Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

XanaDUer2

(13,602 posts)
Sat Mar 2, 2024, 06:00 PM Mar 2024

SO can't go a day wo a health complaint

My partner can't go one day without talking about a pain , ache. I have jaw problems, now he does. His mouth was open too long for tooth removal. Or, its his constant back problems. Spasms. Insomnia. I've been hearing this for 25 yrs.
I asked if we can go one day without him talking about his health. He can't. He does have problems.

I have health anxity and this is severly affecting my mental health. I asked him can we go one day. He said not if his tooth hurts. I try to tune it out. If he dies, he dies. He smokes and has barrett esophagus and drinks booze.

5 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
SO can't go a day wo a health complaint (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 OP
Sympathy goes your way. It IS hard work. Aussie105 Mar 2024 #1
Its tiresome XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #2
25 years? MotownPgh Mar 2024 #3
I told him he'll be very sick XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #4
Tell him Timewas Mar 2024 #5

Aussie105

(6,193 posts)
1. Sympathy goes your way. It IS hard work.
Sat Mar 2, 2024, 06:07 PM
Mar 2024

My wife of 36 years now aged 80 has sunk away into the world of self-pity with aches and pain by the score.
Plus fast approaching senility/dementia.
Treats me like servant/slave, not a spouse. Needs constant attention.

But yes, 'If he dies, he dies' . . . you get to that stage.

Bear with it, try to remember the good times.
Try to find time and space to keep yourself sane and maintain a balanced view. Not easy.




XanaDUer2

(13,602 posts)
2. Its tiresome
Sat Mar 2, 2024, 06:13 PM
Mar 2024

He pays rent and bills. Id be in trouble if he died. But I'm still sick of it. You have my sympathies. I sometimes think he does it on purpose. He also abuses prescriptions

Latest Discussions»Support Forums»Mental Health Support»SO can't go a day wo a he...