Cancer Support
Related: About this forumMy mother passed, we think, from cancer.
A former long-time smoker, she was already in poor health when her lung cancer was diagnosed a few months ago. I never found out just what kind she had (I live 1,000 miles away), but immunotherapy was prescribed. She got one dose of Keytruda and went downhill so fast it was astounding.
My sister and brother were there to help almost full-time, and it was suggested to me to visit at the end of June. How I wish I had gone sooner! I got one smile and that was it. She was almost ready for hospice at that point and they kept her at home as long as they could. There came a day when it was time to let the pros take over, and she didn't last two days in the facility.
It was not pretty to see someone who was such a huge part of your life deteriorate as she did...but all I could see when I looked at her was my Mom still young and beautiful as she was when I was a kid.
I lucked out with" only" breast cancer...thus far.
SHRED
(28,136 posts)MaryMagdaline
(7,879 posts)mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)dixiegrrrrl
(60,011 posts)My Mom died same way, same cause, 30 years ago.
sheshe2
(87,464 posts)DarthDem
(5,361 posts)Sorry to hear this news. All my best to you and your family.
mopinko
(71,798 posts)but he had been in poor health, w a collapsed vertebra for years that left him taking lots of pain meds. fell one day, and hurt his arm. took him for an xray and 3 days later he passed.
that was a long time ago, and there wasnt much they could have done had they caught it. but it was still so quick.
it really does make a difference to be able to say goodbye. i'm glad you got that chance.
irisblue
(34,252 posts)I grieve with you for her
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Karadeniz
(23,415 posts)cancer is a witch, for sure.
KT2000
(20,832 posts)it is hard when we lose our mothers and there is so much to remember. Peace to you.
PennyK
(2,312 posts)She had a very large personality and she has been a part of so many things I do...she taught me so much. I was a rebel-without-a-cause teenager, and we fought a lot, but once I hit, oh, 50 or so, things between us became easier. I visited a few months ago and spent a lot of time with her; at that point we were planning to move her close to me in Florida.
I forgot to mention that she was 91.
Her father died of lung cancer at 57, and she used to think she would go at the same time, for the same reason.