Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

vercetti2021

(10,403 posts)
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:43 AM Mar 2023

I'm honestly going to have a mental breakdown this morning

I can't stand this shit anymore. I can't stand the hate towards people like me I can't fucking take it anymore and I have to come on here and get it here too. fucking nobody cares fucking no one. Trans people don't fucking matter no matter what the fuck we try to fucking do to make our community better. Nobody gives a shit about us and people are totally fucking fine with letting us get genocided off this Earth.

Whatever I'm fucking done I can't do this shit anymore I can't.

28 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
I'm honestly going to have a mental breakdown this morning (Original Post) vercetti2021 Mar 2023 OP
Know that you matter to us and many, many other people Walleye Mar 2023 #1
I'm not good with words but I see and hear you. Hope22 Mar 2023 #2
Sending you hugs, love & strength vercetti irisblue Mar 2023 #3
I can hear your pain in your words. Deuxcents Mar 2023 #4
We care. A lot of people do care and are fighting that fight. Ocelot II Mar 2023 #5
More people care about you than don't care. gab13by13 Mar 2023 #6
You are LOVED! Laffy Kat Mar 2023 #7
There are a lot of ignorant people running around. Try to see them as just that. Maraya1969 Mar 2023 #8
Get on the phone. 988 is the new number, isn't it? NT mahatmakanejeeves Mar 2023 #9
Sending hugs to you. I think I can safely say that all of us here care about you. I know I do. LoisB Mar 2023 #10
Hugs and good thoughts??? Karadeniz Mar 2023 #11
Please reach out Lifeafter70 Mar 2023 #12
You need to reach out for help with mental health professionals... virgdem Mar 2023 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author LoisB Mar 2023 #14
Try isolating from sensationalist media. usonian Mar 2023 #15
You matter to us, V! SheltieLover Mar 2023 #16
Ps - Quit watching the news SheltieLover Mar 2023 #17
This! SilasSouleII Mar 2023 #20
Nothing but histrionic shit stirring! 🤬 SheltieLover Mar 2023 #22
Please link demonstrations of "hate" from members of DU to you nightwing1240 Mar 2023 #18
You hang in there Cherokee100 Mar 2023 #19
I hear you and empathize. It is fucking maddening. Magats and Christo fascists want total control. Evolve Dammit Mar 2023 #21
You are a special, valuable, and important person Jerry2144 Mar 2023 #23
You matter. Each and every person matters. "Illigitimi non carborundum" vlyons Mar 2023 #24
vercetti, please call someone or go to the ER. I'm not ashamed to say I had a meltdown and turned to debm55 Mar 2023 #25
Please know that I care. cate94 Mar 2023 #26
Fuck that! Glamrock Mar 2023 #27
V, you are loved. Take what Glam says to heart. + a million! 7wo7rees Mar 2023 #28

Walleye

(35,678 posts)
1. Know that you matter to us and many, many other people
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:44 AM
Mar 2023

But I understand how the constant hatred can wear a person down. Please take care of yourself

Hope22

(2,878 posts)
2. I'm not good with words but I see and hear you.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:49 AM
Mar 2023

My heart goes out to you and sends you love and the strength to stay and continue to fight for what is right. Love, hugs and more love to you. 💗💗🙏

Deuxcents

(19,728 posts)
4. I can hear your pain in your words.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:53 AM
Mar 2023

It’s not comforting saying all these things will work out b/c if they ever do, it’ll take longer than anyone wants. What I can say is you are who you are..there is no one like you..not before or after you. I’m hoping you will realize how unique all of us are. Race, gender,able, disabled..we all come in different packages. The intolerance for others is the fight of our lifetimes. If you give up, they win. Don’t ever let that happen. Valentines is over but I’m sending you a heart to say I care. ❤️

Ocelot II

(120,883 posts)
5. We care. A lot of people do care and are fighting that fight.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:55 AM
Mar 2023

If you are getting shit here on DU that's unacceptable and I hope it was dealt with. Please realize that people do care, a lot. Please don't be afraid to come here.

gab13by13

(25,267 posts)
6. More people care about you than don't care.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 11:56 AM
Mar 2023

They are a loud mouthed minority.

Sending positive vibes, the Buddhists always say, this too will pass. It will pass, we are here for you.

Laffy Kat

(16,524 posts)
7. You are LOVED!
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 12:07 PM
Mar 2023

This is a community and you are loved. Your voice matters and is critically important. This country needs you. Young people especially need you.

Maraya1969

(22,997 posts)
8. There are a lot of ignorant people running around. Try to see them as just that.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 12:09 PM
Mar 2023

Most of their behavior is based on fear; they fear that which they don't understand.

I think you are a very nice person and I am really sorry you have to go through this.

LoisB

(8,672 posts)
10. Sending hugs to you. I think I can safely say that all of us here care about you. I know I do.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 12:12 PM
Mar 2023

You have my respect.

Lifeafter70

(360 posts)
12. Please reach out
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 12:37 PM
Mar 2023

This is a crisis line for trans people run by trans people. 877 565 8860.
Tho you have many here who support and respect you, that is not enough. I wish I could give you a big hug right now and tell you how much I care. I'm in tears thinking of the pain you are going through that would push you to post this. Please reach out you are important and you contribute to this world.

virgdem

(2,206 posts)
13. You need to reach out for help with mental health professionals...
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 12:59 PM
Mar 2023

I'm certain that there are suicide help lines and LGBTQ support groups that you could join. You do not have to go through this alone. I wish you peace as you go through this tough time. We do care and understand the pain and anguish that you are experiencing. Please let us know how you are doing and if you have gotten the help that you so desperately need.

