Unless you go to church or have a hobby that takes you out among other people with the same hobby, there aren’t many choices. I think you’re brave to put yourself out there. Besides my husband, I just have email friends, and I’m grateful for them. Be careful, and good luck!

They said "lunch' is a code word for swingers

Would kind of be hard to talk to him if normal words were codes for something else.

Now I know. Within the context of my entire post, however, it seemed pretty clear what/ who I was looking for

Wouldn’t your significant other be jealous if you had a male friend? My husband would be.

I was looking for a female to visit library programs, etc. I said female, 50s and 60s. Yet xxx men hopped on me. I was not in a sex/ swingers forum.

You’re certainly doing your best to find friends. I’ve never been that outgoing and I envy your bravery, even though the results are not working out so far.

Hopefully that'll weed out XXX

So the XXX men hopefully leave me alone.

But, this is the internet... home of Rule 34!

Good luck. It is not impossible, just very difficult because of all the 'weeding'...