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Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 02:25 AM Apr 2016

No longer waiting . . . (edited)

Last edited Mon Apr 18, 2016, 08:27 AM - Edit history (1)

I am likely about to join this little club. I had a core biopsy on Thursday for 1.3 cm (ultrasound measurement) - 2 cm (palpation guestimate) solid tumor. Funny how everyone's demeanor changes once they look at the films, and their experience tells them it is not good news. Even though they can't formally say anything yet.

Not unexpected, but I'm a bit younger than everyone who came before me (mother x 2, grandmother, great-grandmother).

The results should be back early next week.

This is not really a convenient time for me to be at the beck and call of doctors - I'd really appreciate it if cancer could reschedule and come back in a couple of decades. I'd even settle for a month.

Edited 4/18:

I got a phone call from my doctor, bright and early this morning. Cancer (of the carcinoma variety). No more information yet - still more pathology to come with information about whether it is lobular or ductal, and whether its receptors are positive or negative.

So - I guess I am still doing some waiting, but I have confirmation that it is cancer.

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No longer waiting . . . (edited) (Original Post) Ms. Toad Apr 2016 OP
I am so very sorry to hear this, not knowing is incredibly tough and you imagine the worst. Rhiannon12866 Apr 2016 #1
Thanks. Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #7
I'm so sorry, Ms. Toad. In_The_Wind Apr 2016 #2
Thank you! Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #8
I felt relief at the diagnosis. Not knowing is the killer. alfredo Apr 2016 #3
I cope much better with the known than the unknown. Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #9
I avoided self diagnosis on this one. alfredo Apr 2016 #11
Yeah, inconvenient doesn't quite cover it! PennyK Apr 2016 #4
Definitely annoying - Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #6
Best wishes that it turns out better than you're fearing, Ms. Toad. polly7 Apr 2016 #5
Thank you! Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #10
Sorry to hear that. Solly Mack Apr 2016 #12
Thinking of you and hoping for the best. cate94 Apr 2016 #13
So sorry PennyK Apr 2016 #14
Breast cancer. Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #16
So sorry, Ms. Toad BuelahWitch Apr 2016 #15
Yup. Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #17
That damned wait! Uben Apr 2016 #18
I'm so sorry! Solly Mack Apr 2016 #19
I've had that conversation with two doctors now - Ms. Toad Apr 2016 #20

Rhiannon12866

(221,049 posts)
1. I am so very sorry to hear this, not knowing is incredibly tough and you imagine the worst.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 03:04 AM
Apr 2016

But it's early days yet. Please let us know how you're doing. And you're still very much missed on MIRT.

Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
7. Thanks.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 08:01 AM
Apr 2016

My normal M.O. is to research things to death so that nothing surprises me - my forever coping mechanism for both the waiting period and early disease management. I'm finding that I don't have enough information to do that yet - so that part of not knowing is frustrating. I thought the doctor said that sarcoma was the most likely - but my research tells me that (generically) that's least likely. Since we collect medical unicorns in our family I may well have collected another (or at least a zebra), or I may have heard her incorrectly.

alfredo

(60,132 posts)
3. I felt relief at the diagnosis. Not knowing is the killer.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 06:23 AM
Apr 2016

Be a happy warrior, even when puking out your guts. Chemo barf is better than a booze/ greasy food barf. Chemo and radiation is an effective weight loss program.

Whatever comes down, deal with it.

Let's hope you hear the word benign.



Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
9. I cope much better with the known than the unknown.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 08:03 AM
Apr 2016

I don't much care how I get to "known" - most things I know (from personal research) before I hear the actual diagnosis from the doctor. This one is frustrating because I know too little to get close to a reliable self-diagnosis. So that makes the waiting more challenging.

Benign would be a pleasant surprise!

PennyK

(2,311 posts)
4. Yeah, inconvenient doesn't quite cover it!
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 07:46 AM
Apr 2016

To me, the most annoying thing is that our own bodies turn on us!
Here's hoping you'll get a happy surprise. And as time goes on, treatments improve in their abilities to target the "sleeper cells" lurking within. With the drugs I have for helping with side effects I haven't really been nauseous once...okay, plenty of other fun surprises, but nausea was my worst fear.

Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
6. Definitely annoying -
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 07:56 AM
Apr 2016

and particularly so, since I've just spent the last 7 months getting my health in order following a fall diagnosis with the other two family diseases. (Down 54 lbs & within striking distance of diabetic remission. And this is how it repays me!)

polly7

(20,582 posts)
5. Best wishes that it turns out better than you're fearing, Ms. Toad.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 07:50 AM
Apr 2016

Not knowing is horrible. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Solly Mack

(92,459 posts)
12. Sorry to hear that.
Sat Apr 16, 2016, 09:14 AM
Apr 2016

Keep us posted. We've got ears and shoulders here, as well as a sense of humor.

Oh, and we all know how cancer likes to crash life's party.

PennyK

(2,311 posts)
14. So sorry
Mon Apr 18, 2016, 03:43 PM
Apr 2016

Get ready for a bunch more tests. I don't think you said where it is.
I'll hope for the best possible outcome for you, and that you'll come out of this just fine! (I plan that for myself)

Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
16. Breast cancer.
Mon Apr 18, 2016, 06:17 PM
Apr 2016

I have tests scheduled Thursday and Friday, and a second opinion on Wednesday, and a second meeting with the surgeon next Monday.

Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
17. Yup.
Mon Apr 18, 2016, 06:19 PM
Apr 2016

Not as early as I should have, due to a crazy life and a doctor who pawned me off on someone else since he couldn't find my cervix . . . but that's another story. It's been a bit longer than it should have been since my last mammogram - and this one was triggered because I found the lump.

Based on size, it is stage I. It might slide into stage II, if there are traces of it in my lymph nodes.

Uben

(7,719 posts)
18. That damned wait!
Mon Apr 18, 2016, 08:04 PM
Apr 2016

Sorry you're having to deal with this. This is a good place to chat about it and there are some REALLY good people here.

Solly Mack

(92,459 posts)
19. I'm so sorry!
Wed Apr 20, 2016, 08:13 PM
Apr 2016

Please keep us posted.

I am not good at waiting. Even after the diagnosis, I wanted my treatment to start right away. Then I wanted the treatment over and the cancer gone.

Ms. Toad

(35,435 posts)
20. I've had that conversation with two doctors now -
Thu Apr 21, 2016, 12:15 AM
Apr 2016

I'm inclined to wait ~4 weeks. They are used to people who want it cut out yesterday! I've had 3 relatives with 4 breast cancers. Two of them died from something else and the third is still living 18 years after the 1st tumor, and 5 after the second (unrelated) tumor. That gives me a little different perspective.

The one today acknowledged that it had likely been there between 2 & 8 years (likely closer to 8). Another month to research, wait for genetic screening, and a slightly more convenient time to be out of commission for a couple of weeks, is not going to make any difference in the long run.

We'll see. I have another appointment Monday and we'll start planning.

In the mean time, another bit of good news: ER+, PR+, and HER2- (the best combination possible).

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