Response to vercetti2021 (Original post)

usonian

(13,848 posts)
15. Try isolating from sensationalist media.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 01:23 PM
Mar 2023

That's a start. I use DU as a political news aggregator (and it can have some nerve-rattling stories at times) and being a techie, I use Hacker News to get the rest. No TV. I get classical music via apps and web streaming on an old ipod.

I play piano and take photos. Arts totally enrich life.

As for your community, that's tougher. I live in tolerant CA, albeit in a "red" district. I plan to move just because it's too isolated, and my friends are mostly 50 miles away.

See if you can associate with a supportive community. My friends are Nichiren Buddhists, the most accepting of all people (because we respect the Buddhahood inherent in every person, just needing to be recognized and lived in the real world)

Morons project their ignorance. Don't let them get you down. You have infinite potential.



nightwing1240

(1,996 posts)
18. Please link demonstrations of "hate" from members of DU to you
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:24 PM
Mar 2023

I have yet to see such a case. Most here are quite sensitive to your plight. I had a post removed because I dared show scientific fact regarding genders and their relative strength as it relates to contact sports. Will someone please tell me how and why that is insensitive.

Cherokee100

(314 posts)
19. You hang in there
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:25 PM
Mar 2023

Take it one step at a time. Don't let the sick, sad and ignorant parasites, drag you down to their level. Get your head up and keep it there.

Evolve Dammit

(18,635 posts)
21. I hear you and empathize. It is fucking maddening. Magats and Christo fascists want total control.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:32 PM
Mar 2023

And the entire GOP is good with it or silent. Reminds me of early Nazi Germany.
I'm sorry for your pain. I feel it too. Last 6 years have really sucked, and the real sad thing is, they are happy about all of it. They love to inflict pain on others. I don't know what to do either. Passports are renewed, and guns are oiled. Chili on the stove. Dog is happy unless I yell. Take care please and keep in touch.

Jerry2144

(2,619 posts)
23. You are a special, valuable, and important person
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:35 PM
Mar 2023

You matter to all of us here. We care. We need you. Our community needs you. You make the rich tapestry of life even more spectacular.

Even though this is not real Latin, it applies:

Illegitimi non carborundum

vlyons

(10,252 posts)
24. You matter. Each and every person matters. "Illigitimi non carborundum"
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:43 PM
Mar 2023

Illigitimi non carborundum is Latin for "Don't let the bastards get you down."

I'm a Buddhist. We believe that we are all stuck here in "samsara," which is Sanskrit for "suffering." But we can be liberated from suffering by letting go of our attachments to what seems pleasant and our aversions to what seems unpleasant. The operative word here being "seems." No one wants to be unhappy and suffer. Everyone wants to be happy. I guarantee you 1000% that all those dreadful hateful people out there are also miserable and unhappy.

It's not what's "out there" that makes us unhappy, but rather our point of view, what we cultivate in our mind. We can cultivate anger and hatred toward others, or we can cultivate compassion and loving kindness. The challenge for me as a Buddhist is to have compassion for everyone equally -- yes even those dreadful stupid haters, because all of us are trapped here in suffering.

My best advice is to focus on something where you work for the happiness and benefit of others.

debm55

(36,159 posts)
25. vercetti, please call someone or go to the ER. I'm not ashamed to say I had a meltdown and turned to
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:45 PM
Mar 2023

the ER. You my friend are loved here. I love you and feel for you. Turn off the news--it was making my head explode. Go for a walk. Take a nap. Please, there are people in your life that love you. Do you have a hobby? Work on that. Ease your mind, we are all here for you. I go do the Mental Health Group under topics. It has also helped me. YOU are a survivor, don't give up.

cate94

(2,888 posts)
26. Please know that I care.
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 02:55 PM
Mar 2023

Please know that I want to be as supportive as possible. I think many, if not most DUers, feel the way I do. Sending love your way.

Glamrock

(11,994 posts)
27. Fuck that!
Thu Mar 2, 2023, 03:32 PM
Mar 2023

Yes you absolutely can. Transgenders are the most brave people on the planet as far as I can tell. They get up every day knowing the hatred they'll incite by being who they are, and do it anyway to be true to themselves. That means they (and by they, I mean you) have more strength than I can ever imagine having. Easy for me to say that as a white male that doesn't walk in your shoes, I realize. And I can't imagine the position you might happen to be in only because you're only trying to be your true self. However, you're stronger than you think you are. You've already proved it. You can get through this. And you have allies that understand and empathize. Fuck what "they" say, and fuck what draconian legislation they try to pass. Be proud of who you are and continue to be who you are. It isn't "their" lives to live.

Going to take the opportunity to also legitimize the fact that I'm not going through what you are going through or can even really understand what it's like to have my existence legislated almost out of existence. I own that. I do understand. Not to the extent you do or live through, but it's not out of the realm of understanding. I realize how flippant and maybe ignorant my last paragraph may be to someone from a person who doesn't live through this. THought about deleting it and moving on. But I thought I should let it stand as it is truth. Totally. Just know that some of us do try. And do have your back. And that you aren't alone in your fight.

Sincerely hope that wasn't condescending. Wasn't my intention. PM me and I'll give you my # if you need a shoulder to cry on, someone to yell at, or ya know, just wanna have a conversation.

Glam

7wo7rees

(5,128 posts)
28. V, you are loved. Take what Glam says to heart. + a million!
Fri Mar 3, 2023, 06:19 AM
Mar 2023

Many good ideas here, don't give up! We need you. All of us do.

Ms7wo7rees

Latest Discussions»Support Forums»Mental Health Support»I'm honestly going to hav...