Mental Health Support
Related: About this forumI bit the bullet and reached out UPDATE!
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cousin PMd me and said text him my number, so I did. He finally texted me. I quickly filled him inon my upcoming tests, he was sympathetic and said let him know. So, now I have his number if there's an emergency. Thanks everyone for reading and weighing in. It's a start!
My other cousin visited yesterday, and her input about the being-ignored-by-a-relative issue was that his father, my moms brother, left their lives early on and their much closer to their mothers family. Not sure why that would effect us trying to get closer now? So, I just PMd him asking for his number, and that I'm going in for diagnostic tests.
And that's going to be it for me. He'll either respond or not, if he sees the message. My cousin, female, said the most we can hope for would be a lunch with him. No in-house visiting him and his family. I thought about this input. I think she's right. So, I reached out, need to let go of my happy-family-reunion fantasies.
He has a large house on The Island, btw. He's. Not in a 1-room shack. But I'm not pushing anymore. If I do have serious health issues, I may not even share them with him at this point. Oh, he'll probably be sad, but I'm kinda over it. My fantasies are just that I realize
onecaliberal
(35,889 posts)Knowing can be half the battle.
XanaDUer2
(13,978 posts)I was able to interact with other relatives last night, one at length, so that's something
onecaliberal
(35,889 posts)XanaDUer2
(13,978 posts)But I decided to just do it. My mom took his father in and supported him for years
onecaliberal
(35,889 posts)You have to think of yourself first and foremost.
XanaDUer2
(13,978 posts)After my cousin and I spoke, I'm more prepared now for whatever may come
niyad
(120,041 posts)can give you some hope.
It is my personal opinion that the fantasy image of "happy family" drummed into us by media, "experts", etc., is responsible for a great deal of unhappiness, anxiety, etc. One of my favourite sayings comes from a shrink: "95% of all families are dysfunctional."
XanaDUer2
(13,978 posts)I was hoping, should I ever need some help (homelessness) I could reach out for support. My mom helped their dad for decades. So, as usual, I'm on my own. Very lonely feeling. I'd love to meet his family, they're very well off. I just adored him and his sister as a kid. Lifetime ago
Goddessartist
(2,067 posts)of love. For what it's worth, I can't count on anyone in my family either, really.
What island?
XanaDUer2
(13,978 posts)I need a big supportive family and i don't have one
Goddessartist
(2,067 posts)you're on the other side of the country!
You can message me anytime. I can be a part of your virtual family. I come from a big family, but have never really been supported, in fact have been attacked over and over again. That has slowed down with the passing of our Mom, but it's still there - childhood PTSD - continued abusive patterns. 3 are very wealthy, while I am trying to get disability. My lawyers are on it. My sweetheart takes care of me, but we have to borrow money. I suppose I should sell some art.