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bmichaelh

(599 posts)
Thu May 26, 2022, 01:33 PM May 2022

Cancer and Transfer Request

Hello:

I am currently undergoing cancer treatment.

I just requested at my health provider a new oncologist.

Could no longer trust anything my oncologist said.

On multiple occasions, he would tell me one thing and the nurses in the treatment room would tell me something completely different.
He is at fault and not the nurses.
Nurses there do not do anything without an order.
Plus, his bedside manner basically sucked.

I had been thinking for months, if not years, about the transfer.
The only reason I stayed with him as long as I did, was that his nurse practitioner was great.
However, she recently got a promotion.

It is bad to have a meeting with your doctor and feel good about your treatment.
Then, when it actually happened, to be deflated and demoralized.


Thank you,
Michael

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LoisB

(8,639 posts)
1. By all means, get a new doctor. I hope your treatment goes well and you are restored to good
Thu May 26, 2022, 01:38 PM
May 2022

health. Cancer is such an ugly word.

Tetrachloride

(8,447 posts)
2. I advise you to consult a lawyer and have the lawyer get copies of all records.
Thu May 26, 2022, 01:54 PM
May 2022

I advise you to not do this yourself.

About half of the time that i did this the staff looked at me funny and asked questions which are none of their official business.


Good luck

3Hotdogs

(13,394 posts)
3. Bedside manner is one thing. When we were expecting, her nurse friends said the choices were Dr.X
Thu May 26, 2022, 02:28 PM
May 2022

or Dr. Y.

Y has the best bedside manner and is generally competent. X has the personality of a porcupine but is exceptionally competent. We went with X.


Present day, basically useless cardiologist. I was going to transfer out, then he got a nurse practitioner who listens. I will stay until she leaves.



bmichaelh

(599 posts)
4. Clarification of Bad Bedside Manner
Thu May 26, 2022, 04:25 PM
May 2022

I was first diagnosed with lymphoma since the early 1990s.

First treatment, I received a remission of 13 years.
Second treatment, I received a remission of 15 years.

This last time around since the last 2 years, have not achieved 100% success.
I tried about 3 separate treatments, not counting radiation.
During one of the sessions to decide treatment, he gave me option A and option B.
I went with option A because of the logistics to do option B.
Option A did not achieve 100%.
His response was 'I told you to do option B'
At the time, I diffused the situation by saying 'Placing blames solves nothing right now'

Later, he gave me a different option A and option B.
At the time, my walking had destabilized that I had to use a walker.
I asked him to begin the authorization process of both options.
It appears that they only got authorization process for one.
I called my insurer and they told me they never received any authorization request for option B.
In a way, I was felt, being pushed into doing option A, which was still a failure.
I was still unable to walk with option A.
Months later, they finally got authorization for option B.
Now, i can walk again but am still not 100%.

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