And I'm 70 years old.

There have been plenty of opportunities, but nobody has seized it.

Not sure what I would say if I were asked.

They like to have some social history to see whether or not you've got a support system or if you're the support system for everybody else. It's important.

While the church question might identify you as someone who can't get a blood transfusion, it seems largely unimportant. The hospital checks that stuff when you go in for surgery or after an accident.

I will never let them "in" and I am always on high alert/full shields deployed, so to speak, when dealing with them.

read your mind?

My aged mother used to do this with doctors, before she died. She would be at death's door, yet take her to a doctor and she would behave as if she was at some sort of social event, would never tell them what was actually wrong, was just a charming intelligent person supposedly having a conversation. I used to wonder what the doctors thought she was doing there.

And patronizing friendship with me.

I do not want hugs. I do not want pats on the back. I do not even want to shake hands.

That's not busybody, that's medical history.

About the church, I feel completely different. That may be an awkward way of finding out what kind of human/social context you live in, which is known to be an important part of health. But there must be some better way of asking that than asking where you go to church, and it certainly shouldn't be asked on the first visit.

question about your church affiliation
is because certain religions are against
certain medical interventions. It probably has a lot to do with wanting to do what's best for the patient, family and potential law suits too.
Best thing is to just ask the Dr why.

Enough,that's exactly how my mom is too.
She puts on a front for the Dr making it look like she's fine.

If you have objections to any medical procedures.

Asking about your religion and making assumptions based on that is not good. If there is a condition that requires a transfusion or a support system they can ask the specific questions needed.

ie- i have autoimmune thyroiditis. common in women like me who had multiple kids. little nodules, makes my thyroid puffy, but still works ok.

church, yeah, i have never been asked that question that i recall.

Is it a regional thing, (bible belt).



(edit for sp)

But most of them do ask about children (since I'm a woman, I assume). They never ask my husband about having children because (again I assume) that is not medically relevant. The fact that I carried children and what sort of things happened during those pregnancies is medically relevant (for example, finding out that I had 3 9+ lb singleton children and 8+ lb each twins means that I'm a high risk Diabetes - which I already have, but it's a good example)

They must be treating you out of the goodness of their hearts. I'm surprised your doctor hasn't "fired" you.

I am polite and appreciative.

This thread was me venting about a female neuro I had one appointment with who has since, tellingly, left the practice of medicine altogether.

Looks from her reviews, most patients had the same complaints about her I did.

My experience with her just bugged me, and I guess I just wanted to vent about it.

He acknowledges that i have as much education as he does and that i'm a pretty smart cookie.

Talks in very technical terms and assumes i know what it means. So does the woman i have for a rheumatologist.

Both regularly ask me about my golf game, because they know i play seriously. But, there is a medical implication there too. If i'm still able to play to the level i do, i'm obviously doing ok with the MS and the RA.
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