that your DU family is here for you.

Right now I just don't feel like talking to her at all

I've been in a similar situation - twice. Needless to say I definitely began to question my taste and judgement when it comes to men.

I gave up. I don't recommend that to anyone else.

Be kind to yourself.

I will join with Siwsan: Be kind to yourself.

Allow yourself to grieve. Losing what you thought was your future can be hard.

That you are seen and heard. Love and more love to you. 💗💗🙏

You will get past this disappointment. It will take some time, but you will get past it.

That does stink. I will second what was said above about losing what you thought was your future and allowing yourself to grieve.

Virtual hugs to you

I know you were excited for this. What she did is unnecessarily cruel. You are a privilege, not a convenience.

Be gentle with yourself. Your momma is likely feeling protective of you and probably saw things others didn't. Still, it's okay to set a boundary with her. Now's not the time to pile on the "I never liked her" stuff. You need time and space to feel all of your feelings and eventually begin healing. Until then, momma should take care too be more gentle. After all, you had a cruel thing done to you, but it's difficult to just turn on the hatred for someone you loved and thought you would marry.

She hates most people I'm friends with too. But that's how shes always been with me.

I have always felt such a connection with you … I lived in Amarillo… graduated high school there … and left there in 1988 … living there was such a struggle… still have family there …

I know that doesn’t help your hurt heart today, sweet vercetti, just know that you have been such a sign of strength to people you don’t even know …

Today, all I can do is send you virtual hugs

I'm tired of being here. We had plans to move to Colorado. But now thats likely over

Moved there when I was 12 … left there for good (in an out about 7-8 times)

Finally heard that if you wore a pair of shoes out, you couldn’t leave, so I bought a ton of new shoes and left Amarillo for good on January 1, 1989 …

left Texas in 1992, after I worked my ass off getting Ann Richards in the statehouse …

Marched down Congress in Austin with 20,000 others, taking it back for the people …

After I left, Karl rove did his level best destroying all that was good in texas

i'm so sorry you are going through this.

And then tried to gaslight your feelings by saying YOU weren’t committed enough? You may not want to hear this, but please do not continue to date her. This is manipulative and emotional abuse. You want a lifetime of that? Run now and find someone who deserves you.

And - I’m so sorry this happened to you. Been there and sending virtual hugs of comfort and strength.

I just want to hope that maybe she got nervous

Life doesn't always give us perfect options, but I would rather be single that committed to someone who wasn't committed to me.

Imagine 20 years from now, and you develop a health condition that makes things difficult. Now imagine that she decides she didn't sign up for the issues.

I know of more than a few situations where this happened. On the other side, I know of more that a few women that have stuck with men in difficult times when they should have ran and ran fast.

I just celebrated my 45th with a woman I truly love, so happy endings are possible. The secret to a happy marriage is being the type and marrying the type that want, each day, to try and make life better for the one they love.

Time is the medication.
The short term day to day fix.....
Get down to the gym or start running. Today.

May you find answers if possible.

In the meantime, be good to yourself. The woman for you has not met you yet.

It's one thing to have what you think is a loving relationship. It's another thing to be legally married and stuck with someone who is not who you think they are and it takes years and a lot of money you don't even have to legally sever the relationship. I wish your spirit lightness when your grief eases and you realize you are free of her.

... there have been wonderful replies here. Just know that you are not alone, and please let us hear how you are doing.

Most her friends are not happy with her. So they've been blowing up my phone. But I told them I just need time and a lot of ice cream and snacks to binge on

I broke up with the love of my life in July, this year. We had been together for over 10 years. When my marriage broke up in 2011, we reconnected after a 30 year hiatus, She was taking care of her mom and her daughters were living out of state. She was lonely, as I was, and the flame was quickly rekindled.

But daughters eventually returned, she became a grandmother3 times over. In the meantime my ex passed away and I had to move back to my place in Central Maine - place needed a lot of work and upgrades. And I needed to reconnect with my own kids as we had drifted apart for way too long. I had hoped that we'd find a common ground where we would stay 3 months at my place, then 3 months at her place, But, she is a city person and never really liked the rural lifestyle.

By July, it was obvious that she had moved on. ....so it goes. We still talk occasionally, but I realized that it was pretty much over. Still love her and have nothing but great memories of my time with her. I'm OK with my lot in life....no regrets and I truly wish her the very best with her.

C'est la vie.

worthy of total commitment. I'm with your mother... the lady doesn't seem reliable and you can't have a positive relationship with someone you can't trust to be there. I think you're lucky to have found this out before marriage. Apologies if I'm all wet!!!!

Everything was great until now. Either she put on a great facade or she was scared