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XanaDUer2

(14,441 posts)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 04:58 PM Apr 2021

I've gotta stop being afraid

fear stalks me. I'm worried I'll give myself a heart attack. I'm going to ask for FMLA at the start of June. I'm scared to ask, though I've done so before. Fear, fear, fear.

I hope everyone is doing okay!

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I've gotta stop being afraid (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 OP
Therapy can be helpful. StrictlyRockers Apr 2021 #1
I'm glad to hear that good luck XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #2
I've spent a fair amount of time where you are... TygrBright Apr 2021 #3
thanks, Bright XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #4
Try Yale's free Science of Well Being Course? SheltieLover Apr 2021 #5
Hi, Sheltie! XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #6
Yw! SheltieLover Apr 2021 #8
Hi, Sheltie! XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #7
Ty SheltieLover Apr 2021 #9
Ha XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #10
Joke is that SheltieLover Apr 2021 #13
No I should try nt XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #20
It's a great practice to jumpstart & maintain positivity,! SheltieLover Apr 2021 #24
Thanks for that link. Baked Potato Apr 2021 #16
Yw! SheltieLover Apr 2021 #17
I suggest reading Many Lives, Many Masters. Highly reputable psychiatrist author. His patient Karadeniz Apr 2021 #11
I know i love DUers nt XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #22
Take care of yourself!!! Karadeniz Apr 2021 #23
welcome to my world. MFM008 Apr 2021 #12
Please see #5 above. SheltieLover Apr 2021 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author SheltieLover Apr 2021 #15
I (personally) believe that meds are prescribed too often hamsterjill Apr 2021 #19
thanks! XanaDUer2 Apr 2021 #21
Fear is hard. hamsterjill Apr 2021 #18

XanaDUer2

(14,441 posts)
2. I'm glad to hear that good luck
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:03 PM
Apr 2021

I have a great therapist and psychiatrist. I just get so far gone sometimes, even with meds

TygrBright

(20,987 posts)
3. I've spent a fair amount of time where you are...
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:06 PM
Apr 2021

I call it "worst case scenario hell" in which I can go from zero to Apocalyptically Bad Outcome in .0018 seconds in virtually every situation.

Keep reminding yourself it's your jerkbrain fuckin' witcha... not objective reality, no matter how much the cortisol in your system argues agin that.

Take walks outdoors if you can. Or just sit outdoors someplace pleasant, and concentrate on steady breathing for a few minutes.

Therapy does help.

This, too, can pass.

Holding you in the Light.

sympathetically,
Bright

SheltieLover

(59,930 posts)
8. Yw!
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:22 PM
Apr 2021

I've posted this before & several folks replied, saying it really helped them!

Another nice feature: as soon as very brief registration is completed, the first week's videos are immediately available!

SheltieLover

(59,930 posts)
13. Joke is that
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:44 PM
Apr 2021

I'm in red hellhole TN. But I have my own home, food, utilities, all I need. So I'm grateful for these aspects.

Have you ever done a gratitude journal?

SheltieLover

(59,930 posts)
24. It's a great practice to jumpstart & maintain positivity,!
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 06:56 PM
Apr 2021

Write 3 things you are grateful for each night just before bed, then reread list from start to end.

Entries can be anything such as sunshine, new shoelaces, or the name of a 0erson ypu are grateful for. 👍

Karadeniz

(23,483 posts)
11. I suggest reading Many Lives, Many Masters. Highly reputable psychiatrist author. His patient
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:59 PM
Apr 2021

Sounds like your twin! It might help you find a more beneficial therapy! All the best to you! You always have friends here!!!

MFM008

(20,008 posts)
12. welcome to my world.
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:37 PM
Apr 2021

These past 6 months or more have been a nightmare.
They have tried medication after medication.
They just seem to make things worse.

Response to MFM008 (Reply #12)

hamsterjill

(15,522 posts)
19. I (personally) believe that meds are prescribed too often
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 12:56 PM
Apr 2021

I’ve been offered meds before and have chosen not to get started. I prefer to try to “deal with” things (bad choice of words, I know - and this applies only to me) as naturally as possible. Concrete things like breathing and sunlight, talking to anyone who will listen, and trying to write things down.

My story isn’t anyone else’s story and we are all unique and different. Just wanted to send a waive and a hug. Hang in there.

hamsterjill

(15,522 posts)
18. Fear is hard.
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 12:52 PM
Apr 2021

I feel like I’m on an adrenaline drip these days. It’s always something. Much of it is real life situation - like being unemployed and facing some major, major home repair issues.

I wish I could run away. Add COVID to life issues (for all of us) and no wonder we are all about to crumble.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other. One step at a time. Sit down and breathe when you need to, but always get back up.

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