irishonly

(3,344 posts)
18. My friend went back to work on Tuesday Jan 3
Mon Jan 9, 2012, 10:52 AM
Jan 2012

He came through surgery just fine and is through his treatment.

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