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Not Heidi

(1,460 posts)
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 06:54 PM Jul 2023

ECT does not seem true to its promise. Damn this retrograde amnesia.

WARNING: THIS GETS HEAVY.

I started ECT on May 15. Two treatments remain: August 9 and September 6. I posted about this in the Lounge on June 21. https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181839933

I have been told by many mental health professionals that my depression will lift and my memory will return. If I had to give my verdict today, it would be one word: bullshit.

It's bad enough that I am experiencing no relief, not at any level, from my depression.

But the retrograde amnesia is killing me. There's not enough time on earth for me to list all that I've forgotten, but it ranges from little things (how to get somewhere I've driven to a thousand times) to astonishingly huge things. One of these was that I had to ask my best friend, whom I've known for nearly 30 years, and who lives a thousand miles away, if he attended my 60th birthday party. (He did, of course.)

WARNING: HEAVY
But the thing that's laid me out flat this week is this: I could not remember how my mother died. I remembered when: December 10, 1974. But not how. So, knowing it could be a downer to get this "news," I asked my eldest sister to tell me. My mother took her own life. My sister gently reminded me of this, including describing an incident the night before mother's death - which, all things considered, I am absolutely shocked to have forgotten.

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I must insert here that something good came from my mother's suicide: my lifelong vow that I will never take my life. I've been on this miserable road since 1986 and I have never contemplated suicide, thanks to my mother.

Many of my fellow DUers have been very supportive as I've been going along with ECT, and I can't express my gratitude adequately. Thank you all, and thank you for reading this post. Only now do I realize that this essay has been searing within me for days.

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ECT does not seem true to its promise. Damn this retrograde amnesia. (Original Post) Not Heidi Jul 2023 OP
Writing it out is good. blm Jul 2023 #1
Yes. Not Heidi Jul 2023 #3
it must not have improved in decades Skittles Jul 2023 #2
omg, Skittles Not Heidi Jul 2023 #4
I think it's why I identify with migrants Skittles Jul 2023 #5
It makes perfect sense blm Jul 2023 #6
yeah Skittles Jul 2023 #7
Hang in there. Iris Jul 2023 #8
hey Skittles Jul 2023 #9
Sorry, Skittles Not Heidi Dec 2023 #12
I'm sorry nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2023 #10
Learning that all those superhero quotes about our medical prowess OldBaldy1701E Jul 2023 #11

Skittles

(159,374 posts)
2. it must not have improved in decades
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 07:49 PM
Jul 2023

when I was a teenager I saw my dad in hospital after electric shock treatment, and he did not know who I was

Skittles

(159,374 posts)
5. I think it's why I identify with migrants
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 09:13 PM
Jul 2023

Last edited Thu Jul 20, 2023, 10:27 PM - Edit history (1)

I was overseas....I came home from school and my dad was gone and we had to move back to the states...so then the house was gone, my school, my friends - and the next thing I know, I'm split from my family, going to school in freaking IOWA and sleeping on my aunt's couch....it is hard to lose everything, and I always wonder what it is like for people (especially the kids) who don't even know the language of the country.....

blm

(113,820 posts)
6. It makes perfect sense
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 09:42 PM
Jul 2023

for you to identify with them. When everything in front of you is strange and unknown with no clear connection and no way to turn back - you are a refugee.

Skittles

(159,374 posts)
7. yeah
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 10:22 PM
Jul 2023

while I was with relatives I didn't know them very well, we never lived near family....my aunt and uncle were alcoholics but they weren't the mean kind, so it wasn't all bad....still, whenever I read about the "angst" of the teenage years I almost laugh, considering what I had to put up with!

Iris

(16,081 posts)
8. Hang in there.
Thu Jul 20, 2023, 10:29 PM
Jul 2023

When a family member of mine went through this treatment, a friend who is a psychologist pointed out that 50 years ago, people might spend closer to a year in a hospital being treated for depression but more insurance and other considerations make that impossible and there are questions about whether that is desirable.

My point here is you will improve. It will take time but each day you will get stronger.

OldBaldy1701E

(6,349 posts)
11. Learning that all those superhero quotes about our medical prowess
Mon Jul 24, 2023, 04:43 PM
Jul 2023

Are just propaganda is tough. I know I have gone through so much only to find that when I sought out help, it was not there. Usually due to a lack of wealth, since those who offer actual mental help do not take insurance. But, I can say that from this position it seems as if they are more guessing than spouting facts when they offer these ideas for 'treatment'. I hope you can find something that will help you. I am still looking and it pains me that so many others are in the same boat. Or, drowning outside of one...

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