My radiation oncologist went over every conceivable possibility at the start of my treatment, and as treatment progressed, he reminded me. I was sometimes terrified, but informed.

I don't think your doctor withheld anything from you, but the scan could have missed a tiny new growth and that growth could have grown at a fast rate. My doc talked about that possibility with me.

Also, does he get weekly blood work done? Because abnormalities can show up there first.

Again, I am so sorry!

Do you have help wit your schedules and day to day things that need doing?
Are you able to grab good sleep, if only a few hours nap?
I know that Mr. Dixie was wearing himself out just by worrying about me.

I did not know it could come back that fast, but I am just at the beginning of learning this road we are on.

Is he a veteran?

Liver, lungs, brain...that's all over. I'm hoping there will be more testing so that they can figure out what's happening. I know it's impossibly hard, but wait and hear what the oncologist says, and what's definite and what's conjecture.
Please let us know what happens tomorrow.

that this news comes at the holidays, but try to be positive.

The oncologist confirmed that John's cancer came back and is in the liver, lungs, brain and probably bones. He offered 'savage chemo' or hospice care. I can't really take it in. He had a ct scan on 12/16 and there was no mention in the report of any new activity.

John's blood calcium is high and they are working on bringing that down and getting rid of a UTI problem. I thought last night that John's crashing over the weekend and going to e.r might be a godsend, that the return was caught earlier than it might have been, because there weren't any tests scheduled except bood work next week. The talk with his onc. knocked that idea out. They can do radiation on the brain mass, rather than surgery.

We didn't do anything different, and yet, it looks like we are near an end. 46 years together, a close-knit family, a whole pair of lives twined together.

Yes, Alfredo, he is a veteran.

Thanks for your replies. I came to this support because I was among Democratic friends. I probably won't post again. I'm sure there are things I will need to tend to, whether I want to or not.

I am so sorry.

Marthe;

I'm truly sorry that you all are going through this! What a terrible shock.

I can only offer my best wishes for John's comfort and well being. Please don't ignore your own needs. If you want ( and I know you do )

to be there for him, then you must look after yourself. It's so important.

You are important!

Please know that so many people care.

aA
kesha

I can only offer hugs. I wish the news had been better.

Our daughter told us over this last weekend, that John's calcium was 16.5 on Monday, and he should have been admitted that night, instead of Wed. So that didn't help.

His calcium is down in normal limits. He was discharged from the hospital yesterday into hospice care. We have been working on the details, and it seems like constant calls and visits. I won't complain, the coverage is extensive and won't end when John is feeling better.

There is also a tumor in his brain. He has an appt. Tuesday to see about radiation therapy. No chemo right now, no new feeding tube. I'll let you know what the dr. says Tuesday.

I truly appreciate your comments and support. I haven't been online much because it takes a lot to make sure I do everything I am supposed to for John, and I want to spend all my time with him. And he wants me to be nearby.