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thinkingagain

(1,015 posts) Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:27 PM Sep 2020

A month ago my son was diagnosed with cancer

He found it early stage 1, the doctors seem to be right on top of it. At least I think so.

He’s young 31 but he had a stroke two years ago so possibly that might complicate things.
Such as when they set up chemo for him some signs he was told to Watch for
He Said he already has from the stroke.

He finished one week of chemo so far has a couple more treatments then it’s just watch and check.

Of course Covid complicates things also. So when your normally isolated to some Degree with chemo it’s much more so with Covid.

I worry for him I can’t be around him because of needing to be isolated we went with his younger sister being his care since she lives in his house. I understand that but as mom I want to help him.

I think things Will be fine but the
Worry is there what if it comes back etc.

Sorry I’m rambling between his cancer, fires burning all around and still feeling stuff from a Fall that resulted in broken ribs and a sore back from a few weeks back going back to work after being out for so long from Covid shut down.
I think I’m stressed and needed to vent a little.

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A month ago my son was diagnosed with cancer (Original Post) thinkingagain Sep 2020 OP

. Laelth Sep 2020 #1

I am sorry you have so much on your plate Ohiogal Sep 2020 #2

Yes thank you I can do those things thinkingagain Sep 2020 #5

I just now remembered Ohiogal Sep 2020 #10

Thank you thinkingagain Sep 2020 #12

Good idea...humor is healing. Karadeniz Sep 2020 #13

((thinking)) blm Sep 2020 #3

I hope you won't find this inappropriate. I have found that the Serenity Prayer relied upon Atticus Sep 2020 #4

Not inappropriate to me at all thinkingagain Sep 2020 #8

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with all this. Sending positive thoughts to both you and your son. skylucy Sep 2020 #6

I feel for you Skittles Sep 2020 #7

The very best for your son and for you,.. magicarpet Sep 2020 #9

We'll all find our way through this. marble falls Sep 2020 #11

I think your son is ahead of the curve by having such an early diagnosis. Also, there are always Karadeniz Sep 2020 #14

Laelth

(32,017 posts)

1. .

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:29 PM

Sep 2020

-Laelth

Ohiogal

(34,640 posts)

2. I am sorry you have so much on your plate

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:37 PM

Sep 2020

Life just sucks right now for so many of us.

I’m sure your son understands that you love him but can’t be with him right now. Can you talk to him by phone or computer just to check in and see how he’s doing? It’s not as good as a hug but it’s better than nothing. He is fortunate to have a care giver living with him to see to his needs. Can you send him little things like new pjs or his favorite coffee or things like that?

Here’s hoping things improve for all of you very soon.

thinkingagain

(1,015 posts)

5. Yes thank you I can do those things

Reply to Ohiogal (Reply #2)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:49 PM

Sep 2020

And soon can see him I think. With masks etc.
it’s just that it seems like my family ( includes brothers and sisters etc)
Go thro some major trauma every year that sometimes when multiple things are happing I get a bit over whelmed.

That’s part of the reason I like the DU
Somebody always has some good advice or kind thoughts.

Ohiogal

(34,640 posts)

10. I just now remembered

Reply to thinkingagain (Reply #5)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 07:02 PM

Sep 2020

When I was in the throes of chemo and very depressed, my sister-in-law sent me a little album like the kind you put photos in....she had clipped from magazines and newspapers, funny cartoons, jokes, funny pictures, things that made me laugh, and put them all in there. I can’t tell you what a day brightener that was! I still have it.

Hope you recover soon from your injuries as well!

thinkingagain

(1,015 posts)

12. Thank you

Reply to Ohiogal (Reply #10)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 10:12 PM

Sep 2020

And that is a sweet idea. When he was young one thing that would make him laugh was Garfield. I might have to get a book or something.
My daughter said he’ he mostly has been sleeping this weekend so apparently chemo wipes you out.

Sorry you had to go through chemo also.

Karadeniz

(23,423 posts)

13. Good idea...humor is healing.

Reply to Ohiogal (Reply #10)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 10:32 PM

Sep 2020

blm

(113,820 posts)

3. ((thinking))

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:41 PM

Sep 2020

Atticus

(15,124 posts)

4. I hope you won't find this inappropriate. I have found that the Serenity Prayer relied upon

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:43 PM

Sep 2020

by many alcoholics and addicts---even if you don't pray--- separates things into manageable categories.

With it, you ask for "serenity to accept the things you cannot change; courage to change the things you can; and, wisdom to know the difference."

Hang on.

thinkingagain

(1,015 posts)

8. Not inappropriate to me at all

Reply to Atticus (Reply #4)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:51 PM

Sep 2020

I try to remember things like that but I’m a worrier and some days you just gotta
Vent to more than your own family who is also caring the same burdens
So thank you.

skylucy

(3,854 posts)

6. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with all this. Sending positive thoughts to both you and your son.

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:50 PM

Sep 2020

I'm glad they found your son's cancer at an early stage. Hugs.

Skittles

(159,372 posts)

7. I feel for you

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:50 PM

Sep 2020

as if Trump and the pandemic aren't enough

someone is ALWAYS on DU thinkinagain, we are here for you

magicarpet

(16,514 posts)

9. The very best for your son and for you,..

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 06:59 PM

Sep 2020

DU is here for the purpose of venting, don't apologize for externalizing your concerns, it is very healthy to do so.

marble falls

(62,063 posts)

11. We'll all find our way through this.

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 07:17 PM

Sep 2020

Karadeniz

(23,423 posts)

14. I think your son is ahead of the curve by having such an early diagnosis. Also, there are always

Reply to thinkingagain (Original post)

Mon Sep 7, 2020, 10:43 PM

Sep 2020

Improvements being discovered. Even if the cancer comes back....my husband's original chemo was months of IV drip and that knocked the cancer down for about 15 years. Then it started to make trouble again. But now a more effective treatment has been developed and it's a daily pill with next to no side effects. Perfect! Don't lose hope!❤

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